IVF August/September ~ Part 16

Is in vitro fertilization helping you achieve your dream of parenthood? Discuss IVF, FET, donor egg and surrogacy here!

Moderators: unaffected, JessM, southernbelle, maddy

What buddy group name do you like the best?

Deperate (for a baby) Housewifes
2
9%
It's not over until Menopause
10
45%
IVF'ers On A Mission
0
No votes
IVF'ers Unite- We won't stop until we get a BFP
2
9%
Mission BFPossible
5
23%
BFP or not we are sticking together
2
9%
Failure is a word we don't accept
1
5%
 
Total votes : 22

Postby mereyurk » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:17 am

Jules- so your 12dpo then? I'm sorry. I know I can say hold out for 2 more days but I didnt get myself that information when it was 12 days. You do never know though. Do you have insurance coverage? How did you pay for yours?
Me (Meredith) 30 DH 31
June 2001- Surprise BFP- Blighted Ovum
TTC since June 2005
DX 2007: Damaged tubes
IUI- April 2007 Tubal Pregnancy
(right tube removed)
IVF #1- September 2007- Chemical Pregnancy
IVF #2- February 2008- OHSS Froze embryos
FET #1- March 2008 - BFN (4 frozen embryos)
IVF #3- May 2008- M/C 10 weeks (10 Frozen embryos)
DX- Blood Clotting disorder
FET#2- February 2009- BFN (2 frozen embryos)
IVF#4- September 2009 BFN ( 2 blasts frozen)
TTC much needed break Sept 09-Sept 11
FET#3- September/October
Transfer October 11
BFP!!! Due June 29

Image



"You may have not end up where you thought you'd be, but you always end up where your meant to be "
User avatar
mereyurk
TTC Princess
TTC Princess
 
Posts: 237
Joined: Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:00 am
Location: Pennsylvania

Postby jules36 » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:23 am

Mere: I do not have insurance coverage. My Dad gave us some money and the rest went on a credit card. I really think I might look at a shared risk program. don't know what I am going to do yet, I am just in shock, I almost feel numb.
Me-39 DH-43 TTC#1 since 3/2008
IVF #: 1-4 BFN
Natural BFP: 5/25/2011 M/C: 7/2/2011
Natural BFP: Due Date 8/1/2012
<a href="http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Getting Pregnant"><img src="http://global.thebump.com/tickers/tt129b8d.aspx" alt=" Pregnancy Ticker" border="0" /></a>
User avatar
jules36
BabyDuster
BabyDuster
 
Posts: 83
Joined: Tue Aug 19, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Nashville, Tennessee

Postby LorrieS » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:28 am

Girls I am so depressed for this group today. I'm feeling so sad. How can so much negative happen to so many girls at once? It's just horrible turn of events. I'm sick to my stomach. BIG HUGS to everyone. :grouphug:

Quinn - I am so sorry for ending up with 2. How can he say that about aborting??? I am in shock! What kind of practice (Dr) would say that?? It blows my mind. I hope and pray your 2 embies are all you need and they have no issues.

Jules - I'm so sorry for todays BFN. I really hope by a miracle of all miracles for this group it turns around for you and tomorrow is a BFP!

crunchy - There is definately something NOT RIGHT with your situation. It's horrid! This doesn't sound like it's possible! Are they going to do the transfer then? What was resolved (if so) before you hung up?

stboom - hon, I feel so bad. I am so so sorry. I just don't know how to express my sadness without making matters feel worse. I don't blame you for not going to work. How can you??? It's too heartbreaking to bare. 70% chance!! You're right....why wouldn't it work!!! You're not an idiot. You had '70%' reasons to think it would work. :hugs:

Jenny - I am thinking of you. I just can't imagine your pain. I am so very very sorry for your loss. xox
Lorrie (45) Tom (44) ANGELS (2)
TTC for 18 years
10/09 - Chemical :angel:
12/24/09 - u/s :hb: only 62
12/26/09 - m/c @ 6w5d :angel:
Image


Image

"There’s only one way to learn Endurance…...and that's to Endure."


http://myjourneythroughitall.blogspot.com/
User avatar
LorrieS
TTC Diva
TTC Diva
 
Posts: 407
Joined: Sun Apr 13, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Maryland

Postby mereyurk » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:36 am

quinn- I would want all them sent over as well. I dont blame you. You never know. I dont want to do much today either. I'm looking for a new job as we speak.

jules- Your in my spot arent you? I wish I would have done a shared risk too. But for now I would like to use my two frozens and then go work at staples. Im sorry. I know it sucks. I hate this. I was in shock too cause I truly belived it would work. I had a good feeling for you. You went through so much waiting since June and having horrible OHSS. then waiting so long and they were good news. You had PGD. I had a good feeling for you. Maybe they are later implanters cause they were frozen. I know it's tough being negative and even saying its early wont change how you feel. Cause I know how I felt on Saturday.

Lorrie- How dpo are you now?
Me (Meredith) 30 DH 31
June 2001- Surprise BFP- Blighted Ovum
TTC since June 2005
DX 2007: Damaged tubes
IUI- April 2007 Tubal Pregnancy
(right tube removed)
IVF #1- September 2007- Chemical Pregnancy
IVF #2- February 2008- OHSS Froze embryos
FET #1- March 2008 - BFN (4 frozen embryos)
IVF #3- May 2008- M/C 10 weeks (10 Frozen embryos)
DX- Blood Clotting disorder
FET#2- February 2009- BFN (2 frozen embryos)
IVF#4- September 2009 BFN ( 2 blasts frozen)
TTC much needed break Sept 09-Sept 11
FET#3- September/October
Transfer October 11
BFP!!! Due June 29

Image



"You may have not end up where you thought you'd be, but you always end up where your meant to be "
User avatar
mereyurk
TTC Princess
TTC Princess
 
Posts: 237
Joined: Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:00 am
Location: Pennsylvania

Postby LorrieS » Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:38 am

Mere - I think 7DPO. I'm never good at figuring that out. But I had ER last Tues and today is Tues so that would be 7 days past O right?


I just called the RE's office a questioned why they have my Beta so far, on Oct 16. I wanted to come in on Wednesday the 14th cause that would be enough time after ET. She said No. You are right where you need to be. So Oct 16 is beta :(
Last edited by LorrieS on Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:40 am, edited 2 times in total.
Lorrie (45) Tom (44) ANGELS (2)
TTC for 18 years
10/09 - Chemical :angel:
12/24/09 - u/s :hb: only 62
12/26/09 - m/c @ 6w5d :angel:
Image


Image

"There’s only one way to learn Endurance…...and that's to Endure."


http://myjourneythroughitall.blogspot.com/
User avatar
LorrieS
TTC Diva
TTC Diva
 
Posts: 407
Joined: Sun Apr 13, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Maryland

Postby heath8025 » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:00 am

Jules- I am really sorry about that BFN I know at this point nothing will make you feel better I just did this on Sunday.... But then it dawned on me being negative and thinking it didn't work isn't helping anything so I google lots and lots and found several people who had negative HPT and positive Betas a few even took them on the morning of their betas... so I am not giving up quite yet I am cautiously optimistic. Its hard when so many people say at 12dpo you are out but even if you read the hpt instructions only 80% will show so if you lined ten of us ttc'ers up 2 of us wouldn't show at 12dpo lets pray that we are those two and maybe just maybe we will have BFP come friday. I wanted to test this morning but I stopped myself I want to hope for a miracle they do happen.

My SIL reminded me with my niece she never had a positive hpt she had to do three blood test to confirm... I know these are the exceptions not the rule but girl.... WHO SAYS WE HAVE TO FOLLOW THE RULE!!!!! Lets be positive for each other I know its hard but I am in on Friday with you!
heath8025
Friend
 
Posts: 14
Joined: Tue Jun 10, 2008 12:00 am

Postby mereyurk » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:01 am

The day you had your ER is the day of ovulation. Yes 7dpo or you would be 4dp 3dt. It should be on the 13th. Two weeks later. 16 is long to wait. You should test 14dpo. I know you dont want to early but that is the day most people get their beta. Im so anxious for you.
Me (Meredith) 30 DH 31
June 2001- Surprise BFP- Blighted Ovum
TTC since June 2005
DX 2007: Damaged tubes
IUI- April 2007 Tubal Pregnancy
(right tube removed)
IVF #1- September 2007- Chemical Pregnancy
IVF #2- February 2008- OHSS Froze embryos
FET #1- March 2008 - BFN (4 frozen embryos)
IVF #3- May 2008- M/C 10 weeks (10 Frozen embryos)
DX- Blood Clotting disorder
FET#2- February 2009- BFN (2 frozen embryos)
IVF#4- September 2009 BFN ( 2 blasts frozen)
TTC much needed break Sept 09-Sept 11
FET#3- September/October
Transfer October 11
BFP!!! Due June 29

Image



"You may have not end up where you thought you'd be, but you always end up where your meant to be "
User avatar
mereyurk
TTC Princess
TTC Princess
 
Posts: 237
Joined: Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:00 am
Location: Pennsylvania

Postby heath8025 » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:04 am

Mere & Lorrie- My beta isn't until Friday which puts me at 17dpo!!!! And that is all they due there I am sure there is a reason some RE's wait to do a Beta
heath8025
Friend
 
Posts: 14
Joined: Tue Jun 10, 2008 12:00 am

Postby mereyurk » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:21 am

So that means today your 14dpo then? I guess your not testing again are you?
Me (Meredith) 30 DH 31
June 2001- Surprise BFP- Blighted Ovum
TTC since June 2005
DX 2007: Damaged tubes
IUI- April 2007 Tubal Pregnancy
(right tube removed)
IVF #1- September 2007- Chemical Pregnancy
IVF #2- February 2008- OHSS Froze embryos
FET #1- March 2008 - BFN (4 frozen embryos)
IVF #3- May 2008- M/C 10 weeks (10 Frozen embryos)
DX- Blood Clotting disorder
FET#2- February 2009- BFN (2 frozen embryos)
IVF#4- September 2009 BFN ( 2 blasts frozen)
TTC much needed break Sept 09-Sept 11
FET#3- September/October
Transfer October 11
BFP!!! Due June 29

Image



"You may have not end up where you thought you'd be, but you always end up where your meant to be "
User avatar
mereyurk
TTC Princess
TTC Princess
 
Posts: 237
Joined: Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:00 am
Location: Pennsylvania

Postby LorrieS » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:30 am

Mere - I won't be testing early.....I don't think. lol. I just can't bring myself to seeing WHITE again! I thought about it and what I might do is test when I come home from Beta. This way I don't have to wait for that disappointing phone call.
Lorrie (45) Tom (44) ANGELS (2)
TTC for 18 years
10/09 - Chemical :angel:
12/24/09 - u/s :hb: only 62
12/26/09 - m/c @ 6w5d :angel:
Image


Image

"There’s only one way to learn Endurance…...and that's to Endure."


http://myjourneythroughitall.blogspot.com/
User avatar
LorrieS
TTC Diva
TTC Diva
 
Posts: 407
Joined: Sun Apr 13, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Maryland

Postby CarrieAndy » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:37 am

OMG------ Jenny- NOOOO.. I am sooo sorry honey. I am in total shock! I actually stopped to read your post again and my heart sank into my tummy.... To have an IVF fail sucks, but that is just plain cruel. Omg, I dont know what to say. I really dont! We are all here for you.

I cant stop crying for everyone. Its just bad news after bad news!

Jules-Quinn, Stboom, I am so thinking about you guys too!

I cant even believe this is happening..I must be super PMS'y. OH my why does this happen..

Ok, I think we need to make a name change to this group! Maybe it'll change from bad to good.

Jenny- I just can't get over this....Im pained.
Me-34, DH-29, DD-13 TTC since 10/07
IUI#1- BFN
IUI#2 BFP!! (chemical)
IVF#1 BFN (2 embies, none to freeze)
IVF #2- BFN (Transferred 3 embies 09/24/09)
IUI #3 11/2009-BFN
Coming soon: IVF #3!
On ART break, but still trying the old fashioned way
CarrieAndy
Friend
 
Posts: 8
Joined: Thu Sep 18, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Illinois

Postby jules36 » Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:57 am

I just broke down at work, real cute!!! Everyone is trying to comfort me, I am sure the next patient will wonder what in the heck happened to me! This is just too much to handle!!
Me-39 DH-43 TTC#1 since 3/2008
IVF #: 1-4 BFN
Natural BFP: 5/25/2011 M/C: 7/2/2011
Natural BFP: Due Date 8/1/2012
<a href="http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Getting Pregnant"><img src="http://global.thebump.com/tickers/tt129b8d.aspx" alt=" Pregnancy Ticker" border="0" /></a>
User avatar
jules36
BabyDuster
BabyDuster
 
Posts: 83
Joined: Tue Aug 19, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Nashville, Tennessee

Postby mereyurk » Tue Oct 06, 2009 8:11 am

Jules- I'm sorry. I really am. I know this sucks. I do know how you feel and you think I would have some advice or words of wisdom but I dont. I dont even know how to handle how I feel myself. I feel lost and no where to go. I'm not sure what is going on with my life or where Im suppose to be or anything. I feel I'm doing all this for nothing. It's just so much to go through for nothing. I dont get it. I had my break down the other night. I had one good night of crying for like a half hour. After that I felt I got it out and I felt better. I hope it does the same for you.

We are all strong women and will get through this. We need to keep pushing on and it just has to come for us. It just has to.

Carrie- AF for me should be here soon. They said my progesterone was down to 11. So now any day now. I had some cramps on and off. I think in the next day or 2. How are you holding up? You seen to handle this very well.

lorrie- Your strong for holding out. I cant never wait. But it seens easier for me to deal with when i test at home and process everything. Cause yesterday I didnt cry at all when she said it was negative. I already accpeted it by then.
Me (Meredith) 30 DH 31
June 2001- Surprise BFP- Blighted Ovum
TTC since June 2005
DX 2007: Damaged tubes
IUI- April 2007 Tubal Pregnancy
(right tube removed)
IVF #1- September 2007- Chemical Pregnancy
IVF #2- February 2008- OHSS Froze embryos
FET #1- March 2008 - BFN (4 frozen embryos)
IVF #3- May 2008- M/C 10 weeks (10 Frozen embryos)
DX- Blood Clotting disorder
FET#2- February 2009- BFN (2 frozen embryos)
IVF#4- September 2009 BFN ( 2 blasts frozen)
TTC much needed break Sept 09-Sept 11
FET#3- September/October
Transfer October 11
BFP!!! Due June 29

Image



"You may have not end up where you thought you'd be, but you always end up where your meant to be "
User avatar
mereyurk
TTC Princess
TTC Princess
 
Posts: 237
Joined: Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:00 am
Location: Pennsylvania

Postby Crunchy » Tue Oct 06, 2009 8:20 am

Our group just seems to be a flood of tears lately.

I broke down again this morning. My bank account is dwindling, the house is slipping away and I'm being bullied by the clinic. To top it off, today is the 3 year anniversary of my car accident. I am scared to death to drive anywhere, call me superstitious. I can't say a day doesn't pass that I wish I had died in that accident...

Lorrie - Nothing was resolved. I'm supposed to call them on CD1 which should be sometime this coming weekend.

Mere- I should be transferring the embryo this coming cycle.

Quinn - I praying for your two little embies.

Jules - I'm sorry for your bfn hun. Perhaps you just tested too early?? When is your beta scheduled? My thoughts are with you. :hugs:

The clinic guilt tripped me by saying the procedure increases implantation success by 10-15%. If the transfer fails and I don't have the hysteroscopy done I'd only end up blaming myself. I've contacted my gyno to see about having the procedure done. If he enters it as a well being procedure instead of a fertility issue, insurance might cover it.
Began TTC January 2008
Me 25: Cystic Ovaries, Never been pregnant
DH 37: Dx'ed w/ CBAVD 6/09
Married 10/31/05, TTC #1 since Jan. 2008
Natural conception is physically impossible for us
3 feline furbabies Takkun 4y/o, Lebo 1y/o & Squiggy 8 mnths

Jan 2010- Mini IVF w/ ICSI & TESA (FET) #1 FAILED, Embryo didn't survive thaw
June-Aug 2010 Conventional IVF w/ ICSI #1 w/ new RE CANCELLED, Funding fell through
Currently in limbo w/o direction as to our next step
Feel free to check out my blog: http://figlife.blogspot.com
User avatar
Crunchy
BabyDuster
BabyDuster
 
Posts: 75
Joined: Tue Sep 23, 2008 12:00 am
Location: New Jersey, USA

Postby CarrieAndy » Tue Oct 06, 2009 8:23 am

Mere- this has been the worst AF of my entire life. I slept 2 hours last night becuase I had the worst cramps ever! I MUST have had a thick lining becuase I am bleeding my someone cut off my figner! I am freezing and I am so tired. I was seconds away from calling into work, but thought better of it as I am going to have to take time off again in November for another cycle.

I feel stupid that I am whining about my cramps when so many others are going through much more.. However remember, that these cramps are the reminder that, I, once again, failed at making a baby! So its double the pain...

jules- be strong.. its not over yet sweetie! Im praying it will change....

Crunchy- That is horrible. Did they tell you that you needed that test before going into the study? Geeesh.. What a bunch of jerks!
Me-34, DH-29, DD-13 TTC since 10/07
IUI#1- BFN
IUI#2 BFP!! (chemical)
IVF#1 BFN (2 embies, none to freeze)
IVF #2- BFN (Transferred 3 embies 09/24/09)
IUI #3 11/2009-BFN
Coming soon: IVF #3!
On ART break, but still trying the old fashioned way
CarrieAndy
Friend
 
Posts: 8
Joined: Thu Sep 18, 2008 12:00 am
Location: Illinois

PreviousNext

Return to IVF