First IVF appt- what should I ask?

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First IVF appt- what should I ask?

Postby Jean789 » Tue May 26, 2015 9:53 am

Hi Ladies. We have an appt to discuss possibly starting the IVF journey the first week of June.

What do you wish you had asked at your first appointment? Is there something you think we should DEF bring up that we might not be thinking about at this time?

I appreciate any insight. Thanks!
2013: off BC - not trying, not preventing
2014: tried clomid through OBGYN and got referred to specialist
2015: 1st IUI- femara- BFN
2nd IUI- femara - BFN
3rd IUI- femara- BFN
4th IUI - femara and gonal f - BFN
Took a month off
5th IUI - femara, gonal f, ovidrel, progesterone - BFN
6th IUI - femara, gonal f ( increased) ovidrel, progesterone- BFN
IVF #1 - BFP m/c early ~4.5 weeks
IVF #2 - BFP! Beta #1 - 790!
First ultrasound 6w3d - 1 baby :-) heartbeat 122
Second ultrasound 8w3d on 12/3/15 heartbeat 182
Graduated from fertility doctor!
First OBGYN appt. went well! We have a very active, jumping bean! :-)
Next appt. at 14 weeks.
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Re: First IVF appt- what should I ask?

Postby Zerbinetta0 » Tue May 26, 2015 10:05 am

Hi everyone! This is my first post after stalking this board for awhile and soaking up your amazing stories.

We met with our RE for the first time in February, and started the long process (expecting first IVF cycle in early July). I'd reached out to friends who have been through IVF recently and asked them this same question. The best suggestions I received (and questions I'd never thought to ask) were:

Have you worked with couples dealing with our specific type(s) of infertility issues?
Do you have a end point (i.e., when you'd suggest that we end treatment)?
Do you work with different kinds of protocol based on patients and unsuccessful attempts?

Of course, the question I most desperately wanted an answer to is the one no doctor could accurately give - what are our chances of carrying a healthy baby to term? I've just had to let that one go.
Me: 40
Him: 45 (low motility, morphology and DNA fragmentation)
TTC: since May 2014
Prognosis: IVF with TESE and ICSI

5/20: hysteroscopy to remove septum
IVF #1 July 2015: transferred 1 PGD normal blast (2 frosties) - BFN
8/31: endometrial receptivity array (results: normal day 5 receptivity)
FET #1 11/11/15: transferred 2 PGD normal blasts - BFP!!!!, MMC at 7 weeks followed by D&C
IVF #2 ???
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Re: First IVF appt- what should I ask?

Postby hero7 » Thu Jul 30, 2015 7:40 am

Hi Jean, I just saw your posts and wanted to wish you good luck for your IVF next month! My DH and I go for our 2nd consultation today with the fertility specialist - 1st consult we set up all our tests, etc.

I'm nervous and excited too! I was told I have a bum left tube so may require surgery. I have the same questions as you - how long does this take and what should I be asking the doctor!?! I don't even know at this point if IVF will be our initial protocol, but I'm pretty sure it will...

If you have any tips now that you've been there/done that, I'd love to hear them! Babydust to you!!!
Me: 38
Hubby: 42

Married 11/2/2014
TTC #1

March 2015 - confirmed early MC/CP
May & June 2015 - Clomid 50mg - BFN
July 2015 - Testing done: AMH 0.72, FSH 10, DH SA #s are great, but lowish morphology
Aug 2015 - Follistim w/ timed - BFN
Oct 2015 - Follistim w/ IUI - BFN
Dec 2015 - New RE!! Updated labs - AMH is now 1.3! Started IVF meds 12/31, retrieval mid-Jan
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