Do you want a boy or a girl first?

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Do you want a boy or a girl first?

Postby IamSquishy » Fri Nov 28, 2008 2:17 am

Hey guys, I was curious, do you want a boy or a girl first, or does it not matter, and why your choice?
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Postby IamSquishy » Fri Nov 28, 2008 2:19 am

P.S. I want a boy first, simply because my husband wants to name our son after himself and his dad, so bad. I just would like to get the boy done first so it doesn't really matter to me after that.. less pressure to produce the boy if we already have him. Of course I'll be happy either way as long as I have a LO. I told my husband if we couldn't get a boy we could always adopt... I'm not sure he's okay with that though.
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Postby astrila » Fri Nov 28, 2008 11:51 am

I'm not sure... We were planning to have 2 originally, and I wanted a boy first since I thought it would be better to have an older brother rather than an older sister, and it seems kind of traditional that a boy should be born first.

But, it's been so hard for us to have even one, I started hoping for a girl first, since I absolutely want to have a girl, but a boy I could possibly pass up if necessary. I always wanted to share so many things with my daughter, so overall a girl is more important to me.

Lately though, I just don't know. If we have a girl, we may indeed only have one child then, whereas if I have a boy first, I know I'll keep trying till I also get a girl... I just don't know now...
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Postby victoria_1024 » Mon Dec 01, 2008 3:10 pm

I wanted a girl first. There are oldest girls in both my and DH's families, so we thought it would be fun to have a girl first in our family too. Also, I really want a girl at some point because I want that mother/daughter relationship!!

But it's a boy! I'm not at all disappointed, I am excited and nervous and thrilled. It's going to be a challenge for us but I can't wait!

So I guess when it comes down to it, I'll take either first! :)
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Postby IamSquishy » Tue Dec 02, 2008 12:08 am

That's exciting.. I've been wanting a girl more and more lately, but I kinda want to get the boy out of the way, because I know Jake realllllly wants a boy. I think I'll be super happy to have either... but a little girl to put in those adorable little dresses, with bows and all that... would just be amazing.
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Postby babydust2me » Wed Dec 03, 2008 1:01 pm

I would prefer to have a boy first - mainly the whole older brother thing. Of course I'm the oldest in my family. My brother didn't come until the 3rd child. And DH is the oldest in his family too, but he's not the "typical" older brother that I'd want my child to be. So I don't know. I still say I'd want a boy first, but of course I would really be happy with whatever I have. Right now I would just be happy with a blazing BFP!
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Postby wifeymaeg » Thu Dec 04, 2008 10:26 am

I don't know! I have always wanted 2 kids... and of course I'd like one of each. But lately DH and I have been talking about only having 1. With him being military and everything, we just feel it would be better to be able to shower 1 child with all of our attentions. We have talked about whether we'd prefer a boy or girl and neither of us can make a decision. I guess we'll just be happy either way!
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Postby Lisa79 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 10:21 am

I don't care which I have first :)

I think our families would like us to have a little boy, and I think DH would like a boy.
As for myself... I just want a healthy baby. Boy or girl. I would be the happiest person on earth if I could just have either.
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Postby hopingwaiting » Sun Dec 07, 2008 4:48 pm

I personally don't care as long as I have a baby. we already have names if a girl Chardonnay Iris or if a boy Ayden Norman (norman is a family name).
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Postby Mrsvincent17 » Mon Dec 08, 2008 6:50 pm

I would like a boy first and I really think my dh would aswell but As long as im pregnant and the baby is healthy it really wouldnt matter.
We already have names picked out for either.
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Postby sugarmonks » Tue Dec 16, 2008 11:00 am

i would be happy just to see a positive.... but if i could pick i would have a boy first.
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Postby chelle79 » Tue Dec 23, 2008 1:46 am

I would be happy just to have a BFP but a boy would be great!
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Postby roxysmom » Sun Jan 11, 2009 1:24 pm

DH used to always say he wanted a boy as we have planned to have just one child. But now he would be happy with either one as would I!
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Postby twomommies2626 » Mon Jan 12, 2009 11:09 am

Hi Ladies My Partner an I At this point just wants The :bfp: But I know at the beginning we started wanting a boy. I think Now she wants Twins just to be Done. LOL
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Postby ms_hollywood » Wed Jan 21, 2009 1:10 pm

Of course I don't mind which we have as long as it's healthy. But, if I had my choice, I'd want a boy first. For several reasons, the girls out number boys in my immediate family 3 to 1. My nephew is the only boy and I'd love for him to have a lil buddy to play with. I also would prefer to have an older brother for my next child. And, the hubby REALLY wants a boy (as most dads 2 be do). The funny part is that he wants a boy but he's not sure why. He's not into sports or cars or anything "boyish". That's really more my area.

Either way, we'll love whatever He gives us.
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