Blighted Ovum

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Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Thu Jan 23, 2014 6:35 pm

Hi ladies, I am posting here today because today my husband and I discovered via vaginal ultrasound that I have a blighted ovum. I should have been 8 and a half weeks pregnant today and I am completely devastated by the news.

This was my very first pregnancy, I have never been pregnant before and now I don't know what to expect. I know I will miscarry, I just don't know when or how long it will take. I wasn't prepared for the news or prepared to have my very first pregnancy end in failure. Right now the hardest thing we are doing is informing the close family that knew we were pregnant. Besides getting the news this is the hardest thing I've had to do.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby TDarrow » Fri Jan 24, 2014 5:53 am

Kandii,

I'm so sorry for you dear. There is just no other way to say it but miscarriages SUCK!! I had one right before I got PG with my last baby. You have all of the best expectations and you are just so excited and then the rug gets pulled out from underneath you and the hurt begins. Hopefully your body will take care of things naturally. By the grace of God I MC'd naturally. It took about a week for things to be done with. Sorry for sounding morbid about it but I just don't know how else to put it. I'm sorry. I was 7 and 1/2 weeks along and I started spotting light brown and I freaked and went to the doctor and the confirmed that I would miscarry. I asked when we could start trying again and the doctor said for me to miscarry get checked to make sure eveything was done/gone, have a normal period and then try again. We did and now I have a beautiful almost 13 month old lil boy. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Try to keep your chin up and stay positive. Get some rest. There are a lot of wonderful ladies on this board (as I'm sure you know) that have been through this many, many times and know exactly what you are going through. you are not a lone. I'll be saying prayers for you to have peace of mind and understanding and of course for God to bless you and your family with a precious take home rainbow baby. Again, I'm so sorry for what you and your hubby are going through. God Bless!!
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Fri Jan 24, 2014 7:49 am

Thank you for the reply.

My husband and I are not going into work today as we both seem to be having random out bursts of crying and spacing out.

My body physically still thinks it's pregnant. So physically I haven't started to miscarry but emotionally we have already started grieving the loss.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby delightfuldoula » Fri Jan 24, 2014 5:37 pm

I had one in Aug. I started brown light red spotting when in for u/s was supposed to be about 9 1/2 weeks sac only measured 6.5 weeks and no baby. I started red bleeding the next day. Two days later I had sever contractions then passed something rather large. Then the bleeding went down to a heavy period with lots of clots some rather large about 5 days later I passed another plum sized clot and then the bleeding really went down. It took me about 6 weeks to get pregnant again and currently I am 17 weeks. Its a very hard experience to live through. Be kind to yourself. Don't set any goals of any kind right now, cry when you need to, sleep when you need to. I hope you feel better soon.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Fri Jan 24, 2014 6:34 pm

Thanks delight - that's information I really needed. I am really hoping to miscarry naturally and be able to move forward.
I haven't started any heavy bleeding, only spotting. Spotting started Tuesday and continues today. Hasn't gotten worse yet. Waiting and praying it happens naturally.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby SEPT2014 » Tue Jan 28, 2014 6:37 am

Kandii i am so sorry to hear what happened. I remember your name from the boards, i think we were close in our dates. How are you now? I am just feeling that the less friends and family say to me the better. They mean well, but i find them poking their noses in and interfering when i want some peace, thinking they know better. I know everyone is different. Thinking of you.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Tue Jan 28, 2014 6:56 am

I'm still quite upset over the whole thing. And still only spotting so feeling frustrated too.
I am the same though, the less people bring it up the easier it is for me to get through the day. Right now I would really like this miscarriage to happen so we can move on and try again
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby SEPT2014 » Tue Jan 28, 2014 7:11 am

I haven't had experience with d&c, i had a natural miscarriage followed by emergency laparoscopy to remove ectopic pregnancy and right tube four days after the miscarriage (heterotopic pregnancy) I believe the ectopic caused the miscarriage but hopefully one day i can ask the surgeon :roll: I just feel so let down by the early pregnancy unit initially and then by the surgeon/consultant who never came to talk to me after despite my several requests. I know what you mean, my family and friends are there for me when i want to talk but there are some who are encouraging visitors to me that NEVER come visit us normally and i am not interested in seeing them. I got upset at the weekend and now i am a bit angry.
It is hard to know what to do kandii, have the medics given you any advice for d&c v natural miscarriage? I guess it is up to the individual. If you are spotting maybe it will happen naturally soon, i really feel for you, it must be a difficult time, hopefully there will be others with more experience that can advise. I know this sounds silly but the best cure for me is holding my hubby close and appreciating him because he is such a rock for me. Might freak him out but it really helps me. Hoping things get easier for you.
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MC twin A 12.01.2014 @ 6w6d
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May 2014 - CP/MC 5w+3, numerous chemicals since

Metformin (PCOS), bromocriptine(elevated prolactin)
April 2015 HSG - normal uterus and left tube fine
Nov 2015 - investigative hystero & D&C - normal
March 2016 - Start IVF+PGS - our last hope :omg: :love:
Day 9 : 11 measurable follies - egg retrieval March 2016 :omg:
8 eggs selected for fert by icsi - 8 x fert.
Day 5: 5 embryos for PGS biopsy & freeze.
PGS (ngs)results: 2 x normal & 3 x abnormal
FET June 2016 1 x PGS normal blast transferred :omg:
Trust your gut instincts.
Bfp July 2016 - please stay around little one :hb:
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Tue Jan 28, 2014 11:19 am

The doctor wants me to wait until Friday to see if it will occur naturally. I will get blood work Thursday to see if my hcg levels are dropping or not.
Basically if they don't drop and this doesn't happen on it's own before Friday then she wants me to go for a second ultrasound and possibly a D&C.
She doesn't want the spotting to continue on for 2 weeks. So right now it's an awful waiting game.
Whoever said the TWW was hard has never experienced waiting for a miscarriage.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby SEPT2014 » Wed Jan 29, 2014 4:44 am

Ah kandii, that is awful waiting. I can understand that the doctor doesn't want you to continue spotting like that. Hoping the time passes for you quickly, but I know when I spotted and bled for 12 days up to miscarriage and ectopic surgery it felt like months. Thinking of you. Take care.
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MC twin A 12.01.2014 @ 6w6d
Emergency Lap on 16.01.2014 @ 7w3d Twin B (ectopic) & ruptured right tube, left tube ok

May 2014 - CP/MC 5w+3, numerous chemicals since

Metformin (PCOS), bromocriptine(elevated prolactin)
April 2015 HSG - normal uterus and left tube fine
Nov 2015 - investigative hystero & D&C - normal
March 2016 - Start IVF+PGS - our last hope :omg: :love:
Day 9 : 11 measurable follies - egg retrieval March 2016 :omg:
8 eggs selected for fert by icsi - 8 x fert.
Day 5: 5 embryos for PGS biopsy & freeze.
PGS (ngs)results: 2 x normal & 3 x abnormal
FET June 2016 1 x PGS normal blast transferred :omg:
Trust your gut instincts.
Bfp July 2016 - please stay around little one :hb:
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby CaroL31 » Wed Jan 29, 2014 7:28 pm

I am so so sorry for your loss Kandii. I just posted on another thread of yours, not realizing this one was here. I know how devastating this is for you. I was inconsolable for a week, I couldn't go to work, face people, or think of anything other than our lost baby. I had family and friends who were trying to be so supportive but I felt myself getting so angry at them (especially my 2 best friends, one with a 1 month old baby and 1 who was 8 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby). I even had to deactivate Facebook for a couple months. I felt that if I heard "Everything happens for a reason or It'll happen when it's supposed to" I might just explode. I still have those feelings but it really does get a little easier as each day passes. You will get through this. That ache in your heart will lesson a little with time and you will be able to piece your world together again. I am so sorry this is happening to you. Please take care, my heart goes out to you!
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Fri Jan 31, 2014 8:12 pm

Today I am feeling very frustrated and angry. My doctor has referred me onto the early pregnancy loss program at a local hospital to help me manage physically and emotionally through this very difficult time.

I got to speak to an RN for about half an hour today about my options.

The Options:

A) Watch and Wait (Natural Miscarriage)

After spotting and slight cramping for the past 11 days I am quite annoyed at this option. I have not been progressing at all with this method. My hcg levels are holding strong at 8800. The RN said that she didn't think it would be likely that I would miscarry naturally any time soon.

B) Misoprostol

This is the one option I was trying to avoid completely. I had ZERO desire to go this route at all. Last thing I feel like doing is shoving some tablets up "there" then waiting for the cramping and bleeding to occur.

C) D&C

The RN explained to me that since I was only measuring at 5 weeks that I don't qualify for this option. She said that the doctors were not always comfortable doing this type of thing when the pregnancy itself didn't measure very big. I was very upset to hear this. I was really hoping I could get this done so I didn't have to experience the bleeding/cramping/etc of the Misoprostol route. And I could get it over with.

So basically after 11 days of bleeding and discomfort I was really hoping to have the option to have a D&C and get it over with but it doesn't look like its going to happen that way. I am extremely disappointed and frustrated right now.

My appointment at the clinic is on Monday at 2pm. This is basically a "consult" meeting. I told the RN to let me know if D&C would be an option at all after they had their meeting with the doctor. She said she would let me know.

And there you have it. Onto another waiting period of this horrid journey.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby CaroL31 » Sat Feb 01, 2014 7:28 am

So sorry to hear this. I know it wasn't what you were hoping for and I was very much hoping it would have happened for you by now so you can start to move ahead. So sorry! I can totally appreciate how frustrated and angry you must be. life can be so unfair!!!! When I had mine, they have me a shot to encourage things along. I can't remember exactly what it was called because I was in a total fog but I will see if my husband remembers. Keep pushing for a d&c at your appt on Monday, hopefully they will agree. Will be thinking of you, I know how hard this is.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby Kandii » Mon Feb 03, 2014 5:11 pm

So I never even got offered a D&C, they basically said Misoprostol or nothing. So tomorrow I start the misoprostol route. I am very scared/nervous/emotional.
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Re: Blighted Ovum

Postby CaroL31 » Mon Feb 03, 2014 6:37 pm

I thought of you today, knowing you had your appt. Did they give you a timeframe as to when things would happen? I am so sorry you are still waiting :cry:
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