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Literally Heart broken.

Postby mellliex » Fri Oct 14, 2011 8:53 pm

So i have been ttc1 for a few months, everyone in my family knows this. So today I went to my sisters house for dinner and on her counter was a women's heath bill. Bright pink slip with the words "surgical abortion" circled. I nearly cried. I know she isn't ready for a baby, and I know its her choice, but for some reason I'm so offended by her and upset. I didn't mention it to her but I'm unbelievably hurt...is this normal?
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Postby SaraElise » Sat Oct 15, 2011 7:01 am

I think your reaction is very normal, I would feel the same way. She gave up something you wanted so badly. I'm so sorry you saw that, I can imagine it would be very upsetting.
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Postby CharlieDean » Tue Oct 18, 2011 12:55 pm

I think that's a totally normal reaction. Don't feel guilty about the way you feel - just don't outwardly react in a way you might regret, that's all. Hope you get your BFP soon!
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Postby georgie82 » Wed Oct 19, 2011 9:31 am

Oh Mel I had a similar situation but with a friend and I got mad actually just thinking about it. I completely support the option of pro-choice 100% but when its someone you know & especially if they are irresponsible its heart breaking, but its us who are ready and not them & that's what we have to remember. I hope your heart is feeling a bit better about this.
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Postby Riady » Wed Oct 19, 2011 10:49 am

I totally know how you feel even though I am 100% pro choice...I know that my younger brother has gotten 2 different girls pregnant and they have both had abortions...and his current girlfriend has also had an abortion and often when I am discussing possible symptoms she explains her symptoms to me when she was pregnant...I love them both to death and they were both really young when all this happened...but it secretly really pisses me off...when I know how hard some people really try for a baby....
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Postby edswife05 » Sun Oct 30, 2011 9:49 pm

Melliex-I hope you are feeling better about what your sister did. Maybe you could talk tp her if she is not married and let her know if she is not ready yyou are and you would be willing to raise the child as your own. That may change her mind. Sending you hugs across the miles and hoping you feel better.
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Postby Rubyru » Mon Oct 31, 2011 12:26 am

Sorry it made you feel bad. Obviously I do not know your sister but if this is not something she has shared, could she gave left it out because she needs to talk about it?
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