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from the mouths of babes/life isn't fair

Postby desakel » Sat Sep 14, 2013 3:04 am

I have one beautiful baby boy who is three, got diagnosed with a autoimmune disease that affects my thyroid called Graves disease (30% of women who have this are diagnosed within a year of having a baby...who knew?) and have now had 2 chemical pregnancy's.
Recently my son has taken interest in babies being in Mommy's bellies and he keeps telling me that I need another baby in my belly. It's all I can do to hold it together and not sob in front of him. Sometimes life isn't fair.
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Re: from the mouths of babes/life isn't fair

Postby Susy07 » Sat Sep 14, 2013 5:31 pm

I hear ya. kids don't know any better. :( After my first kid and second miscarriage, a friends boy asked me if I had a baby, solely because they just had one and he just figured my boy should have a little sister too. :( My friend apologized for him, and I understand. But it's just hard.

Now after 2 kids and 3 miscarriages my DS is desperate for antoher baby. I wish I could give it to him but I know it's going to be at least a year now. :(
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Re: from the mouths of babes/life isn't fair

Postby delightfuldoula » Sun Sep 15, 2013 4:01 am

that was the hardest thing about my m/c was my kids were so excited about another baby and the whole time I was laying on the ultra sound table knowing the baby was gone all I could think of was how I was going to tell me kids. They ask me where the baby is and ask when are we going to have another one ect. Its very hard. I feel I have let them down. :(
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Re: from the mouths of babes/life isn't fair

Postby Susy07 » Sun Sep 15, 2013 11:33 am

You haven't. Your body didn't fail. This just happens sometimes. Kids need to learn about death and loss at some point. Granted, it's easier with a pet fish or something... But they will heal, and grow, and understand, in time.
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Baby angel lost at 8w4d. Miscarried at 11w1d in Nov '10.
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Re: from the mouths of babes/life isn't fair

Postby delightfuldoula » Wed Sep 18, 2013 6:40 am

I know there was nothing physically I could have done to change the outcome but its a hard lesson to learn at 7,5,4,3, and my 9month old obviously didn't know anything happened. Their grandpa died last year so they have been talked through death it really is just a different scenario though.
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