TTC at 40

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Re: TTC at 40

Postby MamaPossible2010 » Mon Oct 30, 2017 9:36 am

Hi there. I am Shelly. I just turned 42 and my clock is really ticking now. I have realized recently that I definitely would like one more baby to feel complete. I started young. Unexpected pregnancy and baby at 19 who was sick from birth. Passed away at age 9 after beating the odds for so long. It was a very long, hard life for him.. for us. Had my second 2 weeks after my 21st birthday. Another boy who is away at college, 22 years old, almost finished.

Met my DH, who is 13.5 years my senior soon after my ex (abusive relationship) and he is my soul mate. We have a 12 year old DD from one round of clomid & back to back IUI, and a set of twin girls from the same at age 34 and 1/2. I used to be very active on these boards, but never thought I'd feel this way again. It isn't the twins, LOL, maybe it was at 1st, life was crazy, but I do seem to enjoy chaos, lol, but now with my girls in full time school and growing up, it's been hitting me harder & harder over the past year or so, but hub was injured at work, then out of a job, and money was too tight to think about this. Things are just starting to turn around in that dept. so I feel ready. I was going to get my CD 3 bloods done today to start things off, but I am on day 4, due to the weekend, and I read and heard from people who say I may best wanna wait until next month (if i get wrong results, I won't know and it could cause stress for me), and just go at it as normal this cycle, maybe talk to hub more, though he knows how I am feeling now and was with me at the appt. (U/S was perfect. Uterus & ovaries checked out fine.)

Here is where our age difference is finally irking me a bit because I do understand why he'd be fine at his age as is (how things are now), but had I married someone my own age, they would more likely be in this to win it, but I know he'd be a great dad again, and I think they help keep you young... I feel 22, and play with my kids like a teenager, and our girls are only 7 so it's not like they are 25 and we are starting over, which would be harder to him at his age, but we already have a long haul left, so not as big of an adjustment IMO. I don't ever feel my age except when t comes to the damn words ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE and worse yet.. OVER 40, so I need some support, and we will talk more, but he surely hasn't said NOOOO! We have never prevented, but regardless of what we do at home, nailing the big O.. it just seems to take the IUI. Maybe it's my mucus... we never figured that out, but with IUI we always fell pregnant fast. IDK how it would be now though. :(.

I need some support of ladies in my age group and the 40's roll call said better to go here, so HERE I AM!!!

Wish you all much success too!

HUGS,
Shelly
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby Angelique76 » Tue Oct 31, 2017 7:20 am

Welcome Shelly and a late welcome to Mercy. I will inbox you re. support.

Have a lovely day.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby MercyMe » Tue Oct 31, 2017 7:25 am

Shelly! Welcome! Thanks for sharing your story. We are walking with you in this journey of trying when everyone says it's too late. We have hope! It does happen and I hope your dreams come to you.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby Angelique76 » Thu Nov 02, 2017 12:20 am

Morning ladies, on top of this page we created a FB page. I did PM you. Join us if you like.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby Kawanmk » Thu Nov 02, 2017 2:59 pm

Hi there!

I am 42 and n the middle of a FET. I have had 3 previous frozen cycles that didn't take. My DH I 41 and doesn't have any children of his own. I have 3 from a previous marriage. I'm excited, yet nervous. My baby is 17, middle daughter 20, and my oldest is 23. I am seriously starting all over! BUT we are determined! I have 8 frozen embryos. Hopefully, we don't use them all this first round. I would like at least two more children.

So glad you all are here!!!

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Re: TTC at 40

Postby zebracakes17 » Mon Nov 06, 2017 9:00 pm

I am 40 and this is my only chance until hubby gets back in town and we are not sure how long that will be. I am in my 2week wait so fingers crossed
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby Ajb38 » Wed Nov 15, 2017 2:10 pm

Hi ladies, I never thought about joining this board as I keep forgetting that I am actually 40 now, lol. I just turned 40 in July. I have a son who is 3 that I got pregnant with the second month trying. Fast forward 4 years and I roll my eyes when people say that! We started trying on our own about 2 years ago for #2. We had no luck so at the beginning of this year we started seeing a fertility dr. I had my first IUI in March-BFN. Second IUI in April-BFP, but had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. Found out through pathology from D&C that it was actually a partial molar pregnancy so we couldn't TTC for about 5 months. I had IUI #3 last month-BFN. Now I am having IUI #4 next week. I am hoping this is the one that sticks. I am only giving it until the end of the year then closing up shop. I feel like TTC takes over my life and I can never plan for the future because what if I am pregnant, etc. I am so glad to have found this group and hope we all have much luck.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby MercyMe » Thu Nov 16, 2017 6:22 am

Good morning Kawan, zebracakes and I already forgot your name! I have been away for a while for laziness sake! Welcome and I wish you the best. I am not doing any fertility treatments so I am afraid I don't know what the lingo means from your posts. But you are wanting a baby and that I understand! I am in my tww right now but I don't believe I am pregnant. I am fairly certain we missed our window this month (it was busy and our baby isn't sleeping so no labido).

I wish you many bfp!
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby Kawanmk » Fri Nov 24, 2017 7:12 pm

Hi there! I am sorry you missed out this time MercyMe! You're take home baby is on its way!!!
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby MercyMe » Sat Nov 25, 2017 6:18 am

Kawanmk I have a good feeling about this coming month! We shall see!
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby mellyb » Tue Dec 05, 2017 1:34 am

Hi ladies. Sorry to intrude but im looking fir a friendly place. I'm Mel and I'm 41. I won't bore you all with my situation right now but I'm having to use donor eggs which as been really hard for me to deal with. I starting pill cycle on 20 december so not long now. I'm only able to do 3dt so really worried. I live in spain so don't really have anyone I scan speak to in my own language about things, husbands spanish too. I feel old and pretty useless that i can't give my husband the family he wants myself. Hoping that there are others of you here in similar situations or at least who are my age and trying to deal with all this emotion!!
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby MercyMe » Tue Dec 05, 2017 5:47 am

Mellyb,
I am so sorry for your pain. We are all dealing with these emotions in some way. It's hard when you want a baby and it's so out of our control. All you can do is put yourself in a position to make it happen and then hope. Don't stop hoping. I had my first baby at 41 and I am hoping for another at 42. It can happen.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby mellyb » Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:54 am

Thankyou mercy. It's just nice to be able to share and can't with others who understand what you are going through. So many people say "Oh I know ivf is hard" they really have no idea! Unless you experience it first-hand you just can't appreciate that statement.
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Re: TTC at 40- I wanted to share I just found out I am(and I

Postby CabbagePatchGrl » Tue Dec 26, 2017 5:24 pm

I wanted to let you all know not to give up. I thought it would never happen, that I "ran out of time". I have had a very hard life and when the love of my life died in 2006, I finally got pregnant by a trusted friend, who 5 years later i married. Because his death had been so traumatic, I let people talk me out of it. I hated myself and to an extent him, and until I let my inner anger, and shame go, I didn't really focus on myself. I healed my head, my thoughts, created a business, from scratch and was still very empty and somewhat bitter. I let a lot of negative things and people affect my life. What everyone had to say deeply impacted me. But when I turned around those people that I valued so much really weren't there. Then when I was too exhausted and depressed, I pulled out of it. I watched whatever religious programming was on, did parasite cleansing, liver cleansing, ate pineapple, sweet potatoes, drank distilled water, made my own colloidal silver, bought a filtered shower head, ate vitamins, made green smoothies, did castor oil packs. and acv tampons, enemas, coconut oil. spices, turmeric, curcumin, 3000mg vitamin c, ate wads of watermelon. Exercise, Yoga poses, pedalling my pedaller in my office ( I work from home). Then earlier this month, I thought, let's give it a shot, the old fashioned way, I had just had a period for the first time in 6 months. (and on the spur of the moment I put my feet above my head for 20 minutes.) I have drank sea salt in water everyday, de/bentonite shakes, wormwood/black hull walnut complex in a water bottle every morning. The next day, I felt a little dizzy, I thought it was allergies, the smell of fried food made me think the oil was bad at Publix. I felt this pinch from the inside by my belly button. I went for a walk, sat down to study and I had this amazing focus. That week I tried to stay stress free, and thought I can't be. I took a test it was negative, We had a fight when I found out my husbands' company was being sold. All I could think of was, I am not going back to ground zero again. We were fighting badly the last week or so and I have contemplated divorce. I pretty much wanted to stay in bed and cancel Christmas Day. At 2 am I was online doing some research and I felt this pinch in the same spot. I had thought God gave up on me. I took a test for the heck of it yesterday morning and it was blinking and I thought it was defective. I put it in the bathroom trash, tip down, went to bed and was crying for all of my losses and anguish. I cried so hard, I thought that that is what next made me so sick for 10 minutes. I washed my face and laid down with my cat. An hour later I took a test and again it was negative. Then, for some reason, I took the one out of the trash. It said Yes. I ran to the only store open and bought a 2 pack. This morning I took another one. It said Yes. So through everything, don't give up your faith, stay away from negative people. I think the one thing that hurt me so much is the one person in the world that I thought I could confide anything in said to me, "and you're how old?" I told her "younger than you." And no she's not going to be a candidate for godmother.
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Re: TTC at 40

Postby CabbagePatchGrl » Tue Dec 26, 2017 5:25 pm

Yes, and I am 51
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