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Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby ttc2012 » Fri Jan 11, 2013 6:15 pm

I am 33 years old and my husband and I started ttc this past April. Neither one of us ever imagined that it would take this long for us to conceive. I have a huge regret that we did not start ttc earlier. We got married about 3 and 1/2 years ago, and I always thought I would have a baby before our 4th anniversary.
My husband tells me to stop regretting the past and focus on the present, but it is so hard to do that, especially since every month is a bfn :( Most of my friends already have 1 child and are on their second. I would do anything for 1 right now. I am just feeling down since I am not sure when it will happen for us. Just wanted to vent.
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby sugarchik » Sat Jan 12, 2013 2:37 am

I know precisely what you mean. I'm 33 DH is 36. We've been married 2.5 years and keep reminding each other we aren't getting any younger! We both kinda wish age-wise we would have started earlier. But life happens and time gets away from you! You can't help that. Just keep trying, b/c every month counts! Every egg needs to have it's best chance possible. Dont get down! Keep yout chin up!

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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby Dee2570 » Sat Jan 12, 2013 12:19 pm

Just thought I'd say try and keep positive :)
I'm 38 and DH is 39 we've been trying to conceive for 2 and a half years and I never thought it would happen but just over two weeks ago I just found out I'm pregnant! :D
I had just about given up hope when I found out so miracles do happen, never give up hope.
Sending you lots of :babydustb: :babydustg:
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby ttc2012 » Sat Jan 12, 2013 12:41 pm

Hi sugarchik! We are the same age! My dh is 37. I know what you mean. Sometimes I get so sick of ttc, but like you said we are not getting any younger. Every month counts and by dwelling on the past wasted years, I know it is not going to help me now. I am just tired of waiting for ovulation then waiting during 2ww and then waiting for af (like I am doing now!) so that I can start the new cycle. Plus my cycle runs from 31-34 days, and it just takes more time out of my hands. But thanks for the positive words :) Baby dust to you too!!!
Hi Dee2570! Congrats on your BFP!!! Thanks for the motivation :) That is great that you never gave up hope over 2.5 years. I have been ttc since April and that feels so long! It is just so tough to stay positive when every month is a bfn. I am going to have af either today or tomorrow, so I am trying to stay positive for the next cycle. I know I am not pregnant this cycle since I had a neg blood test on 13dpo and all neg hpts at home.
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby Hanging-in-there » Fri Jan 18, 2013 8:35 pm

Wanting to make a quick post. Don't give up hope. With help I had my DS at 40 and DD at 43. DH is 2 years older. So anything is possible!
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby ttc2012 » Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:03 am

Thanks for the hopeful words Hanging-in-there! I feel that we are so old, but your story makes me feel better and that it is possible. I just have to stay positive!
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby care327 » Mon Jan 21, 2013 7:19 am

i feel the same way im 31 my dh is 32. everyone keeps sayin ' oh you have plenty of time' but i really dont feel that way at all. i feel like time is running out. we have dated since we were 12 off n on n recently got married in april he had a vasectomy reversal in may n we have been trying since. its rough =(
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby Sunshine1977 » Fri Jan 25, 2013 8:05 pm

I feel the same way! I'm about to turn 36 next month, been married for just over a year (been trying now for 11 months), and I wish when I met my husband at 32 I would have accidentally got knocked up! I'm sad about my fertility dwindling, I wish I could rewind time. We are working on baby #1 and the stupid clock is ticking...loudly! This was my first month on Clomid....wish me luck! I test in about 5 days. :)

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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby dove0813 » Sat Jan 26, 2013 5:38 pm

I completely understand how you feel. I'm 33 and having first baby in 2 mos. I was very sad
for the longest time because everyone else my age already had kids, and I felt like such
an outsider. Prayer and persistance will help you. Don't give up, my friend. God will give you
the desires of your heart, and your sadness won't be remembered anymore.
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby ttc2012 » Sun Jan 27, 2013 7:13 pm

care327- Congrats on your recent marriage! I know it feels like time is getting out of our hands, but you are still young. Sending lots of baby dust to you :)

sunshine1977- Keeping my fx for you :) I have heard of a lot of people getting bfps after starting clomid, so hope this is your lucky cycle.

dove0813- I know how you feel! I am also 33 and everyone my age already has kids. Thanks for your kind words. Wishing the same for you too :)
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby muppett » Mon Feb 18, 2013 3:13 pm

Hey guys! I feel the same way. I am 33 (husband is 35) and we are ttc #1. I just recently felt a sense of urgency to have a baby, and we just started ttc. The more I read, the more that I wish we'd started this sooner! I am on CD 1 and plan to try using an OPK for this first time this cycle. Really hoping we all get a BfP soon! :D
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby ajs313 » Mon Feb 18, 2013 3:34 pm

I feel the same way! I am turning 36 ext month and TTC#1 I am on CD2 and we are also planning on using OPK for the first time this cycle. Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone :)
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby shiftworker29 » Fri Mar 08, 2013 9:05 pm

I know exactly how you feel and you would be suprised how many women feel the same way! Although I have only been married for 7 mos, we decided to try before our wedding and here we are still today, this month marks 1 year. In the time that DH and I have been together, I have seen friends get pregnant, time and time again some 2 times! It is a hard road but in the end it will be so worth it. My advice ask your doc to do the baselind blood work first, and go fron there. My doc was really good and I think did the blood work to put my mind at ease, but came back low progesterone, so he figured PCOS, and referred me to an OB/GYN who confirmed diagnosis, and DH has low counts! So many people go years before getting help, I am glad we didn't as we now have a plan while we wait to be referred to fertility clinic!

Good luck to you all!
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby Keri37 » Thu May 02, 2013 5:15 am

Hi,
I am 37 year old and this is the second month of ttc. I am definitely closer to 40 than 30. I am very happy for the first time in my life. I got married in June 2012 to my second DH. He is wonderful. My first dh was verbally abusive and became bad after our marriage. :( I divorced him at 32 because I wanted children but couldn't stand the thought of them seeing how bad their father treated me. I took a long time to convince my current DH how important being a mother was to me even though I started dating him during my separation with my first. I do not regret anything. Period. I needed to live my life and take the journey I have taken. It has made me a better person and a better mom in the future. Don't regret spending time before ttc to build a stronger relationship with your DH or getting your masters or taking that trip to China because you've dreamed of it. You just have more life experiences and stories to tell your children or adopted children. Love your life because you have only one and find your happiness.
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Re: Wish I started TTC earlier :(

Postby Keri37 » Thu May 02, 2013 6:05 am

Very Sorry for the strong post. I am either PMSing hard or preg. I just hate seeing beautiful strong women regret the choices in their life's because that was me. I made me miserable, angry, bitter, and sad. I was a waste of my time and my life. I regretted my 20s and my early 30s until I found peace. It got me no where and it was a roadblock to the things I wanted. Please don't regret. Trying early may not have made any difference in your chances. There are women in their 20s who are having troubles so don't regret :)
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