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time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Sat Nov 17, 2012 5:11 am

hi has anyone over 41 set a time limit on when to stop ttc?
20 months of trying, tests in abundance to look forward to, :-/ af due anyday now, and my other half having cysts in all the wrong places certainly taking its toll on me. X
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Re: time limits??

Postby Luvsdogs » Sat Nov 17, 2012 8:03 am

Hi gillybobs. I am 40 and had this talk once with DH but he nipped it in the bud immediately. I would say to not add any additional stress, not to put a time limit just yet! Lots of bfps in the 40s around here! Since you have been TTc for 20 months have you gone in to see if you can get something to help or is that what you mean by tests?
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Re: time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Sat Nov 17, 2012 8:57 am

thanks for reply. waiting for af any day then 2 blood tests based on when it arrives . got a pelvic ultrasound on the 5th of Dec, and waiting for appt for hysterosalpingogram. other half now having trouble with 2 cysts where we don't want them to be. Waiting for his gp appt see what the damage is. Just breaking my heart all of this :(
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Re: time limits??

Postby Hoopla » Sat Nov 17, 2012 2:59 pm

Hi Gillybobs,

I definitely have set time limits in the past -and then re-set them, and re-set them again! I guess I will stop TTC when my heart stops telling me that there is one more little baby inside of me just waiting to be born. I think for me, setting the limits comes from my head, but it is really my heart that dictates!!

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Re: time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Sun Nov 18, 2012 9:54 am

WEll you all seem pretty determined, I guess do think I'd like to keep trying til nature says its no longer possible, but god it certainly chips away at your heart when af continues to butt in every month. GOt af pains now and due Tue. be glad for It to just hurry up now get it over with and get my blood tests done on the 2nd and 21ST cd. XXx
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Re: time limits??

Postby 10thtimearound » Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:20 am

We plan to TTC for a while yet we have a few good ttcing years left in us lol. My oldest daughter got married in June and I tease her all the time to give me a Grandbaby...or we just have another one of our own....she opted for us to go ahead and TTC LOL
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Re: time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:43 am

WEll how could you not, they're so god Damn sweet ha was having a super whingy morning but been that busy its knocked it out of me. HA
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Re: time limits??

Postby JenniHavingFaith » Mon Nov 19, 2012 10:58 am

We're not setting any time limits since we're TTCing our first and probably our only. We'll just keep going til we determine it's time to stop.
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Re: time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Mon Nov 19, 2012 1:35 pm

Yeah Jenni this is our first baby too, but obviously 20 months on is beginning to take its toll. saying that for twelve months my bf was actually just a sperm donor and ttc was all done artificially. not the best chance to conceive, then we chatted and got into a relationship, hopefully now we have a better chance and Now the doctors and hospital on our side. XXX
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Re: time limits??

Postby JenniHavingFaith » Mon Nov 19, 2012 9:44 pm

gillybobs wrote:Yeah Jenni this is our first baby too, but obviously 20 months on is beginning to take its toll. saying that for twelve months my bf was actually just a sperm donor and ttc was all done artificially. not the best chance to conceive, then we chatted and got into a relationship, hopefully now we have a better chance and Now the doctors and hospital on our side. XXX


Subtract the 12 from 20 and that's only 8. Which really is not all that long. Start your count over again! :D
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Re: time limits??

Postby gillybobs » Tue Nov 20, 2012 1:36 am

I used a diff sperm donor before meeting Steve, so only tried ni in august September, October I was abroad all right thru ovulation, bad timing but loved Portugal ha back on track now. but unsure what his results are from sperm test but being called in to see his gp doesn't sound so good. have heard that clomid works too boost sperm as well as eggs so if its a silly thing like a low count I'm not gonna panic too much xxx
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Re: time limits??

Postby Lily1218 » Sun Dec 02, 2012 2:40 pm

We haven't set a time limit but I know that at some point DH will put an end to it. I've had to quit work and stop medication to ttc and that puts a big financial strain on him but its more that he doesn't want me to be stressed and unhappy for years or for that to effect our relationship. So its my job now to find coping mechanisms so that doesn't happen!
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Re: time limits??

Postby TTCnumber2at42 » Tue Dec 04, 2012 7:11 am

We will TTC until my 43 birthday (Sept. 11, 2013). This is why I am giving it my all this year! I will deal with the panic attacks mid next year!
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