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Donor Eggs?

Postby Adorabella » Tue Jul 10, 2012 10:02 am

I'm 44, apparently my hormone levels are not what they were (ahem), have tried IVF 3 times, have miscarried 3 times (once with IVF).....and am now thinking that perhaps donor eggs may be the way forward.

Any thoughts, knowledge, experiences, info etc very gratefully received - especially about using donor eggs in the UK (Hertfordshire especially).

Thank you.
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Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Wed Jul 11, 2012 4:40 am

I am not from the UK but I just wanted to let you know that Fittblonde was prepared to take the donor egg route but got a BFP after months of acupuncture. Perhaps send her a message and she will share her inspiring story. I am not sure if your situation is the same but nonetheless it is a great story.
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Postby Madasa30 » Wed Jul 11, 2012 5:40 am

Hi, I don't have any experience to share but if you feel that time is of the essence, and you doubt your own fertility, then I say go for the donor egg. If you want a baby I think it doesn't matter what you do to get one!(Apart from stealing one of course!!) You don't say if this would be your first child or not?

If it was me, I wouldn't waste any more time on my own eggs if I was told my hormones weren't what they once were. I am 44 like you and have been told my egg quality is not great but they seems to say that to everyone over 40!

It would be a good idea to message Fittblonde she is a great source of information and advice on donor egg and accupuncture though she doesn't live here in the UK so may not know the procedure here for donor eggs.

Good luck to you xxx
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Postby Adorabella » Wed Jul 11, 2012 9:12 am

Thank you both for your responses.

I have done everything, including years of acupuncture, herbs, wheatgrass, yoga - etc and am aware that many of these things do work so would include those alongside any future fertility treatment.

Neither my husband nor I have any children and are going down the adoption route, which has already taken well over a year and nothing much seems to have happened apart from form filling without any guarantee of a child at this stage.

We were told by our RE that he would continue to give us free IVF until we had a successful pregnancy as our embryos were so strong BUT we lost faith after he gave me a D&C without any anesthetic (which was completely horrific) when our baby's heart stopped beating at 9 weeks.

As I have miscarried 3 times we are considering considering donor eggs as a possible way forward once we know one way or another what is causing the miscarriages.

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Postby Fittblonde » Wed Jul 11, 2012 10:56 am

Adoreabella...I think donor eggs is a great idea. I was so happy once I made the decision to move forward with this route. I actually was terrified when I got pregnant naturally for the 5th time. Don't get me wrong I am grateful to be pregnant but I have been terified every step of the way. I think if I were pregnant with a donor I would have had more confidence in the pregnancy.

There is a board like this one caleed PVED.org. they are parents via egg donation. A lot of women from the states travel to Europe for egg donation because it is a lot more affordable. I know you will get a lot of great advice from these ladies. I found my clinic on that site. We will use them for baby number 2

The success rate using a donor are 80%. I think this is a great option for women.
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Postby Adorabella » Wed Jul 11, 2012 11:00 am

Oh my gosh!! I got teary eyed and goose-bumpy reading your message.

Can't believe the % increase in using donor eggs. It almost seems stupid that I haven't seriously considered this as an option before.

Thank you for pointing me in the direction of the other board - I will definitely take a look.

I want to know as much as I can before I make any moves as with this option there is less of an imminent deadline.

THANK YOU!!!
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Postby Fittblonde » Wed Jul 11, 2012 11:09 am

I research every day for a solid month before settling on a clinic.

One thing you really want to check on is their success with FET's frozen embryo transfers. My clinic has a 83% Success rate with fresh transfers and 74%with FET's. A lot of clinics have les than a 50% Success rate with FETS. This was important to us in case the first transfer did not work and secondly because we want 2kids

Wishing you lots of success. Keep us posted.
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3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
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March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
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Postby Adorabella » Wed Jul 11, 2012 11:15 am

Firstly - I cannot thank you enough for having gone through this already and being kind enough to pass on the info.

I just mentioned your first message to DH and suddenly the possibility of having a baby, or even more than one seems like a real possibility - which in itself has already made a difference.

I have just looked at the pved.org site but will wait until my head is clear to look through properly and start making notes/ questions.

I would love to share this journey with you and if you think of anything at all that may be of interest please let me know, including any negatives that we ought to address/ consider.

Our spirits are lifting and they haven't done that regarding fertility in quite some time. :)
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Postby Fittblonde » Wed Jul 11, 2012 11:37 am

Email me anytime with questions. There are women in their early 50's on this board pregnant via donor eggs so the possibility is very real. A lot of the ladies I have become friendly with since January are already pregnant with their first child.

I am so happy to hear you have a renewed sense of hope. You will be pregnant in no time. :)
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
TTC Baby #2 Au Natural until November 2014 then we will move onto Donor Eggs
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Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Thu Jul 12, 2012 4:16 am

please Adorabella keep us posted on your progress .. this may be a more viable option for many of us! I for one would love to hear your journey.

The % of sucess is incredible!!!
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Postby Adorabella » Thu Jul 12, 2012 4:50 am

Will do. So, just to let you know....my second step - the first being the writing of this post - will be to make an appointment with our GP to discuss and fact find. I will report back...

Thank you.
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Postby Fittblonde » Thu Jul 12, 2012 5:38 am

I agree. I was blown away by the success rates. I may not have totally believed the numbers if I wasn't a part of the PVED board. I can't believe how many of my friends over there are pregnant.

To be honest I think it takes some soul searching to mourn the loss of your own genetics to accept the genetic child of another woman and your husband. However through a few therapy sessions I realized I will be the mother no matter what. No ones genetics can take that away from me. The most important thing for my husband and I was to become parents. We just couldn't go through another loss.

I am just so excited for you Adorebella.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
TTC Baby #2 Au Natural until November 2014 then we will move onto Donor Eggs
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Postby Adorabella » Fri Jul 20, 2012 5:40 am

Hello Everyone - mini update:

Appointment booked with GP to discuss hormone test results/ Clomid and IVF with a DE for Wednesday.

I have been researching and had messages from some amazing women (including you all) and have started speaking with IVI in Spain who work with our local clinic. I'm not sure that I need to work with our local clinic or whether I can go directly to IVI (and whether my GP will help fund any extra tests/ medications that may be required).

It seems that the cost for the original cycle + donors meds + my meds + basic tests + 2 years storage of any frozen embryos = £7,000 or thereabouts. That doesn't include flights/ accommodation. Do you think that's reasonable or cheaper than a UK clinic? Subsequent cycles using any FE will cost about £2,300 inc meds.

Also - and this is the best bit - NO WAITING TIME!

Thoughts/ suggestions/ info/ advice please! :)

Best wishes, too.
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Postby Fittblonde » Fri Jul 20, 2012 8:42 am

This is such great news. I am so glad you have started the process. Congratulations. That is a huge step forward.

I think the price is amazing. Here in the US the total cost for my donor cycle would have been $350000. This was for a guarantee program. I would deliver a baby or my money back.

My OB/GYN would have gladly performed some of the initial testing which was covered by insurance. However because I had already undergone ivf all my testing was done. Except for the mock cycle which was performed by the egg donor clinic. I got pregnant right after the mock cycle.

I have heard that doing a donor cycle in Europe was more reasonably priced than the US. But then again all of our medical costs are outrageous.

Let us know how your appointment goes. I am so excited for you. You are one step closer to having your take home baby
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
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Postby laurab007 » Fri Jul 20, 2012 10:26 am

Fittblonde wrote:I think the price is amazing. Here in the US the total cost for my donor cycle would have been $350000. This was for a guarantee program. I would deliver a baby or my money back.


Lurking on the 40's board to cheer you ladies on...did you mean $35,000?
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