Miscarriage + Emotions

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Miscarriage + Emotions

Postby WeBeTTC#2 » Tue Nov 19, 2013 1:58 pm

I would have been 5 weeks pregnant yesterday, but two days prior I noticed my pregnancy symptoms were pretty much gone. I took a test and the line was faint - should have been getting darker IMO - and I just felt "off". Sure enough, yesterday morning, I woke up, got out of bed and started to fluff the sheets and make the bed when all of a sudden, I felt a small gush and was wet between my legs. I headed to the bathroom, and already knew what I'd see when I looked down. Blood, and lots of it. I spent the day at the hospital, my hcg level went from 30 on friday to 7 yesterday, and an ultrasound confirmed I had a complete miscarriage. I cried when the doctor told me that my levels dropped, and I cried when I sent a text to my husband to tell him the news (he was home watching our son) but by the time I was discharged from the hospital (7 hours in total) I felt that I had come to terms with everything, after all, I barely had a week to digest the fact that I was pregnant...and then I wasn't again. I am obviously sad that I am not pregnant anymore, as we had been TTC for 5 months, and I really want another baby, but I don't feel the need to stay in bed and cry or mope around helplessly. *not saying there's anything wrong with that, we all cope in different ways* BUT my family is acting as if I am a ticking time bomb about to explode in a post-miscarriage depressed rage or something, and I am sick of it already and it's only been just over 24 hours since it started! I am choosing to see the positives in this situation - I am healthy and still able to try again when my body (and mind) is ready. Why can't everyone understand that I am sad but it is not the end of the world for me. Obviously the pregnancy was not meant to be, and there was nothing I could have done differently to change the outcome.
Is it possible to have grieved this loss so quickly, or are people giving me a hard time because they know something I don't? I'm not in denial, I KNOW I am not pregnant anymore, but I don't feel devastated like I thought I would. Does that make any sense?
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Re: Miscarriage + Emotions

Postby mexicanchick718 » Wed Nov 20, 2013 12:13 pm

Everyones emotions are different. Some people can move on and others like me will drown in emotions for awhile. Although in a website I was referred to that contained tons of info on m/s I ready that doctors are usually concerned more with those that don't show much emotions. Bottom line is you know how you feel and if it creeps up even a week later thats fine! I think you should just take a break from family enteraction until they can just stop touching the subject. My family was very understanding and never asked one question about it.
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