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So sad ttc #1

Postby Christine1 » Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:19 pm

I just turned 30 years old ttc#1
Very sad I've been crying all morning, I'm due for my period on Sunday the 15th and I tested today because I couldn't resist and BPN it was my last test and I am never taking another test again until I'm over a week late with my period! I don't understand I did everything right this month it's my second month ttc but really the first using opk and trying the whole week before the positive opk the day of and 2 days after. I'm so frustrated and depressed I do get ovarian cysts that go away on their own. I just am scared something is wrong like why didn't this happen? I know it takes time they say for some people, but of I did everything right what the hell? I keep hearing how everyone else is pregnant... Thanks for allowing me to vent. Best of luck to all of you!
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Postby maddy » Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:41 pm

I know how you are feeling. I just turned 33 the other day and it sucks.
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Postby manders04 » Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:39 pm

I understand exactly how you feel. I am also 30, and on my second cycle TTC (just waiting to O). My first cycle I had convinced myself I was pregnant, and I took an EMBARRASSING number of pregnancy tests, only for AF to show up. :oops:

I agree, waiting to test until AF is really (really) late sure would save a ton of heartbreak. It is just so hard to do....
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Postby Christine1 » Fri Jan 13, 2012 6:56 am

It is very hard, but I am going to try and be strong! I am not believing symptoms anymore either, because I could have sworn I had every one of them.
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Postby carriehack1111 » Fri Jan 13, 2012 7:56 am

I am 29, going to be 30 in December and my OB-GYN says it takes the average couple atleast 6 months. Don't get too discouraged yet.
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Postby kez71 » Sat Jan 14, 2012 2:27 am

it may not seem like it..but there's not many people who get preg on their first try..most people take several months and even years. Its just the way it is..nothing you have done wrong. Its wayy too early to worry theres something wrong yet.

yeah, ignore symptoms..every month you will think this is it as preg symptoms and AF symptoms are very similar

don't be discouraged..you only just turned 30..plenty of time!!
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Postby Mandy429 » Wed Jan 18, 2012 2:39 pm

I have been ttc for 8 months now and never thought it would take this long. I turn 36 next week and the ticking clock has become the enemy. It will happen though; hope is not lost!
Me 39; DH 41; TTC #1 since June 2011
Sept 2012: Diagnosed w/ POF/DOR FSH 20, AMH .1
Jan 2013: CD 3 FSH 5.8, AMH .34
Feb & April 2013: medicated IUI's failed
IUI #3 6/24/13; 3 follies; BFP 7/5/13! 14 DPO Beta 406 /16 DPO Beta 968
MC 12w3d 9/5/13
IUI #4 11/15/13; 4 follies; BFN
2/16/14: Start IVF Microdose Flare; converted to IUI #5 due to 1 dominant follicle; BFN
4/12/14: Start IVF Antagonist Protocol with Estrogen Priming; converted to IUI #6 due to dominant follie; BFN
June 2014: IVF Antagonist with Estrogen Priming, ER 2 eggs retrieved, both fertilized with ICSI;
3 day ET 2 grade A embies; BFN
3/15: IVF embryo banking with Dr Sher 1 snow baby so far
5/15: Second banking cycle with Dr Sher
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Postby Ravyndancer » Wed Jan 18, 2012 3:56 pm

Hey ladies!

I am turning 38 on Sunday and I have never been pg and have never TTC. Started sort of trying in June. I just didn't want to obsess over it. But we didn't time BD'ing too well. i don't think we've actually ever HIT O day! LOL. But I want BDing to be fun and spontaneous and I don't want DH to feel like it's a science experiment. But from now on, I'm just going to not say anything and just try to seduce him right before O :mrgreen:

Anyway, Christine: I suggest you watch The Great Sperm Race parts 1-6 on youtube. I watched it for the second time the other night. On the one hand, I felt a bit discouraged at how difficult it is to get pg, but on the other hand.... we do want the BEST sperm to meet up with our healthiest egg!

What I learned from that show: 99% of sperm die within minutes of entering the vagina. Out of maybe 200 million sperm, a few dozen actually reach the fallopian tubes. And the ones that reach the fallopian tubes have to get there at the right time. Too early and the sperm die waiting. Too late and they've missed the egg.... So don't be too hard on yourself Christine.... you've just started TTC.... the chance of getting pregnant on any given month for healthy couples is only about 20% anyway... and so that's why we just have to keep trying.... xoxox
Me: 39 multinodular goitre, completed 3 cycles of heavy metal detox, HSG Sept 20/12 - R tube open, L was slightly blocked, cleared during procedure, exploratory lap Feb 25/13 found mild endo (2 spots) removed and tubes flushed.
DH: 40 (healthy SA!)
TTC #1 since June 2011
Clomid cycle #1 100 mg CD3-7 April 2013 = BFN
Clomid cycle #2 100 mg CD3-7 May 2013 = didn't BD during fertile window = BFN
June 2013 - 2 years TTC. I give up. No more Clomid, no more temping, no more OPKs. Distraught :(
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Postby Ravyndancer » Wed Jan 18, 2012 3:58 pm

Mandy: We're close in age, both TTC #1 since June AND we're pretty close in our cycles. :mrgreen: Let's be cycle buddies :wink:
Me: 39 multinodular goitre, completed 3 cycles of heavy metal detox, HSG Sept 20/12 - R tube open, L was slightly blocked, cleared during procedure, exploratory lap Feb 25/13 found mild endo (2 spots) removed and tubes flushed.
DH: 40 (healthy SA!)
TTC #1 since June 2011
Clomid cycle #1 100 mg CD3-7 April 2013 = BFN
Clomid cycle #2 100 mg CD3-7 May 2013 = didn't BD during fertile window = BFN
June 2013 - 2 years TTC. I give up. No more Clomid, no more temping, no more OPKs. Distraught :(
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Postby Mandy429 » Wed Jan 18, 2012 4:16 pm

Ravyndancer...sounds good! I have a good feeling about this month. I know whatcha mean abt making it not be abt a science experiment. It sure seems that way sometimes!
Me 39; DH 41; TTC #1 since June 2011
Sept 2012: Diagnosed w/ POF/DOR FSH 20, AMH .1
Jan 2013: CD 3 FSH 5.8, AMH .34
Feb & April 2013: medicated IUI's failed
IUI #3 6/24/13; 3 follies; BFP 7/5/13! 14 DPO Beta 406 /16 DPO Beta 968
MC 12w3d 9/5/13
IUI #4 11/15/13; 4 follies; BFN
2/16/14: Start IVF Microdose Flare; converted to IUI #5 due to 1 dominant follicle; BFN
4/12/14: Start IVF Antagonist Protocol with Estrogen Priming; converted to IUI #6 due to dominant follie; BFN
June 2014: IVF Antagonist with Estrogen Priming, ER 2 eggs retrieved, both fertilized with ICSI;
3 day ET 2 grade A embies; BFN
3/15: IVF embryo banking with Dr Sher 1 snow baby so far
5/15: Second banking cycle with Dr Sher
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Postby Ravyndancer » Wed Jan 18, 2012 6:52 pm

I know! I don't want it to be mechanical. This scientist on the Great Sperm Race was also talking about how when a man is super aroused and really into it and having 'gourmet' sex, he ejaculates up to 50% more and they come from deeper inside resulting in better quality sperm, compared to a guy who may be having boring, routine sex.... and ejaculates 50% less than the guy who's REALLY in to it... made me stop and think. Do we really need to have sex every day leading up to and right after O if that BD'ing is kind of 'forced'? So I'm going to try for better TIMED BD'ing that may occur less frequently, but is of hotter quality :wink:
Me: 39 multinodular goitre, completed 3 cycles of heavy metal detox, HSG Sept 20/12 - R tube open, L was slightly blocked, cleared during procedure, exploratory lap Feb 25/13 found mild endo (2 spots) removed and tubes flushed.
DH: 40 (healthy SA!)
TTC #1 since June 2011
Clomid cycle #1 100 mg CD3-7 April 2013 = BFN
Clomid cycle #2 100 mg CD3-7 May 2013 = didn't BD during fertile window = BFN
June 2013 - 2 years TTC. I give up. No more Clomid, no more temping, no more OPKs. Distraught :(
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Postby MrsR » Sun Jan 22, 2012 1:49 am

Christine,
I know how you feel; I started TTC at 29 and was REALLY sure I was pregnant during the cycle before I turned 30. Then AF arrived 4 days later and I was pretty angry and upset. Also everyone around me seemed to be getting pregnant easily! I shouldn't have set myself such a silly target of being pregnant by 30 - but we all do these things, don't we?!
I'm now on month/cycle #6 and while I know it's easy to worry, I try to focus on the stats: 30% pregnant by 3 months, 50% by 6 months, 90% by 12 months. Of course we all worry about being one of those 10%. But even 5% of those couples will conceive in the second year of trying.
I didn't think it would take so long, either. What can we do but keep trying?
Keep your chin up, too!
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Postby kitcat1105 » Fri Jan 27, 2012 6:46 pm

One thing I've learned in this whole process...and let me tell you...I'm right in the thick of it...is that your actual age doesn't necessarily mean too much. My RE explained to me that there are some women in their 20's with low ovarian reserve or high FSH (premature meno), and there are women in their 40's who have great numbers. Just because you turn 30 doesn't mean you're in a bad position. Likewise, when you hit 35, your fertility doesn't fall off a cliff. Those are just statistics, and we are all unique!
I worried so much when I started fertility testing that my age was going to be a major factor, but my numbers turned out to be right where they should be for my age.
I'm not going to suggest anyone try to relax or tell you that you've only been trying a short time...that's no consolation to anyone who wants a baby, and that's why we're all here, right?
When I was only on cycle 7, someone read my frustrating post, and responded with a very mean-spirited response that was like, "Oh, you're only ttc for 7 months, you'll be pregnant in no time!" It really stung and made me feel like I didn't have the right to feel upset.
If you're trying for 1 month or 17 months (like me), we all have the right to feel stressed and nervous.
If anything, I've been through every emotion and hope to share some comfort.
I believe I will get pregnant eventually. My everyday mantra is "good things come to those that wait."
Best of luck to you.
PS. I feel like I finally know myself in my 30's. Welcome to the wonderful club! :D
Me 35 DH 41 TTC since Oct 2010
"Unexplained Infertility"
1st IUI March 4th (50 mg. clomid) - BFN
2nd IUI end of April (50 mg. clomid) - BFN
3rd IUI end of May (50 mg. clomid) - BFN
4th IUI June 18 (50 mg clomid) - BFN
August IVF
ER Thurs 8/9!
5 DT Tuesday 8/14- Transfered 1 5 day blast, 3 potential frosties
Beta Fri Aug 24th -bfn
On a break I guess. Thinking about getting a lap done.

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Postby SJ15 » Wed Feb 01, 2012 9:52 pm

Kitcat--I know your response wasn't towards me, but I loved it. I, too, am ttc #1 at age 30. It's been hard, stressful, embarrassing, frusterating, emotional and wonderful all in the FIRST month we've been trying. I follow a good friend of mine's blog who is infertile. She has written several posts on what you should never say to someone who is infertile. I've learned that a lot of them transfer right over for it you are ttc. In just this one month I can't tell you how many times I wanted to hit someone when they said "oh, don't get your hopes up, it's only your first month" well what's the point in "trying" if I don't hope? It's like when people tell me to "get used to it" when my husband deploys or is gone for training. No, I am never going to "get used" to my husband being gone and I'm never going to "not get my hopes up" for a nice BFP. :)

Anyway, just a rant from an emotional ttc #1 newbie!
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Nice to hear other 30+ TTC journies

Postby Eggplant » Tue Feb 07, 2012 5:40 pm

It's nice to have a safe place to vent! We've been officially TTC for 6 months, but had a few chemical pregnancies before then and one since. I also have a friend who just conceived on the first try at age 37. I'm completely thrilled for her, but it makes me want a baby so badly. After several chemicals I kind of wonder if it's possible.
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