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Does it ever get easier:(

Postby kimk0621 » Tue Nov 06, 2012 8:07 am

Today pretty much sucks about as much as it possibly can. I don't think this will ever get easier. As many of you know we have tried pretty much everything and still not pregnant. This past month every time I turn around someone else is announcing they are pregnant. Well today here we go again. My boss has 2 kids from her previous marriage and is now married again. She had her tubes tied 10 years or so ago and then her new hubby wanted kids. So 3 months ago she had the reversal and they did an IUI and well today she brings in cupcaks to announce she is pg. Of course that's all the talk of the office is today. My heart is completely broken and the tears just won't stop. I would give anything right now to crawl into a deep hole and just hid from the rest of the world. How do you deal with this and will the hurt ever stop? I don't know how to deal with everyone else getting what i want so bad. :cry:
Me 36 DH 32 TCC Aug 2010-Oct 2011 4 IUI's all BFN. Ivf Journey Sept 21 cx due to very high e2 levels 10/27:( IVF #2 ER1/28/12 antagonist protocol transfer 2/3 9 eggs retrived and 4 fertilized! BFN 2/14--devasted IVF #3 April 20th 7 eggs retrive 6 fertilized Transfer April 25th 2 Grade 4aa embies 1 frozen
Beta #1 May 7 BFN, met with dr and have been told unexplained fertility, PCOS and endo. Not having much hope:(

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Re: Does it ever get easier:(

Postby Maz882 » Sat Nov 10, 2012 6:05 am

So sorry Hun, it's so so hard to hear other people's pregnancy announcements and it always comes at the wrong time. Thinking of you xx
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Re: Does it ever get easier:(

Postby StephW » Sat Nov 10, 2012 9:33 am

Big hugs to you! I know it's so hard to hear of other people's BFP, when we're struggling so much! It sucks even more to hear of women who already have kids, like your boss, and then get pregnant again so easily! I totally understand where you're coming from. I find myself being happy for first time moms (especially in our age bracket) but less so for moms who are having their 3rd, 4th...I know there is no personal vendetta against me, but when you're having a hard time getting pregnant with your 1st, it's very hard to see others having one after another. Try to stay positive, but also remember that it's ok to cry. Sending you more baby dust! :-)
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Re: Does it ever get easier:(

Postby Marvi » Thu Dec 06, 2012 7:14 pm

I hear you. It seems as though everyone I know keeps getting pregnant except me. I'm tired of seeing all of their bellies and their questioning looks. We've been trying for 1.5 years now and it's hard to ignore that feeling of envy, but you have to keep trying.

It only takes once, just tell yourself that and don't think about everyone else. I tell myself that there is a reason that it is so difficult. A very special baby is waiting to be made, you just need to be patient. :hugs:
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