3 failed cycles-advice please!

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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby BettyJames » Sun Aug 19, 2018 7:56 am

Hey there Dear. how are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear from you. It really breaks my heart. You seem like strong women. I know the struggle cause I have been there myself. I was very devasted. However, I went to a clinic in Ukraine. I didn't really want to go. I lost all hope because of my mc. However glad that my DH took me. It was a tough journey. Surrogacy was the option we went for. It was really a great choice. I am really happy now. I suggest this to everyone. I wish you get whatever you want. Take care and lots of love for you.
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby hannahdavid » Sun Aug 19, 2018 8:03 am

Hey, I am really sorry to hear about your failed cycle. I have been through this situation and can totally understand how that might have felt like. It can get really tough. My suggestion to you would be to first make sure that you get the ERA tests done. Secondly, make sure that the doctor you are visiting is experienced. They should also have a high success rate. These two things really matter. They will help increase your chance of success. I am thinking about giving IVF a second try but I'm searching for a better place. I will be attending this infertility awareness event being held. This is mainly because I want to learn more about everything. I want to see what other options are available for me. Good luck to you. Don't give up I am sure you will soon conceive. Sending baby dust your way.
-Low AMH and High FSH
-Poor Ovarian Reserve
-5 IUIs (failed)
-1 IVF (failed)
Life is a total mess
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby maria1212 » Sat Aug 25, 2018 11:16 am

I am feeling sorry for the bad experience you had with Lotus. Many people are being scammed by them and I am happy that you are awaring the people about this scammer clinic. I am very thankful to you that you have shared your experience. There are many other clinics which are doing their best in helping infertile people through the procedure of surrogacy. One must choose the clinic after searching for the best one. For this purpose, more and more awareness must be spread.
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby jess100 » Mon Aug 27, 2018 8:31 am

Hi, hope you are doing good now. Three failed IVF’s? Nothing could be worse than this. I'm so sorry that you are going through a tough time. I'm glad that you are still struggling against infertility. You are a brave woman. You have used failure as an inspiration. of course, we have to fight through some bad days to earn the good days of our life. Well, choosing a right fertility treatment is very important. Why didn’t you try surrogacy? It has a high success rate than any other fertility treatment. My sister was on the same boat. She had gone through two miscarriages and after that, she and her husband decided to go for surrogacy. They chose the best clinic in Europe. She has completed her two cycles and is quite satisfied with the treatment. You should visit this clinic once. You will not regret your decision. God bless you.
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby Laurawatson » Wed Aug 29, 2018 8:53 am

Maybe it was not meant to be work out for you. All i can say is don't lose hope and don't take stress also. Maybe your stress has caused you failure. Avoid as much stress as you can. And take extra care of your diet as well. IVF only works if you stay healthy and feel healthy. you need to divert your mind in something in order to stay calm and relaxed. Watch success stories regarding IVF. I am sure they will not only make you calm and relax but will motivate you as well.
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby mimimama » Tue Sep 25, 2018 3:29 am

Hi, I am sorry to know your story. I would recommend doing additional tests before proceed with future treatments. There are great variety of reasons why a woman might experience IVF failures. Depends on issues you have, you might consider undergoing IVF with PGS NGS, DE or surrogacy. Good luck
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
July 2017 - our daughter M arrived, we are so happy
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby beckybenson » Wed Oct 24, 2018 9:57 am

Hello. I hope you are feeling better now. Your story really saddened me. How you are dealing with this is beyond me. I'm sorry to hear about your failed IVF. Maybe its not for you. I wouldn't go for it again. I'm not saying you shouldn't too. If you feel like it might work this time you should give it a try. But if you want to be more practical about this, I think its time to discuss your other options with your doctors. There's obviously something wrong that is preventing the embryos from attachments. Sometimes its hard to explain what that thing is. You could talk to your doctor about surrogacy and whether you can go for it or not. I hope you find a solution soon. Good luck.
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby Caprice » Thu Dec 27, 2018 11:03 am

It's actually quite common. I know, you're probably thinking it's not. But, three failed cycles isn't that big a deal. I'm sorry you've had to experience it. It must have been tough. No doubt, it can get really frustrating. If it's any consolation, my sister conceived after her fifth cycle. She had lost all hope after her second attempt. It was a nightmare, keeping her going. She miscarried on her fourth attempt. Fifth time lucky! So, there's always hope! Don't give up, and keep at it. Nobody can say for sure why it didn't work out. Although, I hope it happens in the next attempt. Sending you my best regards and love. You can do this!
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Re: 3 failed cycles-advice please!

Postby AlyssaMiller » Fri Dec 28, 2018 6:40 pm

Hey there! I hope you are feeling better now. I m so sorry to hear about your failed IVF. IVF cycles are so expensive, that must have cost you a lot. Many of my friends have conceived with the help of IVF. For most people, it takes 2-3 cycles to be successful. So you have nothing to worry about. I think you should change your clinic, find any clinic with a high success rate. I don't think this clinic will be able to help you. The more successful the clinic is, the chances of success for you will be more. Don't worry hon! Everything will be fine. Just take good care of yourself. Don't give up and keep trying. You will get your BFP soon enough. Stay blessed! Good Luck!
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