Jealousy of siblings

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Postby MrsPih1024 » Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:05 pm

I understand exactly how you feel and I have had the same thoughts, feelings, etc.
Last May, my SIL (23 yr old) had told us she was pregnant. It was unplanned with her bf of about a month. Yikes. My immediate reaction was not fair! It's supposed to be us! Not her etc. Eventually, I got over myself. We were not trying at the time, but I still felt that way. I was also angry/upset with my husband since it was really him that wanted to wait.

We started trying (we are on our second cycle). Last month was a crazy roller coaster for me. Part of me wonders if I did have a chemical pregnancy... Well after I finally get my AF, my 18 yr cousin announces that she is pregnant (without trying of course).

I had the same thoughts- not fair, etc. But then I started thinking about us being pregnant at the same time and the fact that SHE is having the first grand-baby in my family. It makes me so upset! I also had selfish thoughts like, what about my baby shower? And b/c she doesn't have a job, money, etc the family is going to help her out etc.
I didn't say I was having rational thoughts! It's great that my family will be there for her, but I can't help but feel the way I do. And of course, I'm not even pregnant so who knows how they will respond.

Phew. Glad that is off my chest.
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Postby Brynn » Tue May 08, 2012 12:01 pm

I know exactly how you feel! My brother and his wife got pregnant one month after dh and I started trying... Unfortunately they did miscarry the first pregnancy but she got pregnant again the very next month and is about 5 1/2 months along now. I am happy for them of course but there is still that little "why not me??" in the back of my head. And whenever i see how cute she is pregnant I get very sad... I cried when they found out it was a girl. Dh and I have been trying for 8 cycles now and sister and her husband just started trying last month... I keep thinking "no way! Nope! My turn!" haha! She got pregnant with her daughter in like... 5 minutes... So it wouldn't surprise me if they got pregnant first. But yeah anyway YES I totally understand! It doesn't make you a bad person, it's totally understandable. Good luck!!! :)
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Postby janellev » Thu May 10, 2012 7:06 am

I know this original post is froma while ago but I know how you feel! My DH and I have been trying for over 2 years and both his Sister (who got married after we started TTC) and his brother's wife are now pregnant. His sister is due tomorrow and I want to be happy for them but something is stopping me! I am not at all a jealous person so it is driving me crazy! The other hard part is that I already had to help throw his sister's baby shower and I think I am expect to throw his brother's wife's too! I just dont know if I can do it! I dont think I can suck up all the pain and put on a happy face...honestly I dont even want to go to any baby showers right now...not even family! So frustrating!!! All we can do is pray...its in God's hands!
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