Venting -- preg people who complain -- ughh!!

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Venting -- preg people who complain -- ughh!!

Postby WhitCo83 » Thu Jan 27, 2011 12:24 pm

I just went to Subway for lunch and I was standing in line behind a pregnant woman. She saw someone she knew and they congratulated her and asked her the sex of the baby. She groaned and said it was a boy. The friend got excited and the pregnant lady GROANED and said, "Do you want him?" It made me want to scream at her that I've been trying for years to have a baby and would take the little boy off of her hands with no problem. I was already depressed about TTC and then I had to watch this conversation take place. YUCK. People should be more grateful.
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Postby mc1012 » Thu Jan 27, 2011 1:16 pm

Amen sister! I have a co-worker like that. She is preggo with her second and doesnt want it and complains all the time. She knows that im ttc and having trouble and I think shes just rubbing it in...
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Postby WhitCo83 » Thu Jan 27, 2011 7:33 pm

Some people are mean like that. I wouldn't doubt it!!
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Postby Lisa79 » Fri Jan 28, 2011 7:44 am

UGH... I would've probably groaned out loud if I had heard her say that.
Some people are just so ungrateful.

I can understand complaining about being sick all the time, or being uncomfortable, but to actually ask someone if they want the baby? REALLY??

And don't even get me started on the women who didn't even want to get pregnant. It's like seriously? In this day and age with SO many forms of birth control that your stupid @ss could've used?
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Postby WhitCo83 » Fri Jan 28, 2011 12:03 pm

Oh I became a GREAT aunt yesterday since my nephew got a younger girl pregnant. I'm only 27... a great aunt before a mom.. wierd.
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Postby BBee » Tue Mar 01, 2011 6:16 pm

I remind all preggos around me that they have been BLESSED with their pregnancy. I don't care if I seem like a crazy person, its true and someone needs to remind them :)

I SWEAR that when I get my BFP and feel like crap, I will never ever ever complain!
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Postby AshnBarry » Sun Mar 06, 2011 8:10 pm

I totally understand how you girls feel. My boyfriends sister is PG and she don't want the baby... she thinks it is selfish to have time taken away from her 1st daughter, and she got PG on accident. Then my boyfriends ex had trouble getting PG, had 3 m/c and decides to complain about gaining weight and having heartburn. I see people on FB all the time saying they are soooo tired and wish they had times to there selves. My goodness it just makes me sick. They have NO idea how lucky they are. Especially if you had problems getting PG before and have some NERVE to complain.. I just don't get it... I guess I will never understand.
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Postby socialite_baby » Mon Mar 07, 2011 9:36 pm

I personally feel like when any infertile gets pregnant we have the right to complain! By then we've all gone through enough and have earned it! I think it'll be a different type of complaining though... A happy one! Oh and if I want to post daily pictures and updates of my baby bump and countdown to my due date I will because I went through hell to get there. If anyone says anything I can pull the infertility card out and tell them to suck it. That's just me though. :wink:
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Postby Lisa79 » Wed Mar 30, 2011 12:54 pm

socialite_baby wrote:I personally feel like when any infertile gets pregnant we have the right to complain! By then we've all gone through enough and have earned it! I think it'll be a different type of complaining though... A happy one! Oh and if I want to post daily pictures and updates of my baby bump and countdown to my due date I will because I went through hell to get there. If anyone says anything I can pull the infertility card out and tell them to suck it. That's just me though. :wink:



LOL right on girl! I'm gonna be the exact same way. Well maybe not the complaining part (unless it's awful), but I will be posting pictures like crazy and talking about it all the time b/c damnit! After all the crap I've had to go through, I deserve it!
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Postby chandni » Tue Apr 05, 2011 10:57 am

When I got pregnant after infertility I was soooo sick. Soooo sick. I couldn't enjoy being pregnant, I could barely even think. I just lay on the couch all day except when I was over the toilet. I wanted to be happy I was pregnant but I couldn't, it was awful. I was a zombie. It doesn't seem fair, if you suffer infertility you shouldn't also have to suffer terrible morning sickness. I wouldn't never complain in front of someone with infertility or who had had a miscarriage though. I knew I was lucky, but I couldn't think anythey else other than, "I feel like crap". :D
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Postby JessM » Sat Apr 23, 2011 10:33 am

Yeah I hate when people aren't happy to be pregnant. I understand complaining about pregnancy symptoms, just wanting the baby out etc. But when there are so many people accidentally getting pregnant and then people who want nothing more than a baby who can't...its just maddening! I feel this way too when I see people mistreating their kids. I know so many people who would do anything to have children to love, and people are so ungrateful and take their families for granted!
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Postby janessaclower » Wed Jul 27, 2011 12:32 pm

I can't stand to see people not happy about being pregnant. Or the girls that go out all the time drinking and then end up pregnant and still drink! The list could go ON AND ON!!! GL
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Postby Ravyndancer » Sat Dec 31, 2011 5:20 pm

My SIL is 5 months pregnant and she knows we've been trying for half a year, and when I told her I was going cross country skiing, she pouted and said, "I wish I could go cross country skiing!"..... I was like, "You're pregnant. Who cares that you can't go skiing? I'd trade skiing for pregnancy any day!" sometimes..... :cry:
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Postby cherimartin86 » Fri Jan 13, 2012 11:57 pm

Oh I hear ya, I was on facebook the other day and one of the girls I went to high school with was pregnant with her 4th and she was complaining that it was another boy. That irritated me! Again, I blame the hormones! :D
I am also having a hard time because my sister had an abortion about 6 months ago because she didn't want another baby. I know this is a sensitive subject, but it really hurts because I would have taken that baby in a heart beat.
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Postby Ravyndancer » Sun Jan 15, 2012 12:50 pm

cherimartin86 wrote:Oh I hear ya, I was on facebook the other day and one of the girls I went to high school with was pregnant with her 4th and she was complaining that it was another boy. That irritated me! Again, I blame the hormones! :D
I am also having a hard time because my sister had an abortion about 6 months ago because she didn't want another baby. I know this is a sensitive subject, but it really hurts because I would have taken that baby in a heart beat.


Oh boy. That's hard. Hearing about people having abortions because they don't want the inconvenience of having another baby is hard to listen to.

it's like they don't know how lucky they are to be fertile and able to bring life into the world. But you never know.... she may mourn and grieve that decision one day and I wouldn't wish that kind of guilt or pain on anyone. Not everyone can have an abortion, walk away and never think about it again....
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Clomid cycle #1 100 mg CD3-7 April 2013 = BFN
Clomid cycle #2 100 mg CD3-7 May 2013 = didn't BD during fertile window = BFN
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