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Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Meggles828 » Tue Oct 01, 2013 1:59 pm

I had a missed m/c in March at 7 weeks. I took misoprostol and had a few normal cycles (without trying). DH and I felt so blessed when we got pregnant again in August- our first month back to trying. I had some spotting, but they did an u/s at 6 weeks and everything looked good (saw a strong heartbeat). Today we went in for my first official appointment. They did another u/s and I couldn't see a heartbeat. Before I even got in to see the midwife I was crying because I knew our baby wasn't alive anymore. Turns out it was another missed m/c at 7 weeks.

What makes it even harder is my younger sister is currently pregnant. Her baby shower is later this month, on my original due date actually. I want to be supportive, but I know it's going to be so hard to be there. And I know it seems crazy but I've had a fear that I would have a hard time having children and it seems there was a reason for the fear. After the first m/c there's at least hope. It happens to lots of women, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. But 2 in a row means there's probably an issue and I'm terrified to find out what it is.

I'm so heartbroken and I'm so sorry for everyone who has to deal with m/c.
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Missed m/c March 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Wed Oct 02, 2013 2:03 pm

So sorry for your loss!!! You must be feeling despair. I could have written this post myself so I thoroughly sympathise. I had a miscarriage in Feb this year. Got pregnant in July and at 8 weeks no heart beat. The moment the sonographer told us it was surreal. The thing is after the first you are scared anyway but the probability of the second is low. So just cake back from another DnC cause Misoprostol failed. I have a baby shower in 2 weeks, close friend due any day(my due date from February) and a half way pregnant mocktail party. You've got to chuckle though. The good news is that you know you can get pregnant and fingers crossed we will get pregnant soonest. I am seeing a specialist for tests next week though. Take a deep breath and ale each day. Things will get easier and probability says 75% will go on to have a live birth. Deepest sympathies again.
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Meggles828 » Fri Oct 04, 2013 9:15 am

I'm sorry you're going through this too, Skot. I'm going to get testing done as well. I don't know if I want them to find something or not. Part of me just hopes we get pregnant again right away and part of me wants to wait it out for a while--that way it'll at least feel like we're doing something to help the situation.

I'm going to have a d&c done. Mainly, so it's easier for them to get all the material they need for testing. I'm really nervous though. I've never had any type of surgery before. Also, I'm worried about scar tissue. My doctor said it's rare, but I feel like if I'm the rare person who has 2 miscarriages in a row I'll be the rare person who gets scar tissue. Do you mind sharing your experience with d&c?

Good luck with your tests. I hope we both have happy and healthy pregnancies soon.
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Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Fri Oct 04, 2013 1:22 pm

I feel exactly the same, mixed feelings about the tests. I had a DnC in February but didn't have much choice cause they thought it was ectopic . I spent weeks worrying after. Had an ultrasound to check and it was fine. I took misoprostol 3 weeks ago but found out I still have retained tissue so had to have a DnC 2 days ago. I was like you worried about the DnC but they are right it is "rarer" than 2 miscarriages in a row. I think its good if you are to get tissue tested. It also helps you move on. I am a worrier but I wish I did the DnC straight away. It has to be a personal choice but if you do go ahead don't worry but let the surgeon know about your concerns. I hope it helps. Just got back from 4.5months mocktail party and another announcement by a girlfriend who is 11 weeks. I have never been terribly bothered even after my first miscarriage about other people's pregnancy but tonight I had to stop myself from bursting into tears. Glad I can "speak" about this. I really hope your DnC and tests go well. Fingers crossed we get our healthy BFPs soon :0)
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby MEL66325 » Tue Oct 08, 2013 1:39 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. Just to give you some hope, my sister-in-law also had two miscarriages in a row and has gone on to have three, healthy beautiful daughters. It doesn't make what you are going through any easier, I know.

Have you had the D&C yet? I was nervous to get mine too, but it really went smoothly and recovery was fairly easy. I spotted off and on for a week, never bleeding very heavily and only minor cramping. I started my first period exactly 27 days after the procedure, but I think I have a hormonal imbalance from the miscarriage as I am still on that period 31 days later. I think this is seriously rare to do this, according to my doctor. But of course, I laugh when I say that if there is a statistic out there to be had, then I am going to be IT. LOL

Good luck to you. I hope you are feeling well and that you get your sticky baby very soon. :hugs:
ME - 37 DH - 40
DS1- 11
8/12/13 - :angel: (MMC 11 weeks; D&C) My angel, forever in my heart and always on my mind, Mommy loves you...can't wait to meet you in Heaven!
4/22/14 - :bfp: our rainbow baby
8/12/14- It's another BOY!
DS2- Owen Lane arrived 1/2/2015 :baby tumble:

Will we have another?? Praying for God's will and following His direction for our lives. We shall see!
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Wed Oct 09, 2013 11:19 am

Hi "Mel66" Thank you for your very kind words and I too I'm sorry for your loss. I have my DnC last week and it went well, had a lovely surgeon who understood my neurosis. I'm a doctor too so its even more embarrasing being paranoid about everything.
It weird that your DnC has rattled your hormones. I did laugh when you mentioned the statistic though. Always thought of probability and you never think it would be you. You do have to laugh sometimes though. Wishing that things get back to norm for you and that BFP soonest. Sometimes wished I had done this baby making stuff in my 20s!! LOL Hugs
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Wed Oct 09, 2013 11:20 am

Hi "Mel66" Thank you for your very kind words and I too am sorry for your loss. I had my DnC last week and it went well, had a lovely surgeon who understood my neurosis. I'm a doctor too so its even more embarrasing being paranoid about everything.
It's weird that your DnC has rattled your hormones. I did laugh when you mentioned the statistic though. Always thought of probability and you never think it would be you. You do have to laugh sometimes though. Wishing that things get back to norm for you and that BFP soonest. Sometimes wished I had done this baby making stuff in my 20s!! LOL Hugs
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Meggles828 » Wed Oct 09, 2013 3:48 pm

I decided to do the misoprostal again. My doctor's office couldn't get me in for a d&c until the end of next week and I'm just ready to be done with this. As unpleasant as the misoprostal was last time, I at least know what to expect. It's just crazy, my baby stopped growing about 4 weeks ago (I found out about a week ago) and my body still hasn't figured it out.

Mel, thank you for sharing your sister-in-law's story. It's very encouraging. Do you mind if I ask, did she have some condition causing the m/c or was she just really unlucky at first? I'm sorry you're still having to deal with the physical aspects of m/c. Hopefully, that will be resolved soon.

Also, today is the first day I haven't cried so I think I'm on my way to emotional healing. :)

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Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Lovie » Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:37 pm

I actually don't post much these days, but today I was browsing/reading and I feel the need to reach out to you.

First off, I'm so, so, so sorry for your losses. I know this feeling all too well and nothing anyone says or do can make the pain go away......except TIME (this was the only thing that worked for me).

Before my DS, I had 3 consecutive mc's. First one being at 6.5 weeks, second at 11.5 weeks (d&c) and third was at 10.5 weeks (second d&c). I fell completely into a depression. I mean it was a good 1.5 years that I did not WANT to do anything...I merely just exhisted. I hated the world, I hated myself. I felt bad that my DH picked a defected woman (I kept telling him to go elsewhere and he of course never did). Those were the darkest times of my life...even our doctor told us to look at other options such as adoption, IVFs, etc. My last m/c was in June 2008.

Fast forward: So my last mc was in June, we conceived again in August (just after one reg cycle). In April 2009, we had our rainbow baby...our son...the love of our lives. He's now 4.5 years old and is making my life brighter each day. Then we were blessed again with a BFP in January 2012 and we now have a beautiful princess who just turned 1 years old.

I really hope my story gives you hope that you will all have your babies one day. I will never know why GOD gave me all the heartaches, but I'm thankful to him today for my children. I know it's really hard to go through a mc or a repeat mc because you feel so alone....so lost....so incomplete, but please take time to takecare of yourself...to heal and try again when you're ready. I wish you soooooooooo much luck and I pray you will be blessed with your beautiful, healhty babies very soon. Take Care!!

P.S. I did the repeat loss testing and they could not find a thing wrong with me or DH.
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Meggles828 » Thu Oct 17, 2013 6:06 pm

Lovie, thank you so much for you kind words. This has been such a difficult time. I felt the same way, feeling sorry for DH. Feeling like there's something wrong with me, that I'm defective. I'm trying my best not to go into deep depression. I've dealt with depression for most of my life and when it gets bad, it gets really bad. The main thing that's keeping me focused is my DH. I think he's been really scared that I'll go down into depression and never come out. I can't do that to him. He's my source of inspiration and hope.

I'm sorry that you experienced such heartache. I can't imagine going through this for a third time. But it's such a wonderful thing to read about your happy ending. It gives me hope. I don't know why us women have to go through such pain, but I have to stay hopeful that it's all for a wonderful reason.
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Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:09 am

Thank you for your lovely message. Sorry for your losses. Just read your message to DH too and it does give us hope. It's very cruel these losses but also very common. We are waiting in test results so fingers crossed though I'm unsure what we even want those to be.
Its really reassuring to read about your little bundles of joy. I hope we all have ours as "statistics" predicts!
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Re: Second Miscarriage in a Row

Postby Skot » Thu Jan 02, 2014 11:27 am

Update: DNA Fragmentation and Recurrent miscarriage
I thought I'd post an update as you were so helpful in responses after my miscarriages. DH and I went to a miscarriage specialist for tests. I had blood clotting tests, inherited tests: Factor V, MTHFR and acquired: Thromboelastogram etc. I also had Ultrasounds, hormone, LH, FSh, AMH, prolactin, progesterone, thyriod screen amongst others! Last test was a Karyotype.
Thankfully..(I think) they all came clear. The specialist did send my DH for sperm test and DNA fragmentation and shockingly DNA Frag/DFI came back at 66%! This is super high as upper end of norm is 24% and after 30% they say little chance of having a live birth.
Of course we were devastated but the doctor was amazed we managed to concieve twice in 6 months.
We decided because we seem to have a better chance at concieving with normal BDing 15-20% than IVF with ICSI and TESE at 5%.
Doctor advised DH to go on Vitamin C, Selenium, Zinc etc and we just had another test and SA results are greatly improved though we haven't done another DNA Frag test. Doctor suggested cause progressive motility was now way above norm at 60% DFI may be better too.
We are trying again and hoping for a BFP (and good egg and sperm). Difficult being positive so would be good to hear from other people who are going through this too.
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