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Postby chrisandkarene » Fri Jun 24, 2011 2:50 pm

Dh and I are discussing number 3 but my mother in law found out and through a fit. Hubby and I both work full time.. His mom keeps the kids when we are both at work. most weeks about 30 hours a week.. when we got our surprise BFP with DS she said she wouldn't keep both kids. So I told her I would put DD in Daycare and she could keep the newborn lol well of course there was no way she would let dd go to daycare lol.

but my question is do you think I should consider her opinion? DD will be starting school in Aug 2013 but possibly Aug 2012 if I can get her in headstart.. so more than likely she wouldn't have all 3 kids at one time.

anyone else getting flack from family about ttc more kids. She says if I stayed home with the kids we could have as many as we would like but thats not an option I make really good money and support the family.. Dh works but we would die on his income even if we made alot of cuts.
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Postby babydreams22 » Sat Jun 25, 2011 10:03 am

i perfectly understand your predicament ,i have a similar problem,but you know what,am gonna go ahead with ttc am 37 age is not on my side lol!
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Postby 3shapedglasses » Mon Jun 27, 2011 5:40 pm

It sounds like you make the majority of the household income, right? What if your DH stayed home and watched the kids? If you are going to use her as daycare then I think you should take her feelings into consideration or use a different daycare.
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Postby echam602 » Mon Aug 08, 2011 10:42 am

iwanta09baby wrote:It sounds like you make the majority of the household income, right? What if your DH stayed home and watched the kids? If you are going to use her as daycare then I think you should take her feelings into consideration or use a different daycare.


I agree.

It's not easy at all to stay home all day with two little ones and asking someone to possibly watch over a 3rd is asking them to do a lot. Now if you're absolutely sure that your DD will start school in the next couple years (I'm guessing preschool? since my DD is a little older than yours and still a few years away from elementary school), then maybe tell your MIL about how you see it panning out.
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Postby JNL07 » Tue Sep 20, 2011 9:02 am

I understand your MIL concern..but honestly its none of her business. If she doesn't want to watch the kids then fine..but for her to feel like she has a say in how you and your hubby go about making a family is out of line. Maybe your oldest can do preschool and hubby can watch the 2...or maybe mil will just be mad at first and then get used to the idea...but don't stop what makes you guys happy for the mil. :D good luck!! :bfp:
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Postby Kristiev » Thu Oct 27, 2011 1:50 am

i think you have to do what seems right to you. if you see yourself as a family of five - go for it.

we are ttc number 2 right now and i know my mum thinks i couldnt handle it. she keeps telling me how amazing my life would be with just one kid. she had three herself though - funny that...
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Postby Going4two » Fri May 25, 2012 5:53 pm

It's very generous of her to watch your kids but that doesn't give her the power to control your uterus. She needs to know that you are having another baby and she can either decide to watch one, two, three or none of them but on the flip side you need to stand by what she decides and be able to afford three child cares a month. You and dh are responsible for your family not ur ml besides what if god forbid she couldn't do it anymore? As long as you know you can afford it either way I say you are making the right decision. As the primary bread winner myself I would definitely vote for dh staying home with the two and the toddler going to preschool for socialization...it would save at least $3000 a month if you lived where I live!
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Postby hunnybunny23 » Wed May 30, 2012 3:37 am

hi there im ttc 3 and working. i work 2 10 hour shifts a week at the moment but when all kiddo' are in school and nursery i will be going back full time so thats sometime in the next 3-4 years.
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Postby kksmom09 » Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:29 pm

I feel like it is up to you and your husband it's none of her business go for your next :bfp: , me and my husband our going on 7 months ttc #2 and my mom is not supportive at all she says we can't handle the extra duties because we both work full time for the same company and similar shifts
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Postby rcpmelissa » Tue Jun 26, 2012 9:56 am

I don't feel like it's any of her business how many kids you have, but it is her business about how many kids she watches. If she makes the comment that she doesn't want to keep that many then you just have to know when you have more you need to put them in daycare. I know she may argue once the kiddos are here, but I would put them in daycare anyway, you don't want to create a bitter, angry relationship and at least you know she's avail if they were ever sick or something and couldn't go to daycare. I would say have as many as you want though!
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Re: working moms ttc

Postby dextersmom » Sun Nov 04, 2012 10:12 pm

I must say...I'm slightly disturbed how many of you are experiencing negative feedback from your parents about having another baby...I believe that every couple should be able to procreate as the feel is right for them. I say do what is right. My hubby and I both work full time and our DS goes to daycare. We are TTC #2 and we're gonna do it for us...no one else! Good luck to all....
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