RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!!

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RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!!

Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Wed Sep 26, 2012 4:08 am

I went to me RE yesterday to see if there is anything else we can do to be blessed with another child. Although he was sympathetic he basically said it was egg quality issues and the ONLY alternatives are adoption or egg donors.

I was beyond suurprised/upset/depressed ... my DH came for emotional support and he was beside himself too ... I mean I only turned 42 Sept. 11! Has anyone been told that by their RE? I mean there are women over 40 having babies why would he say that? Is this just Western medicine?

Here is a little background info for those who are new .. I got married at 33 (DH was 26) in 2003 went off all BC and BD every 2-4 days not TTC but not preventing... we got more servious and I started charting (although I didn't know what I was doing ... and purchased CBFM), finally got pregnant January 2008 but MC (6 weeks 2 days), conviced DH to see RE. First cycle Letrazole only and timed intercourse, second cycle Letrazole and IUI .. got pregnant 2009 (age 39) gave birth 2 months shy of 40. Went back to RE 8 months later for # 2.. went right to Letrazole injectables and IUI got pregnant after 2nd IUI but MC (6 weeks 6 days later) went back for 6 more failed IUI's. Can't afford IVF so I lost 26 lbs, went for acupuncture treatments, cut down coffee to 1 cup/day vs 5-6 cups, taking herbs/vitamins ... RE let us do one more IUI that failed earier this month.

I need to know is this my only option?

I started to see a Fertility Naturopath but am I wasting my money? This Fertility Naturopath trained with the lady wrote wrote the Infertility Cure and The Fertile Soul so I am really super excited about her prescribing a "plan". Heck she is doing more bloodwork testing and looking at my overall wellbeing than my RE ever has!
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Wed Sep 26, 2012 5:31 am

Thank you ER I am so depressed and feeling sorry for myself ... I needed that. I am a fighter, I don't give up .... but sometimes you can only take so much when your constantly being kicked to the curb!
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby shanessa91 » Wed Sep 26, 2012 6:13 am

TTC - Don't let your heart get broken by what the REs of the world say. I have a cousin who was told by one RE that donor eggs were her only recourse and she switched to another RE who was willing to work with her and gave birth to twin boys at 44/45 (not sure exactly of which at the time of birth) with her own eggs.

I have deferred my final appointment with RE until next week. We will discuss what went wrong with my two IVF cycles and one frozen embryo cycle but I feel sure that it is a question of egg quality. All I want to hear from him is what he thinks went wrong and needs to be improved. We will not be entertaining anymore IVF treatments. I don't take any stock in the doomsdayer doctors. Their advice is very often general in nature based upon statistics. I want to know about my own individual case. I was going to a fertility accupunturist but she is located too far from me to go on a regular basis so I let that go. I am following a natural regimin on my own and am hopeful that I will garner positive results. Already I have noticed that my LP is longer by one day and more importantly my temperatures remain elevated until AFTER AF shows up. This has not been the case for me for a number of recent cycles. I am going to try not to focus on age. Slow and steady wins the race. I am just going to focus on naturally improving what I can and let God deal with the rest.
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby tiffanynp » Wed Sep 26, 2012 9:24 am

TTC, I am sorry you had that experience with the RE. I def think it is time for another RE!! I have never heard anyone being told that before! I think it is crap. You are the only one that decides when to go to egg donor. Doctors are doctors adn they are not living your life. I think what you are doing is wise. The only other thing I might consider is finding a new RE if that is the path you wish to choose. I know time is not on our side..but it is not like we are in our 50's...geez!
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Cycle#6: Femara 5mg cd3-7; Angel baby#2 @ 5w4d on March 3, 2013 :(.
DIAGNOSED with MTHFR by RE on 4/8/13 as possible cause of mc...FX next preg is take home baby!!!
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby Hoopla » Wed Sep 26, 2012 4:45 pm

TTC #2,

I am so sorry that your RE did this to you!! Did he/she give you any specific reasons (ie. low AMH, low day 3 tests, etc.)?? You have done an amazing effort getting your body ready (congrats on this!) and I would definitely keep trying as you've been doing. I mean, you can always choose to have a donor egg later on after TTC longer. It doesn't make sense to me to just jump to it right now......

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Cycle 2: Chemical Pregnancy
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Cycle 1 again. =BFP!!
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby Fittblonde » Thu Sep 27, 2012 9:15 pm

Yep, I was told by my RE that I had less than a 5% chance of conceiving with my own eggs so I moved onto donor eggs. I had everything set up ready to go and got pregnant naturally. Due to deliver my miracle baby girl in 8 weeks. Doctors are not Gods. I am thinking your RE told you this to get you to your end goal ASAP. Donor eggs has a 80% success rate at the top clinics. However I don't think it is impossible to conceive on your own. Hang in there :)
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby Bristol » Mon Oct 01, 2012 12:37 pm

Sorry you were told this. I say if you are still ovulating there is still a chance. Fittblonde is a great example. Do you know what your follicle count is? I am just curious. I turn 42 in 3 months and have had two miscarriages. I had elevated fsh when I got pregnant with my LO and went off my follicle count more than the other tests. I would keep up with the accupuncture and getting ready for pregnancy. Good Luck!!!
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Tue Oct 09, 2012 4:39 am

Hi Bristol, what do you mean by follicle count? My FSH or AMH?
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Re: RE consultation says nothing left but doner eggs at 42!!

Postby Bristol » Tue Oct 09, 2012 11:56 am

Hi, it is the antral follicle count which I cant really remember what day they do it but I believe it is early in the cycle. Mine was 21 2 1/2 years ago and 11 months ago was 13 so it is probably below 10 now. I believe 4 or less is considered low but a friend on this board had IVF with I believe like 6 and she had successful IVF. Baby was just born recently and she is over 42. She did the DHEA suppositories a few months prior to IVF. I just thought the antral follicle count would be a good place for you to start in your process. Also, maybe discuss with your RE taking DHEA for a few months then do another antral follicle count and then evaluate the possibility of using your own eggs. I think the DHEA and accupunture would be a good thing to do before tossing out the idea of using your own eggs. However, I am not sure if you are opposed to using donor eggs but if you do decide to do that then I personally think it is a really beautiful thing. I know it is expensive but really a wonderful gift if you think about it. You can nuture that baby from the start and I know several people on here who have done it and are very very happy. Good Luck in whatever decision you make!
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