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don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Mon Nov 18, 2013 2:28 pm

i had a d&c on 7/31/13, baby was 13 weeks. He died due to trisomy 13. I have been ttc for three cycles since. it has been hard because all i wanted was to be pg again, it is a desire i cannot explain but that i know many of you understand. I am only 11 dpo but feel very hopeful as i received my bfp this morning. it may take some women a few weeks to conceive again after d&c and others longer, i wanted mine to be only a few weeks and having to wait three months was hard but i am writing to tell you that it will happen again. We did sperm meets egg plan this month and they say its really beneficial to those who know they can conceive. baby dust to all you wonderful women out there. don't lose hope! xoxoxo :babydustb: :babydustg: :babydustb: :babydustg:
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TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby mexicanchick718 » Wed Nov 20, 2013 12:17 pm

Congrats on the bfp! I m/c on 7/11 and got my bfp in September. It was a different feeling this time. I was happy but jumping up and down with joy. It was more worry and being scared. Now that ive made it this far i feel a little happier in thinking this baby will hopefully be in my arms in no time.
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Wed Nov 20, 2013 1:01 pm

Mexicanchick, I know exactly how you feel! I can't wait to get to where you're at! Every little thing I take pause...wasn't like that with my first but after losing one it changes things. Congratulations to you as well!
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DH - 43
DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby mexicanchick718 » Wed Nov 20, 2013 3:41 pm

Not sure if you've researched it yet but invested in a fetal doppler to use at home. It has saved my sanity. I check the baby everyother day. I was so paranoid due to all the bleeding I was having this time I needed something to keep me assured the baby was ok. You might want to check into it. From what i've read is you can't really hear anything until about 8wks, but the point is to make it that far which im sure you will!
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Wed Nov 20, 2013 6:19 pm

Good idea, thank you!
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TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby mexicanchick718 » Tue Nov 26, 2013 5:07 pm

Any updates???
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Tue Nov 26, 2013 9:44 pm

Go to dr week after next...so far so good! And you?
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TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby mexicanchick718 » Wed Nov 27, 2013 9:37 am

Thats great news! I have been battling with bleeding and spotting again. I hurt myself sweeping and mopping my floors. Now I can't even do that. Feeling a bit useless. All i did was pull some muscles but let me tell you it hurts. Other than that looking forward to a nice family dinner tomorrow.
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Fri Jan 17, 2014 2:28 pm

Update, Ive lost the baby. 12 weeks scan yesterday showed no heartbeat. Baby stopped growing at 10 weeks. Go in for d&c Monday. Pathology report will hopefully reveal what happened :(
Ana (me) - 37
DH - 43
DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby Happyfroggy » Fri Jan 17, 2014 4:06 pm

LadycatZ wrote:Update, Ive lost the baby. 12 weeks scan yesterday showed no heartbeat. Baby stopped growing at 10 weeks. Go in for d&c Monday. Pathology report will hopefully reveal what happened :(



LadycatZ it was so kind of you to make this thread to remind others not to lose hope, and I am so sad to hear that this has happened. My condolences, and when your fragile hope is ready to make it's return, we will be here to support you both then and now. I am so so sorry that this happened to you. Tearing up actually.

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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Mon Jan 20, 2014 12:08 pm

Thank you Happy Froggy. It was a long weekend, I ended up having a natural miscarriage. It wasn't unbearable but I also took the pain meds religiously starting Friday night when I knew my body probably wouldn't wait for d&c. I went to dr today and she said my body took care of itself perfectly. I saw my uterus on u/s and all looked good and clear. She said I was free to try again. I feel so much better about having the natural mc vs d&c. I never would've gone this route given a choice but now that I have done it, if I ever am in this position again, I will go natural if my body lets me. It was intense but it was my time with my body and it's crazy to say that I feel so grounded now. I feel ok with it. I find out the results of the pathology report in a few weeks. Collecting the baby and keeping it in my fridge for a day was the hardest part but I had to think of it medically. I want to know what happened and that was the only way of going about it. The baby looked just like the little fetuses do in the books. I'm pretty sure it was a boy. I was scared very scared of what was to come over the weekend, but i made it, and I haven't lost hope. xoxo
Ana (me) - 37
DH - 43
DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby Happyfroggy » Mon Jan 20, 2014 12:32 pm

Wow Ladycatz that must have been so hard and scary and sad. :( :hugs:

I've had two miscarriages in my life and both were natural but they were early miscarriages so not like what you had to go through. I am glad that the natural method made you feel more at peace with your body. One thing that is good about natural as it gives you more of a chance to grieve since you're going through something so it's more concrete and processable. If that makes any sense.
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby B Michaelson » Mon Jan 20, 2014 8:33 pm

You are so amazingly strong Ladycatz. It makes me smile :)
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby LadycatZ » Mon Jan 20, 2014 10:09 pm

Thanks B :)
Ana (me) - 37
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DD - 3
TTC #2 since April 2013. With AEB center since march 2015, autoimmune issues, TTC on hold until Sept/Oct 2015 while undergoing immune treatments for elevated killer cells and clotting disorders.

6 CPs July, 2014 - June, 2015
Angel - natural MMC at 11 weeks 6/4/14, cause unknown
Boy Angel - natural MMC at 12.5 weeks 1/18/14 trisomy 21
Boy Angel - d&c, MMC at 13 weeks 7/31/13 trisomy 13
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Re: don't lose hope

Postby TheBayBelle » Tue Jan 21, 2014 9:48 am

<3

Thank you for posting. Made me cry, gives me hope, and I was really moved.

Feeling really grateful for all the ladies here.
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