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What's so great about a baby?

Postby tryingat39 » Fri Oct 27, 2017 8:39 pm

Im sorry that I'm coming across like this..but, help me put things into perspective. I've quit all antidepressants, all alcohol, weed, caffeine. I'm using preseed, getting my vitamins and folate, greens and a fertility diet. And guess what.. my life is really boring and dull..is a baby that great? I'll probably be fat, tired and miserable cow.

I would want my son or daughter to visit me at a nursing home when I'm old and a baby would make my mom and husband happy.. but then I think.. what if they die way before me in an atomic bomb or they get shot at a concert? Im a little depressed and discouraged.

Maybe it's not so bad if I dont end up having one. Just venting here..
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Re: What's so great about a baby?

Postby Danaa » Sat Oct 28, 2017 1:21 am

If you don’t feel mentally ready for a baby you definitely shouldn’t do it just bcs it would make your partner and ur mom happy.
Ttc can have an affect on ur mental health for sure and I think there are safe antidepressants you could take while ttc,as for the rest girl let me tell you that a cup of cup or a pizza won’t stand in ur way to get pregnant or even the occasional glass of wine,drug addicts and alcoholics get pregnant all the time.
Having a baby is that wonderful selfish thing we do,imagine that human being that growed inside of you for 9 months starting to call you mommy and then starting to cuddle you or give you a kiss or saying I love you,imagine giving to this world another human that you helped shaped and formed .
I don’t know how else to put it lol.
Do you have a dog?is very similar to raising a pup to doghood so to say,they are needy,loud,dirty,but when they sleep and you smell that puppy breath you know is all worth it.
Hope this helps.
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Re: What's so great about a baby?

Postby tryingat39 » Sat Oct 28, 2017 6:31 am

Danaa wrote:If you don’t feel mentally ready for a baby you definitely shouldn’t do it just bcs it would make your partner and ur mom happy.
Ttc can have an affect on ur mental health for sure and I think there are safe antidepressants you could take while ttc,as for the rest girl let me tell you that a cup of cup or a pizza won’t stand in ur way to get pregnant or even the occasional glass of wine,drug addicts and alcoholics get pregnant all the time.
Having a baby is that wonderful selfish thing we do,imagine that human being that growed inside of you for 9 months starting to call you mommy and then starting to cuddle you or give you a kiss or saying I love you,imagine giving to this world another human that you helped shaped and formed .
I don’t know how else to put it lol.
Do you have a dog?is very similar to raising a pup to doghood so to say,they are needy,loud,dirty,but when they sleep and you smell that puppy breath you know is all worth it.
Hope this helps.


Thanks Danaa..maybe it's my depression sneaking back up that's talking more than anything. We have 3 dogs, one of them I raised since it was tiny pup, so I do know the joys of puppy motherhood. Dogs are way easier though.

I just feel like some of us should really think about this...do you want your whole life to change to dedicate to a baby? I'm speaking for myself. I know there's women out there that can manage their lives with kids. Me, for example, I'm a pole fitness enthusiast but I just hurt my shoulder, which is making me even more depressed. Imagine if i couldn't do that anymore?? I will be missing sleep, broke, worried about a crying baby or screaming with poopy diapers..yes babies are extremely cute but they're difficult.

I'm probably too overwhelmed to think straight. I also feel terrible for so many women going through procedures, miscarriages etc.. I honestly don't think it's worth that. If I have a miscarriage, which I know is highly probable at my age, if I ever get pregnant, I'd be mad, especially at like 10 or 14 weeks.

Also you say alcoholics and drug addicts have babies..well not really at my age. You have to be extremely careful, so I can't hit the pen or spark up a blunt right now because of research. I'm not a big drinker so no worries there..and as far as antidepressants...what's really safe??
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Re: What's so great about a baby?

Postby Danaa » Sat Oct 28, 2017 7:32 am

You are probably overwhelmed with everything or you are just not ready for a baby.
Imagine you find out tomorrow that you are pregnant,will you be happy?
I guess ready we can never be properly ready....
Such personal decision really.
I have been trough so much but i was not ready to give up.
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