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IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby Muffin1986 » Sat Sep 16, 2017 2:00 am

Hi
I've just finished my first round of IVF with PGD and got a BFN with my third and final frozen embryo. I'm devastated and can't think why it's not working everything is normal we have no fertility issues everything in the tests came back bang on average for both of us even had a further test on my womb cavity which they say is normal we have no health issues and are having PGD as a carry a genetic condition that only effects men. The doctors refused to transfer 2 embryos because of my age (31) so I'm at a loose end weather to go for round 2 or try naturally. I did not think I'd cope well if the tests came back positive for the condition of we got pregnant naturally which is why I went for the PGD but it's not been easy and it looks like it's not working for us and we really want a child so naturally it may have to be. I've a 75% chance of a healthy baby so I guess the odds are good.
I would just like advice is it worth a second round if this one has failed is a second likely to? Anyone been in this situation before?
I get 3 rounds on nhs but have to go back and forth to London for my treatment and everything takes a while I'm worrying I'm getting no younger (I'm 32 in Feb) and I know the older I get the chance of me conceiving naturally gets less and less this round from egg collection to transfers has taken 9 months by the time I start round 2 we will be a year if not more in hopefully someone who has been in this postition can help
Thank you xx
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Re: IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby Danaa » Sun Sep 17, 2017 2:23 am

I honestly don't know what to say...is a tough decision.
I guess all you can do is you and your partner talk about everything and make a decision together.
Good luck!
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Re: IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby mimimama » Fri Oct 27, 2017 4:00 am

Best of luck with any decision of yours xx
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Re: IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Thu Apr 19, 2018 2:38 am

Hi, Muffin! I vote for doing the same thing, though the decision is too personal.
PGD tests not only for genetic diseases but for chromosomal abnormalties. At the age 31+ closer to 50% of our embies are going to be chromosomally abnormal. Most of these abnormalties are fatal and end in mc. Some, like trisomy21 may result in a viable birth. To exclude all these negatives I'd go for PGD testing whilst cycling#2 as well.
Wish you all the best of luck whatever your decision is.
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Re: IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby BeckyL » Sun Jun 10, 2018 6:45 am

We had my first child naturally after an ectopic pregnancy where one tube was left severely damaged. Had huge troubles falling pregnant with baby number 2. No clear explanations why we couldn't fall, it was so frustrating! Finally after 11 transfers (4 rounds I think) I got my baby Cam!! I had him at age 37. I feel so lucky! Best of luck
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Re: IVF/PGD-help devastated and confused

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Fri Jun 15, 2018 3:05 am

Muffin1986 wrote:Hi
I've just finished my first round of IVF with PGD and got a BFN with my third and final frozen embryo. I'm devastated and can't think why it's not working everything is normal we have no fertility issues everything in the tests came back bang on average for both of us even had a further test on my womb cavity which they say is normal we have no health issues and are having PGD as a carry a genetic condition that only effects men. The doctors refused to transfer 2 embryos because of my age (31) so I'm at a loose end weather to go for round 2 or try naturally. I did not think I'd cope well if the tests came back positive for the condition of we got pregnant naturally which is why I went for the PGD but it's not been easy and it looks like it's not working for us and we really want a child so naturally it may have to be. I've a 75% chance of a healthy baby so I guess the odds are good.
I would just like advice is it worth a second round if this one has failed is a second likely to? Anyone been in this situation before?
I get 3 rounds on nhs but have to go back and forth to London for my treatment and everything takes a while I'm worrying I'm getting no younger (I'm 32 in Feb) and I know the older I get the chance of me conceiving naturally gets less and less this round from egg collection to transfers has taken 9 months by the time I start round 2 we will be a year if not more in hopefully someone who has been in this postition can help
Thank you xx

The pain that you've been feeling can't be compared to the joy that's coming. :hugs: I truly think you're on the right track with PGD testing. PGD is not only for genetic diseases. It's also for chromosomal abnormalties. Being closer to ripe age will more likely seem 50% or more of our embryos are going to be chromosomally abnormal. Most of these abnormalties are fatal and end in mc. Some like trisomy 21 (Down's syndrome) may result in a viable birth. So it's useful you get your embies tested for all those things. Besides you're given 75% chance of having a healthy baby which is superb and can be definitely counted on. Yet one more thing. If you failed with shot#1 it doesn't actually mean you'll fail with #2!! You're still capable of catching that very super healthy egg!! (Me-40yrs oldie. dx: endo & pcos. Had 2 lapos with no actual result. My last one caused my left ovary removal. We tried 2 fresh ivf cycles with oe which failed. Switched to donor egg. Got prego with shot#1 de ivf.) Keeping you in my prayers!
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