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Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby MTbaby » Sun Apr 21, 2013 9:56 pm

I can't help but think my age had something to do with it...I was 29 when I got pregnant with my DD. I heard a static that after 35 you only have a 50% chance of taking a baby home... :omg: I hope that is not true...
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby Menehune » Mon Apr 22, 2013 12:25 am

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. Hang in there. I'm also not looking forward to my 35th birthday next month. But, I think we have to remember that statistics are just numbers. Keep hoping for the best!
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby MercyC » Mon Apr 22, 2013 8:06 am

I'm not in my 30s, so I apologize for posting out of turn, but I saw this post on the new posts list and had to comment to tell you about the Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant. It's got a whole section focused on debunking myths about fertility past 35, including the scary statistic you heard. I highly recommend it, especially if you're looking for scientifically proven facts instead of the myths that we've all heard a thousand times. I'm so sorry about your loss, and I hope this helps you.
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby MTbaby » Mon Apr 22, 2013 9:01 pm

Thank you! I will definitely look into this book. Menehune...good luck and lots of baby dust to you for your IVF!
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby Forthebirds » Tue Apr 23, 2013 6:11 am

MT-
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Its such a terrible blow... I have experienced it twice. I understand how you feel. I think of any pregnancy, you have a 40% chance of miscarrying. There are so many women here and everywhere that have babies over 35. My mom and BOTH of my grandmothers had babies well into their 40s. This happened because it was not meant to be. It's not because of you, your age or anything you did. Don't feel guilty- there will be another bundle of joy in your future and an angel waiting for you up in heaven.
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby MTbaby » Tue Apr 30, 2013 7:13 pm

Thank you! That was very sweet...I'm sorry for your losses as well. I'm terrified of it happening again. Hw long did any of you wait to try again?
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby MercyC » Tue Apr 30, 2013 8:11 pm

I didn't wait any length of time. Both of my OBs told me that for an early uncomplicated miscarriage there's no physical need to wait except until the bleeding from the mc stops (because of the small infection risk from BDing before the bleeding stops). Although, some doctors recommend waiting one full cycle because it makes their job (dating the pregnancy) easier. And others recommend waiting longer because they feel like women should take time off to recover emotionally. My attitude about it is that it should be up to me and only me as to how long I need to emotionally be ready to try again and it's not my job to make their job easier. Besides, if you're charting you can date any new pregnancy from your O date.
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby Forthebirds » Wed May 01, 2013 6:41 am

For the first one, I went back on Clomid after two cycles passed. After the second one, I was forced to wait three cycles because I had the MTX shot to abort the ectopic.

It's so hard! I wouldn't wish it on anyone. How are you holding up?
Hanna

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DH (32) - no issues, great swimmers!
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********Moving to IVF*********
November 2013- 12 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 5 fertilized- Two blasts transferred 11-7-13. One fully hatched, and one hatching. :bfp: !!!
Betas... 8dp5dt: 142 10dp5dt: 265 17dp5dt: 6,200
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby Cafe1414 » Tue Jul 30, 2013 6:04 am

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can empathize because I was in a similar situation last year. Hang in there!!!!
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Re: Almost 35 and just miscarried...

Postby Showersandrainbows » Wed Jul 31, 2013 2:20 am

I really dont think age has much to do with it. Ive had 2 miscarriages age 19 and 27, and gone on to have 2 children and now hoping for number 3 at 34...i do worry ill miscarry again this time as ive just had mirena coil removed but will have to try be as healthy as poss and hope for the best. Good luck to you, i know how crushing it is xx
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