So sad, just made doctor's appointment

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So sad, just made doctor's appointment

Postby kubiac » Wed Apr 04, 2012 10:27 am

Aunt Flo is showing as we speak, and I'm so sad. We've been trying since July for number 2, and nothing yet.

I'm not sure if it's bad luck, if my cervical scar maybe got worse after the birth of my son and is perhaps blocking things, or if my husband's new medication since the first baby might be changing his sperm, or if I'm just getting too old (34 3/4), but every month that passes, the gap between our son and his potential siblings gets larger and I get more frustrated.

The disappointment and uncertainty of failing to get pregnant is really starting to distress me (well, mostly on the days I'm getting my period), so I finally made an appointment with the doctor.

We probably won't be able to afford significant fertility treatment, but an "inspection" can't hurt, and gosh I would love some answers. I would probably be able to come to terms with having an only child, but I can't stand the thought of spending 5-7 more years waiting without knowing, hoping against hope month after month.

Thanks for reading.
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Postby erinldp » Wed Apr 04, 2012 3:55 pm

I know exactly how you feel! My son turned 3 in January and I really thought he'd have a sibling my now. We had no problem conceiving him so why so much trouble now?!? It's frustrating and my age (37 1/2) starts to get me down too.

I finally saw a specialist in September of last year after trying for awhile on our own. Part of me wanted them to tell me that something was wrong with my husband or I so that I could just KNOW that I would have an only child and could just be happy with that. But no, we are both perfectly healthy and we were diagnosed with "unexplained secondary infertility".

Some days I just want to give up, but then I look at my son and I just know that I want another one just like him!
Me: 38 - DH: 36 - DS born 1/1/09
NTNP since 6/2009 - m/c 11/2009
TTC since 6/2010 - started with RE 9/2011
In 2012 we had...
5 cycles of Clomid - all BFN
1 combo cycle Clomid/Menopur - BFN
3 cycles of Menopur with IUI - 2 BFPs :angel:
3 natural BFPs :angel:

In 2013 I'm off meds for awhile, trying naturally with diet, exercise and supplements.

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Postby kubiac » Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:05 pm

Aww, thanks so much for the support! We'll both keep working on it and everything will be great! :D
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Postby aaronsmummy » Thu Apr 19, 2012 3:15 pm

the feelings you are describing are really ringing true for me.

i even got upset today because our friends decided to adopt a 2nd furbaby...why am i upset about them getting a second puppy? because they were talking about it like its a child saying its their second baby, and how it wakes them in the night for pee pee, etc etc. my goodness if only it were as easy to get a second baby! they just decided that very day 'i think we'll get another pup' and off they went to the SPCA to rescue one...

why, why, why can't it be so simple for all of us?! as you can see in my signature i've had 2 miscarriages over 10 months of TTC#2.

i'm praying they were just random occurances, and hoping we all get the new babies we are so desperately waiting to love...

:babydustg: ladies!! xxx
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Postby NorthCountryGirl1219 » Fri Apr 20, 2012 7:36 am

I just wanted to say that im very sorry for what you and your family are going through. it took 2 1/2 years to concieve our first, those feelings of wanting and needing are so hard to deal with day after day. My thoughts are with you all, i hope with all my heart you get exactly what you need the most!
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Postby ttcbb2 » Tue Apr 24, 2012 8:27 am

I know how you feel. When you want it so bad you can taste it, but you seem out of luck. It took us over 3 years for our first. Such an awful roller coaster to be on. We were in the direction of adoption when I found out. I didn't want it to take as long with #2, so I saw the doc after 5 months of ttc. CLomid worked, and it was inexpensive. We are now hoping for #3, and I made an appointment because I'm not ovulating or having a period. I'd like to be pregnant soon, I can't handle all the disappointment and depression of watching other people get pregnant either. (I swear some people just look at a baby and they get pregnant!) I hope something easy will work for you too.
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