Trying to decide if we should bother to do IUI...please vote

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Should I do the IUI?

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Trying to decide if we should bother to do IUI...please vote

Postby Ema » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:06 pm

Hi,

We have been TTC for 2 years and 2 months :( I have endo and DH is in testicular failure with only 2 million motile sperm.

We've been told to do IVF but CAN NOT afford it-no way no how. So IUI with injections is the next best bet with a 10% chance of working. :roll:

We have been told it might work within 10 tries. :shock: But our new RE is VERY skeptical. Basically said it's a waste of time.

____________________added in:

Nope DH hates the idea of donor sperm. And I should have said we have had ongoing moral issues with IVF which also rules it out.




Would you honestly try this? If this was you...what would you do?
Last edited by Ema on Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Postby allibees » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:27 pm

Yes - if it would not cost you much. There are about 4 Dr visits per cycle, so add up your copays, plus the cost of meds, plus lab copays, plus the fees for sperm washing and the IUI procedure. If you're well covered by insurance, however, like we were, then I say do it!

No - if the costs of doing about 10 tries outweight the benefits of not doing IVF. Also, it is a very hard emotional strain -- I went through 5 failed cycles and couldn't handle any more than that. I moved on to IVF.
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Postby SandraP » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:41 pm

If you really want to conceive, I would go ahead. have you thought of using donor sperm?

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Postby Ema » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:43 pm

my DH is SOOOOOOO offended by the thought of donor sperm.
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Postby SandraP » Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:47 pm

Oh, well that ends that concept. I do know that they put some men on chlomid to up sperm count, is that an option for him?

If IUI is your only chance, I would try it. IVF seems like the way to go, but I know you said that you can not afford it. If you search through the website, you can find a post about a study they are doing on IVF and it pays for the treatment. Perhaps you can check into that. Also, Capital One Finance will finance IVF treatment - but I think that should be your last resort.

Good luck!
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Postby crystal » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:14 pm

Ema - If your doctor isn't even optimistic about IUI working, I don't think you should do it. IUI just doesn't work for a majority of the people who try it. If you can do it for free, then by all means, give it a whirl. However, if you have to pay for it, I would suggest you save the money and apply it towards IVF.

If you truly want your own biological child, then I would say keep trying naturally or figure out a way to pay for IVF. It is about the same price as a new car. You can do it much more cheaply, though. There are places that do IVF for $5,000. I went to a clinic in New Jersey that allowed me to donate to another couple half of the eggs they retrieved in exchange for virtually free IVF. I paid my facility $1,000. There were other charges mixed in there b/c my insurance didn't cover some bloodwork and ultrasounds...but in the end, for one cycle, we paid about $3000 to $4000...and that included airfare, car rental, etc, to get from TX to NJ. Other people will act as egg donors to save up money. I have heard of women going through 2 rounds or so of egg donation in exchange for thousands of dollars which pay for their own IVF that they eventually do down the line. I found it much more ideal to do through only one round of meds and share my eggs with another couple.

Anyway, my point is that if you intend to pay for your IUIs, take that money and use it toward a low price IVF program. Your potential for success is so much greater...especially considering your husband's diagnosis.
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Postby fit1 » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:17 pm

I agree...save the money you would spend on meds and stuff with IUI and put it toward IVF. You will be happy you saved yourself the time and frustration of it not working.

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Postby SandraP » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:18 pm

I have to agree with Crystal and was actually going to mention that you somehow contact Crystal. Being an egg donor may be the way to do it....or again, you could find out about the studies, or the financing.

I do agree also, that it would most likely be better to save your money for IVF. Hope this helps!

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Postby crystal » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:19 pm

Oooops...just saw the moral issue part. Forget my last post. If you have the cash or insurance to do IUI, then give it a shot. It definitely can't hurt.
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Postby beachiegirl » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:26 pm

I would try to get the money saved for IVF. IUI's are close to $1000 a month, and if you had to do several, then you'd be looking at spending a lot of money with a low chance of success.

You can take out personal loans for IVF or search for a clinic that has lower prices. The one in my area charges $8000 for IVF.

Good luck to you!
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Postby SandraP » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:29 pm

OOOPs, I didn't see that moral issue line either. Sorry! Have you considered adoption?
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Postby nursebermudez » Tue Mar 18, 2008 2:40 pm

I think if it is very inexpensive, you can con't trying, but at the same time save some money for an IVF. You can also take a loan out, the way I see it we spend more on a car sometimes. My dh and I had to do it that way,but we are pregnant now so all the money we have to pay is well worth it.

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Postby Poppup » Tue Mar 18, 2008 3:14 pm

Although it will probably be a waste of time, doing the IUI will give you a much better chance than purely continuing to try naturally, so yes I'd do it. Especially as you both seem dead set against IVF. People fall pregnant against the odds, so at least this way you know you have the best chance of falling (other than with IVF). Have you looked into GIFT instead of straight IVF. This is where they place the sperm and the egg directly into the fallopian tubes via a lap, rather than fertilising the eggs and placing them in the womb. This morally wouldn't be much different to IUI (not sure what part of IVF you are morally against). But with testicular failure I'm not sure if that would be much more successful than IUI, other than costing you alot more money and pain. To be honest, I'd be doing IVF if I was you, as with testicular failure it looks like time might be running out for you to be able to conceive a child with DH. Best of luck and I hope you are able to fall pregnant against the odds.
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Postby MommyToOne » Tue Mar 18, 2008 4:35 pm

I say yes! Give it a shot! You don't know until you've tried it! It just might work! I am doing my 3rd IUI this week and if it doesn't work we will start saving for IVF...My insurance pays nothing so it has been very expensive but it's worth it to me. GL and I hope everything works out for you and you get your BFP soon!!
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3/16/11 - 1297!!
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6/24/13 - 892!!
6/26/13 - 1911!
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Postby lovlya » Tue Mar 18, 2008 5:46 pm

I would start adding up the costs....IVF would be the way to go. I went through 3 IUI's and have paid at least 3,000 dollars...with no pregnancies and my dh had 80 mill sperm! So, I would say that you need to re-evaluate the cost of IVF vs costs of multiple IUI's...in the meantime just keep trying on your own. Have you tried clomid?
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