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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Fri Oct 18, 2013 2:50 pm

Ya, I still feel like all this is happening to someone else and I am watching. I am waiting for some time when I can be alone to grieve. DH has been really great but I think I need to do some of this by myself. He would prefer I just get over it. Not in a mean way, just I think he is ok until someone gets upset then he doesn't know what to do. I know he doesn't want me to be upset but I think I will need that to get some closure at some point.

I am bleeding a lot more now so its def AF. I don't really feel any cramping though. I am still on ibuprofen though.

My god, that is a crapload of bloodwork and ultrasounds. That would be overwhelming to say the least. How did you get through that without freaking out? I had a little meltdown when all those people came into my room before surgery. I think they were students. We laughed because I started crying, they all got wide eyed then rushed out of the room and never came back lol.

I had one set of bloodwork, an hour long ultrasound (first abdominal then transvaginal) then surgery. I have a follow up in 6-8 weeks but thats about it.

It is nice to hear from other people who had the same or similar experience. It makes it a little less scary and lonely. I am sorry you felt so isolated with yours. I am thankful to hear from you and get feedback and advice. I hope I can do the same for someone one day.
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Fri Oct 18, 2013 10:06 pm

Ok this might sound silly but I have been wondering... The obgyn at my hospital said the surgeon was concerned about my remaining tube. They decided to check it and it looks good and clear.

I am relieved but everything I am reading says if they check tubes they use dye like in an hsg and that I would pee blue. I did not pee blue so I am assuming they didn't flush my tube to check it. Is it possible they just suctioned all the dye back up as they were already in there for the salpingectomy or did she somehow peek in my tube with the camera? Maybe she just meant the outside looked clear? I don't know. I would like to ask but I don't really want to call the surgeon for this haha.

Anyone have ideas or have you had a tube checked during a lap and how did they do it?
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Hashimotos, JHS/EDS, ANA negative, 1 Fallopian tube
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TTC #1 Aug 2012 - May 2014
DS - Born Jan 2015
TTC #2 since Aug 2016
May 2017 :bfp:

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Re: Lap recovery

Postby shellsbellsxx » Sat Oct 19, 2013 8:31 am

yes i had mine done, that's the main reason they did my lap becasue my HSG was inconclusive - i pee'd blue for a week!! lol x

My DH and I both cried for days after our loss - we were both given paid compassionate leave from work and so had a few days together... and i mean together he never let my side! Was so amazing how together we really are when the tough times hit x

We are not officially married - but tonight i officially become 'betrothed' to the man i love - i can't wait to wear my beautiful diamond xx He has had tonight planned for months, and i found out about it because i am too nosey and spoilt his surprise :oops: So need my shocked face on tonight in front of family and friends while we are out :shh:
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23rd September 2013 - BFP - MC 5wks 2 dys 1st Oct '13

6th May '14 6th and final clomid cycle 2-6 50mg - :bfp: (8/9dpo)

7th July '14 - ultrasound #1 @ 9+1 - TWINS! 2 beating hearts :hb: 9+3 :hb: 8+6
31st July '14 - ultrasound #2 @12+4 - 2 beating hearts and bouncing babies 13+4 :hb: & 13+2 :hb: measuring a week ahead!
19th Sept '14 - 20+5 Baby A :future baby boy: & Baby B :future baby boy: - All looks perfect!

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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Sat Oct 19, 2013 8:46 am

Aww Shells that is so amazing!! I could just cry that is so sweet. I bet you are smiling ear to ear haha. It is such a wonderful feeling to be loved unconditionally. Congrats!!

It took DH and I forever to get engaged and I almost wrecked it a few times haha. He has been my rock through this.

When he proposed to me, he did it by asking me if I wanted to play a game of scrabble. He told me to go get my pjs on while he setup. I came back and he was making us hot chocolate so I sat down and noticed he picked out my letters. So of course I had to give him sh*t. I said, "You can't pick out my letters you cheater! And that's not 7 letters!" Then it hit me he wrote something. He couldn't fit anymore letters on the tray so it said:

WLLUMARYME

He still laughs at me for yelling at him lol.
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TTC #1 Aug 2012 - May 2014
DS - Born Jan 2015
TTC #2 since Aug 2016
May 2017 :bfp:

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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Sat Oct 19, 2013 8:54 am

I also picked out his letters. He got:

YES
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby radkitten » Mon Oct 21, 2013 6:36 am

It was really hard to deal with. Because I was under the care of an RE I found out I was PG the day my period was due. From there I had a beta every 2 days and we found very quickly that my numbers were not rising properly. We rode it out for about a week, and then I had surgery. It was super scary and alot of it is a blur. I had alot of meltdowns and spent the majority of my time in pajamas in bed watching tv and crying in between doctors appointments. I ended up using like 11 paid vacation days, leaving me with like 2 for the rest of the year in May.

Overall I've had a really hard time with it. I spent 2 weeks in an outpatient psychiatric hospitalization program for a major depressive episode resulting from the surgery and everything else.

As far as checking your tube, what they probably did is visibly look at your tube, or did an HSG. With the HSG though you won't pee blue or anything. It doesn't affect your urinary tract at all. With mine, they visibly looked at my right tube after working on my right ovary, especially since my left tube was a mangled mess. Visibly that tube looked fine though and then after my first AF I had another HSG to check it was still open after healing from the surgery (which it was).

I know I didn't find out much until my follow up, but have they told you anything about why they removed the tube or if they found any endo or anything in your abdomen?
Me (31) - Homozygous MTHFR A1298C, Endometriosis, Left Fallopian Tube removed
DH (33) - Normal
Married - 09/09/09

First ever :bfp: 5/6/13
5-17-13 - D&C and ectopic pregnancy removal at 5w5d. Lost left fallopian tube. Right ovarian cyst removed.

Aug 2013 - 1st clomid cycle (50mg CD3-7). 5 follies, missed ovulation, timed intercourse. BFN
Nov 2013 - Jan 2014 - Follicles all on the left.
Feb 2014 - 5mg Femara CD3-7 - Cyst on left ovary, 18mm follie right ovary! Trigger 2/20, IUI 2/22 BFN
October 2014 - IVF #1. Retrieval October 22nd?


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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Mon Oct 21, 2013 4:00 pm

You know, I read a lot of posts online from people who had laps and salpingectomies and honestly they are not a great reference.
First, I found it very painful. More so than I imagined and more than they made it sound. I started feeling better physically yesterday but still a bit sore and slow. But nobody really addresses the part where they take the baby out. They talk about the tube and recovery and everything but not about the emotional loss.

Rad it must have been horrible to live it in slow motion. I knew from the beginning that my bfp was not right but I couldn't get any of the drs to listen or give me a beta so I stopped trying and just put it out of my mind. In a way I am glad I got to enjoy some time without all the worry but I am still angry. I told my mom the other day that I just knew from the moment I got my bfp. I actually called her a few days after my first bfp (she works in the medical profession) and asked her what to do about it. It's the only reason I told her so early. She said she vaguely remembers me mentioning it and it must have just been a fluke. I think that sent me over the edge yesterday.

I don't have any more vacation or I would take it. I am praying there is general illness leave at work (there must be something...I hope). I am already starting to forget what it was like to know there was a baby inside me. I feel like I never had a bfp.

I have to book a follow up with the dr for 6-8 weeks after surgery so I think I'll ask her afew things when I go back. It doesnt say on my discharge if I had a transfusion or not, but I remember them saying there was a lot of blood in my abdomen and when I was still half out I thought I heard the nurse talk about the transfusion. They didn't say anything other than my left tube looked good and they showed me a picture of my mangled tube before they took it out. It was cool but I dont remember much because I was in recovery waking up still. They said the surgeon doesn't normally check the other tube but they decided to for me seeing as they were already in there. I don't have an RE and have not been tested for anything outside what I asked my gp for so I had no idea what it would be like in there. They didn't mention endo or anything else about my abdomen, which I am hoping is because there was nothing obviously wrong. I remember the pic of my uterus and it seemed smooth and pink so I guess thats a good thing.
I am not really sure what to expect at the follow up and I am under the impression that I probably wouldn't be monitored for any subsequent bfps because my left tube is clear.
Me - 36
Hashimotos, JHS/EDS, ANA negative, 1 Fallopian tube
DH - 41
TTC #1 Aug 2012 - May 2014
DS - Born Jan 2015
TTC #2 since Aug 2016
May 2017 :bfp:

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Oct 2013 - 6w6d ruptured ectopic
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby radkitten » Tue Oct 22, 2013 10:58 am

I would definitely push them for extra monitoring. Having had 1 ectopic does increase your risk of another. They said as well that my right tube looked great, but that I would be highly monitored with any cycle I ever do with them, and if I ever have another spontaneous pregnancy I need to go to my OB immediately and tell them I need monitored to rule out ectopic.
Me (31) - Homozygous MTHFR A1298C, Endometriosis, Left Fallopian Tube removed
DH (33) - Normal
Married - 09/09/09

First ever :bfp: 5/6/13
5-17-13 - D&C and ectopic pregnancy removal at 5w5d. Lost left fallopian tube. Right ovarian cyst removed.

Aug 2013 - 1st clomid cycle (50mg CD3-7). 5 follies, missed ovulation, timed intercourse. BFN
Nov 2013 - Jan 2014 - Follicles all on the left.
Feb 2014 - 5mg Femara CD3-7 - Cyst on left ovary, 18mm follie right ovary! Trigger 2/20, IUI 2/22 BFN
October 2014 - IVF #1. Retrieval October 22nd?


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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Tue Oct 22, 2013 11:47 am

I agree. I think I would be pretty nervous if I got another BFP and would demand monitoring. I am less likely to get blown off now.
Me - 36
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DH - 41
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DS - Born Jan 2015
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Wed Oct 23, 2013 9:47 pm

Ok its been a week already and I feel better but my belly button pinches. Really freaking me out. Feels like it could rip a bit if im not careful. Please tell me this goes away :S
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DS - Born Jan 2015
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby shellsbellsxx » Thu Oct 24, 2013 2:19 am

Have you got stitches in there?? Mine felt like that and i had to have them cut out because they were not dissolving quick enough - immediate relief when they cut them out! x Took 8 weeks for the lower stitches to dissolve!
Me:37 DH:43
LTTTC #1 for 13 years
(16.10.12)... Diagnosis - 'Unexplained Infertility'
:doh:
Short 22/23 day cycles, LPD- 10days
23rd September 2013 - BFP - MC 5wks 2 dys 1st Oct '13

6th May '14 6th and final clomid cycle 2-6 50mg - :bfp: (8/9dpo)

7th July '14 - ultrasound #1 @ 9+1 - TWINS! 2 beating hearts :hb: 9+3 :hb: 8+6
31st July '14 - ultrasound #2 @12+4 - 2 beating hearts and bouncing babies 13+4 :hb: & 13+2 :hb: measuring a week ahead!
19th Sept '14 - 20+5 Baby A :future baby boy: & Baby B :future baby boy: - All looks perfect!

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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Thu Oct 24, 2013 4:06 am

I don't know actually. I remember hearing the dr say something about stitches dissolving but then I don't see any and it looks like I am glued shut.

She might have just said stitches when she was explaining the procedure, which apparently I didn't fully hear. DH had to re-explain it all to me because I tuned out after hearing the dx.
Me - 36
Hashimotos, JHS/EDS, ANA negative, 1 Fallopian tube
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DS - Born Jan 2015
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby radkitten » Thu Oct 24, 2013 5:34 am

I had that, and mine was glued shut. The belly button one takes alot longer then the others to heal and feel good again. It still gets sensitive every now and then for me, but the tearing sensation does go away.
Me (31) - Homozygous MTHFR A1298C, Endometriosis, Left Fallopian Tube removed
DH (33) - Normal
Married - 09/09/09

First ever :bfp: 5/6/13
5-17-13 - D&C and ectopic pregnancy removal at 5w5d. Lost left fallopian tube. Right ovarian cyst removed.

Aug 2013 - 1st clomid cycle (50mg CD3-7). 5 follies, missed ovulation, timed intercourse. BFN
Nov 2013 - Jan 2014 - Follicles all on the left.
Feb 2014 - 5mg Femara CD3-7 - Cyst on left ovary, 18mm follie right ovary! Trigger 2/20, IUI 2/22 BFN
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby B Michaelson » Thu Oct 24, 2013 9:31 am

Oh thank god. I used to pull a muscle there sometimes and it is the worst feeling in the world. Right before it happens you can tell. I have that same feeling now so I have been pretty nervous about moving too fast. Glad to know this goes away.
Me - 36
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DH - 41
TTC #1 Aug 2012 - May 2014
DS - Born Jan 2015
TTC #2 since Aug 2016
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Re: Lap recovery

Postby radkitten » Thu Oct 24, 2013 12:32 pm

Yeah, I freaked out the first few times and actually called my OB's nurse line, they told me it would be okay and to just be easy on myself if I feel it.
Me (31) - Homozygous MTHFR A1298C, Endometriosis, Left Fallopian Tube removed
DH (33) - Normal
Married - 09/09/09

First ever :bfp: 5/6/13
5-17-13 - D&C and ectopic pregnancy removal at 5w5d. Lost left fallopian tube. Right ovarian cyst removed.

Aug 2013 - 1st clomid cycle (50mg CD3-7). 5 follies, missed ovulation, timed intercourse. BFN
Nov 2013 - Jan 2014 - Follicles all on the left.
Feb 2014 - 5mg Femara CD3-7 - Cyst on left ovary, 18mm follie right ovary! Trigger 2/20, IUI 2/22 BFN
October 2014 - IVF #1. Retrieval October 22nd?


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