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Postby Meggles828 » Thu Mar 20, 2014 5:17 pm

We found out yesterday that we're miscarrying for the third time. I am not entirely surprised this time around. I stopped feeling connected to my baby and unfortunately know from experience what that means. It's frustrating because the testing they have done so far (for clotting disorders, thyroid issues, chromosome abnormalities etc.) have all been fine. They even put me on progesterone this time as an extra precaution. We'll be seeing a specialist soon and I suppose they'll do more in depth testing, but this is so heartbreaking.

I can't help but whine about how unfair this is. DH and I are both pretty healthy. I do everything I'm suppose to do to have a healthy baby, but they just won't stick. It's frustrating when I see my sisters' situations. One got pregnant on accident, one is a recovering addict (as is her partner) and she also got pregnant on accident--3 times, and one is married to a recovering addict and has an adorable son. I love my sisters and my nieces and nephews, but I can't help but feel like "what did I do wrong?" "why am I the one who can't have children?" My mom had 8 kids with no miscarriages. What the hell is wrong with me.

It just hurts every time.
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Postby BichonFrise » Thu Mar 20, 2014 8:36 pm

Hi Meggles,

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say as I understand how you feel. I hope you find the answer soon.

How far along did you get this time? Did you get to hear the heartbeat? Can your Dr test on the pregnancy tissue/embryo to find out what happened?

Hang in there.
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Postby Meggles828 » Thu Mar 20, 2014 9:46 pm

Thanks BichonFrise. I was just about 7 weeks again. For some reason I can't make it past that point. We are going to get the tissue tested.

I saw the heartbeat on the u/s, but never heard it. I think it's probably better that I've never heard any of the babies heartbeats otherwise I might have gone completely crazy by now.
I see my ob on Monday and hopefully I'll get a referral to a specialist then.
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Missed m/c March 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
8/12/14 Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy performed to remove uterine septum and check for any other issues.

Gloria Jayne born October 30, 2015!
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Postby BichonFrise » Thu Mar 20, 2014 11:06 pm

I am so sorry that you are hurting right now.

After my 2nd MC, my OB also referred me to RE. I was supposed to go through FSH and all kind of blood test as well. I really hope you find the answer.
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BFP #1: 10/01/2013 MC: 10/15/2013 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 12/24/2013 MC: 01/01/2014 (5 weeks 1 day)
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Postby Kandii » Fri Mar 21, 2014 5:38 pm

I'm sorry to hear of your losses.

My very first (and only) pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Feb. So I understand how you feel. My sister-in-law was due ten days after me. Every time I see her/hear from her I am always upset. When she has that baby it will be a rough experience for me.

I really hope you find some answers soon.
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Postby Meggles828 » Fri Mar 21, 2014 7:15 pm

Thank you Kandii. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It's never easy, but it's especially difficult when someone you know is pregnant at the same time. I had my second m/c right before my sister's baby shower. That was a tough one. Hopefully you'll be pregnant with a sticky bean when your sister-in-law has her baby. That would definitely help.
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8/12/14 Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy performed to remove uterine septum and check for any other issues.

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Postby Kandii » Fri Mar 21, 2014 9:18 pm

I think it would too. I'm really glad my due date is a weekend too cause that's going to be interesting.
I fluctuate between good and bad days. But I would assume that's fairly normal with emotional healing from miscarriage.

When are you scheduled to see a specialist?
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Postby Meggles828 » Fri Mar 21, 2014 10:02 pm

I see my regular ob on Monday and we'll make a game plan then.

I totally understand the fluctuating emotions. Sometimes I feel fine and then I'm sobbing. It's more difficult when I have to go out into the real world and see the pregnant bellies and cute little kids. Therapy is helping me a lot though.

Are you waiting to ttc again? Or do you have the all clear to try?
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Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
8/12/14 Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy performed to remove uterine septum and check for any other issues.

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Postby Kandii » Fri Mar 21, 2014 10:30 pm

My hcg was at 25 last Thursday (the 13th) so I technically can't get pregnant again yet. The
Bleeding from the MC has finally stopped (FX it stays stopped) so right now I am enjoying BDing. I had bleeding for almost 8 weeks.
I was told to wait until after first AF to actively TTC. Which I plan on following. So as soon as AF comes and ends I will be actively trying again :)

Hopefully the ob/gyn can give you some more answers.
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Postby B Michaelson » Wed Mar 26, 2014 6:03 am

I am so sorry Meggles. :hugs:
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Postby ekkotack » Fri Mar 28, 2014 11:22 am

Meggles, did the doc say anything when you saw him/her this week?
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Postby Meggles828 » Mon Mar 31, 2014 8:02 pm

Sorry ekkotack, I haven't been on here for a few days and just saw your post. He referred me to an RE, but he didn't sound too hopeful. He said a lot of the time they can't find a reason for recurrent miscarriages, that science just hasn't caught up yet. I'm trying to stay positive, but right now I'm kind of in limbo because I don't have an appointment until June. It stinks, but it gives me time to research all of the questions I should be asking when I get there.

Thank you for checking in :)
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Missed m/c October 2013 at 7 weeks
Missed m/c March 2014
8/12/14 Hysteroscopy and laparoscopy performed to remove uterine septum and check for any other issues.

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