Donor Eggs?

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Postby Adorabella » Sun Aug 12, 2012 8:06 am

I think that after 3 miscarriages, I will actually be more 'relaxed' if we do use donor eggs, so am excited either way: my eggs/ donor eggs - ultimately, we just want to hold our own baby in our arms....and you have now proved that it is possible. :)

My young cousin just had her first baby 2 days ago, so I am going to go and breathe in all those wonderful hormones in the next few days whilst holding their brand new baby girl! It may just be what my body needs to trigger the right response! Either way, I am so excited for her and to meet the latest addition to our family.

You must be beyond excited to welcome your baby into the world.
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Sun Aug 12, 2012 9:02 am

We have similar stories. I also had multiple miscarriages. I felt the same way you do.

That is such a great idea spending time with the newborn. You never know what kind of response it may trigger in your body.

We are beyond excited. We can't wait to have her in our life.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
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TTC Baby #2 Au Natural until November 2014 then we will move onto Donor Eggs
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Postby Adorabella » Sun Aug 12, 2012 9:18 am

Thank you for understanding my post - I felt weird after I submitted but you got it straight away. Obviously want to meet and hold the newborn anyway but hoping as you said, that on a more primitive level that my body does respond!

Looking forward to sharing this journey with you. :)
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Sun Aug 12, 2012 9:41 am

I think we speak the same language....lol. I am very into natural healing and the less understood possibilities. Sometime I feel when I post suggestions on other parts of the TWW board to help people with ailments they think I'm a whack job..lol. But this pregnancy has been so easy. Only gained 6 lbs, not backaches, indigestion, constipation and other pregnancy problems. I attribute it to a healthy lifestyle. It can't all just be luck. :)
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3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
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Postby Adorabella » Sun Aug 12, 2012 9:46 am

Amen. Totally agree and well done!

I am going to be taking medical herbs and various supps/ alternative therapies etc throughout a pregnancy (IVF or otherwise) and continuing with living healthily.

How do you feel about vaccinations? That's something that terrifies me. I had all of the childhood illnesses (measles, chickenpox, rubella, mumps - even whooping cough) and have had no lasting issues apart from a super strong immune system.
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Sun Aug 12, 2012 10:02 am

Oh boy...that's a huge issue for me. When we were young there were 7 to 9 vaccinations. Now there are 29. The industry grew from a 2 billion dollar a year industry to something like 140 billion! I am meeting with a conservative pediatrics who believes in some vaccines but not all. It's all about timing and dosing. I am doing a lot of research for and against vaccinating. The whooping cough vaccine killed 5 times more people than whooping cough itself. These statistics came directly from our government run and sponsored websites. We also have an injury tax on all vaccines in the US and also a government run fund that pays out millions to children hurt by vaccinations. It's scary and I want to be well informed. I had a girlfriend who suffered terribly from the HPV vaccination. She got sick hours after the vaccination and it lasted a year. She still has some issues. The best you can do is do all your homework. Vaccines although intended to help with serious illnesses is a huge money maker for pharmaceutical companies. In fact, It is their largest money maker.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
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Postby Adorabella » Sun Aug 12, 2012 10:08 am

Agree with you on timing, dosage and choice: weighing up the benefits of specific vaccinations against others.

I definitely think that waiting until the child's immune system is stronger for me would be the first step. Also, are there other ways that the benefits can be administered, perhaps - via alternative therapies, like homeopathy?

It's such an enormous responsibility and yet when we were children our mother's didn't have to make these choices and here we are having had many of the illnesses without any protection and just old fashioned care!

It wasn't fun being ill as a child but it was part of growing up.

Hmm.....I think I will stick to worrying about actually getting pregnant first! This is too much to take on! :)
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Sun Aug 12, 2012 10:20 am

I agree, it is a lot to take on and combing through all the information has been overwhelming. However it's good to think ahead because you will be pregnant and eventually will have to make these decisions

I never considered homeopathic care as an alternative. I will have to ask my doctor. Great idea.

I Agree, being sick is a part of childhood. Like the chicken pox. I got it when I was 16 and had a mild case. They are finding that since the vaccination shingles has risen in children by 50%! Shingles is far worse than chicken pox.

I have been trying to read up on various subjects for the past 2 years. Now I'm excited to put all I have learned into parenting.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
TTC Baby #2 Au Natural until November 2014 then we will move onto Donor Eggs
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Postby Adorabella » Mon Sep 10, 2012 3:21 am

Hello!

Hope everyone is well.

Just checking in with our update: we flew to IVI in Spain on Friday and had our initial consultation. They were very thorough and explained the procedure in detail (their English was great) and our % chances of conceiving etc.

Just prior to going, I had seen my recurrent miscarriage specialist who said I should use my own eggs as all my hormones etc are fine....which threw an emotional spanner into the works....so we discussed that with the doctor at IVI, who said that based on my age and history, our chances of conceiving with my own eggs would be less than 5%. With donor eggs that would increase to 60% with the 1st attempt and 90% with 3 attempts.

I was given an ultrasound exam + mock transfer - which went well.

However, the doctor said that he wants me to have a laparoscopy to remove an external fibroid prior to IVF as he thinks it's what has caused my miscarriages. So far we have had no other reasons at all for our infertility/ miscarriages and although the fibroid has been noticed, as it's external to my uterus, I have been told to leave it alone. This doctor however said that it is quite large and would be giving off large amounts of oestrogen which can definitely cause miscarriages.

So, I am back home armed with a letter from IVI asking for the procedure to be carried out asap as it will take 2-3 months recovery time.

In the meantime, DH left a semen sample so as soon as they find our donor match and I am healed, the eggs can be fertilised and I just fly in for the transfer and pray for a BFP!

Feel so positive and relieved (apart from needing surgery) but DH & I also feel that this is the turning point and that success is now within reach.

There is no waiting list at all for donor eggs and they were very confident of finding a very good match for us based on my height, weight, build, blood group and 'looks.' Although they don't match based on looks because I am mediterranean and the clinic is in Spain, they have a large bank of people with similar colouring and think that amongst those there are donors with similar features/ personality type, too.

We don't want to get overly excited but this really does feel far less stressful than anything we have done before and having a family finally feels entirely possible. Amen. :)

Best wishes.
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Thu Sep 13, 2012 6:01 pm

Wahooo!!! I think this is ALL good news. I am glad they are taking extra precautions. The Fybroid probably wouldn't hurt anything but it better safe than sorry. Keep me posted. Hope everything goes smoothly. You are looking at sometime early next year for the donor egg.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
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Postby laurab007 » Mon Sep 17, 2012 9:22 pm

It all sounds so promising and it must be a relief to know that you have such a high chance of success, and it's within reach! Sorry to hear about the surgery, but it sounds like it may improve your chances of a successful pregnancy. Best of luck with the surgery, a speedy recovery and a sticky bfp very soon!
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Postby Adorabella » Wed Sep 19, 2012 7:21 am

Thank you both so much for your support.

I have an appointment on Friday to discuss fibroid removal and will hopefully then know timings for surgery, recovery and embryo transfer.

OMG!!! It's all happening so fast! :)

Please think positive thoughts for us.

Best wishes. xx
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Wed Sep 19, 2012 7:40 am

I had one removed about 4 years ago however it was on the backside of uterus and was the size of a large orange. They removed it laproscopically. They at first insisted that I have a c section cut. I refused and put up a fight about it. Doctor finally said he would try to remove laproscopically but it would be a 6 hour surgery. I didn't care if it took them 12 hours!!! They were in and out in 45 minutes with the laproscope. Hope all goes smoothly for you too.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
Chloe Ann arrived November 20, 2012 Via induction
TTC Baby #2 Au Natural until November 2014 then we will move onto Donor Eggs
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Postby Adorabella » Wed Sep 19, 2012 7:47 am

Wow!!! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am concerned about the surgery, although perhaps the fact that my 'grapefruit' is on the front will make it easier. I was told by the IVI guy that it should be a laparoscopy so that is what I will insist on, too. Great - I now feel more confident about asking for what I want! :) YOU are a GIFT to me!
<strong>Me: 44, DH 27</strong><div>Unexplained Infertility, resulting in&nbsp;3 miscarriages:<div>1. 6/2008 @ 6 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>2. 7/2009 @7 weeks (natural conception)</div><div>3. 12/2010 - heartbeat stopped @ 9 wks (IVF number 3)</div><div>* Also tried Clomid, herbs, acupuncture, yoga...you name it.</div></div><div><strong>Still hopeful.</strong></div>
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Postby Fittblonde » Wed Sep 19, 2012 9:06 am

Awe thanks. Oh and it's an easy surgery to recover from. Not much discomfort at all.
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TTC #1 since 2/14/10 - 4 MC
3/11 Au natural BFP 10 DPO! Beta 1237 16 dpo
5/09 9 wk baby passed - boy Trisomy 15
IVF #1: 11/2011 - 3 retrieved - none to transfer

March 2012 au natural BFP at 9dpo!!!
3/14 Beta 1: 70@12DPO
3/16 Beta 2: 217@14DPO
5/14 NT scan and Maternity 21 Plus BW - norma
Amino and Micro Array testing - ALL NORMAL!!!!l
Donor egg cycle canceled due to our miracle
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