Stay At home Mom's in your 20's!

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What do you do?

Poll ended at Sat May 24, 2008 6:33 pm

Stay at home?
20
69%
Work more than 30 hours a week? (Full-time)
5
17%
Work less than 30 hours a week? (Part-time)
4
14%
 
Total votes : 29

Stay At home Mom's in your 20's!

Postby MegsRemainsHopeful » Sun May 04, 2008 6:33 pm

Hey ladies! I am just curious what worked for you in order to stay at home to raise your children?? My dh and I have been having this discussion and trying to see if we can't figure it out... I think he's so worried about loosing my income he doesn't think we can do it. (When that time comes...)

Also, I am not against working, part-time, but I want to raise my kids... KWIM?? Am I totally looney??

Thanks!

Sorry, I edited to fix the poll thingy...
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Postby Hunni » Mon May 05, 2008 12:29 pm

as of right now i stay at home i'm still on mat leave til september, after that we're trying to figure out if i'll still be able to stay hom. DH is trying to get into a new career which would bring in more money my job doesn't pay alot anyway and is only part time. plus i'm looking into working from home, trying to find one of those work from home things that's not a scam. because i really don't want to go back to work.
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Postby MegsRemainsHopeful » Mon May 05, 2008 1:06 pm

Thanks ladies for your responses! My dh and I talked about me wanting to be a SAHM and he was all for it, still is really, but like I said I just don't think he can look past the whole loosing my income thing...

Brunnittc, question. You're working at a school system but you are Medical Transcription certified?? I thought that may be a joke... I type really fast and would not mind it, if is pays decent. KWIM??

Hunni, My dh is trying to get into a new career as well that will bring more money too and says that in a couple of years I could stay home but until then I probably could not. I'm like okay, let's wait. He's like no, we've already been trying off and on for the last two + years that he doesn't want to put off trying any longer... AHHH!!! LOL I too would love to work from home and I'm wanting to find something that I could or even just work part time, like two or three days a week in the morning, out of the thome. That's fine by me. I'm sure I'll want GET ME OUT OF THE HOUSE time anyways...

I'm looking forward to hearing what others are doing as well!! :-)
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Postby astrila » Mon May 05, 2008 1:36 pm

Before you think you can't afford it, you might want to look into the cost of childcare. Unless you're making a lot, it's often about the same as your salary would be! So really you're not losing much.

I'm planning to a SAHM. Even if my DH didn't make that much, I'd rather be poor and never eat out and not going on trips or anything than miss those precious years with my kids! After all, why are we TTC so badly? So we can give birth, then give them to someone else and only see them an hour a day? No way! I might as well just be an aunt! I think raising your own children is definitely worth the cuts. Turn off the cable, cancel the Netflix and gym memberships, start a veggie garden, whatever you need to do to make ends meet.

I've actually been a SAHW for the past few years because after I graduated every month I keep thinking "Well, I'm going to be pregnant soon so I don't want to start anything...". But after 2 years now I realize it might be awhile, so I'm going back to work now, but I'm planning to quit once I get into the 2nd trimester.
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Postby Taffy » Wed May 07, 2008 12:59 pm

I will do what it takes to SAH. I started working part time at a daycare/preschool and there is NO WAY I would ever put my child there!!!

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Postby MegsRemainsHopeful » Fri May 09, 2008 5:38 am

Thanks ladies for your thoughts!!!

Astrila, I know the price of daycare is HIGH and I REFUSE to put my child into any old place as it would be all I could afford... Dh agrees so we are at least on the same boat when it comes to that.

I'm just so excited others feel the same as me!!! I know there is no right or wrong answer here it is just nice to share the same view with others my age!! :-)

Taffy, I too worked in a daycare for over 2 years and REFUSE to put my child into a traditional daycare... If I cannot hold and love my baby, I want someone I trust and can count on to do it.

Ah, I guess I need to stop worrying about this until I am at least pg... LOL
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Postby Taffy » Fri May 09, 2008 1:53 pm

Haha... I find myself worrying about things, too. Then I remember... I'm not pregnant yet.

Hopefully we will be soon!!!
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Postby flipflip » Mon May 12, 2008 5:53 pm

I have sort of a unique situation....My husband and I don't live together...I live in our house, and he lives 16 hours away, in a work camp. He is gone for 3 weeks out of the month. So I will be a stay at home mother....I'm a stay at home mom to our dogs right now LOL (I did get a job but my dogs did more damage to my house than my wages were worth) This won't be forever, but it will be at least the next 5 years. We figure better to do it now (where he works the pay is 4 times greater than if he worked at home) and be able to afford a home and things for our future child(ren).....
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Postby bellaboo16 » Tue May 13, 2008 1:01 pm

I am a realtor and I do most of my work from home office anyway. Also DH has a home-building business and he owns an electrical contracting company, so he does a lot of work at his home office too. Luckily, we have the finances and the ability to make our own schedules so it's not going to be a problem. However, I am most likely going to stay at home full time once we do get pregnant because I also help DH do all the office work for his businesses, which can take up a lot of time anyway. Also, I was a full time pre-k teacher for a while, and I have to say that 1.) pre-school and daycare are so worth it, just find the right one. The kids who go there are definitely way ahead of the ones who do not, both with their smarts and just the socilaizing aspect. Also, 2.) in my area (northeast PA), if you meet the income requirements yuo can qualify to go to daycare almost free. I don't know if this is everywhere, but it's something like coordinated child care. I am going to be a SAHM but I will still send my child to preschool once he/she is around 3, at least for half a day a few days a week.
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Postby MegsRemainsHopeful » Thu May 15, 2008 4:00 pm

Thanks ladies for your continued input!!! :-) I am really e njoying reading everyone's response!

Sugarstar, I'm just curious... What in the world does your dh do for a living? :-) Only home once a month. Interesting.

Bellaboo, I agree that daycare does help in socializing and all and I too will put them in PART-TIME when they are 2-3 years old. Or, I'll just be really involved in like a mommy group or something. I don't have a problem when they are older and are more independent and can vocalize what's going on out of my care. KWIM?? :-) They daycare I worked at nothing like SBS happened it just was the normal "too many kids and not enough workers" along with a bunch of workers that could care less and taughtt he children inapprorpate things such as words and sayings... THAT is my concern...

Bunnittc, I'll look at that Medical Transcriptionist site and see what I can't find! :-) Thanks!!!

Taffy, I'm so glad I'm not the only one worrying about things before they happen!!! :-) I'm usually, really, such a laid back person with out a care in the world but when I think about MY baby it's a totally different story!!! LOL
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Postby flipflip » Thu May 15, 2008 6:08 pm

I am what they call an "oil wife" :) My husband works on the biggest machinery in the world, at an oil plant in a remote region of Canada...Keepin' gas/oil flowing to Canada, the US and overseas...I used to also work up there, but I left because it was way way too cold (-60 C) and too remote...so he commutes back and forth on his days off.
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Postby lalalola » Fri May 16, 2008 9:02 pm

I have always wanted to be a SAHM and DH completely supports me and my decision to do that. He might actually take a paternal leave for the first few months so that we can enjoy our babys first months of life together.
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Postby jessik » Sun May 25, 2008 1:11 am

When I had my son April 07 I went to work in Juy 07 and decided my place is at home in Sept 07. I have been SAHM since then. I LOVE it. Im a photographer- and I work when I feel like it. I work a couple hours here and there & money is good. It takes a lot of work to get to this point but its so worth it to stay home with my son. :wink:
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