Trying to decide if we should bother to do IUI...please vote

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Should I do the IUI?

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Postby astrila » Tue Mar 18, 2008 10:03 pm

What is the moral issue that's ruling out IVF? Maybe some of the ladies know ways around it, like donating, only fertilizing some, or other methods...
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Postby Ema » Thu Mar 20, 2008 12:03 pm

thanks everyone!

You all echoed what I was already feeling. I think it's just finally really sinking in that IVF is the only real option. I wanted to pretend that IUI would work just cause well, it had too.

So....I don't think we are going ahead with IUI. Looks like I'm gonna take a break. Adoption seems like the direction I need to go. I think it's time to grieve the infertility and let it go.

Thanks for listening and being honest with me. I needed a realty check.

thanks :wink:
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ME:endometriosis...but O regularly
DH:Primary Testicular Failure

IUI+CLOMID...1 million sperm after wash-pending
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Postby SandraP » Thu Mar 20, 2008 12:07 pm


I am sure that you will be just as happy with adoption seeing as IVF is ruled out by you.

Good luck!

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Postby Bubblewave » Thu Mar 20, 2008 12:33 pm

Ema: You´re being very strong by making this decision, it´s not easy. I voted no on your poll because of your RE´s recommendations & the emotional pain of possible failed IUIs. However, it´s your decision entirely. I wish you the best and Im sure you will make one, or more, little boy/girl very, very happy. GL & KUP.
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Postby Lexi99 » Thu Mar 20, 2008 7:00 pm

I agree with Sandra and I would try having DH take clomid. My cousin's DH did this and has a beautiful 2 year old. She got pregnant after his first month on clomid. That may be all you need! The pain of a failed IUI is a lot emotionally regardless of knowing the odds are against you (like Bubble said) and the cost. I would say no to the IUI and look into clomid.

Is there any way around the moral issue of IVF with your DH? I am curious as to what it is. There are a ton of studies that you can apply for to get your procedures covered and I do think that would be your best option.

Good Luck with which ever path you chose and I wish you the best. I wish you didn't have to have this poll to begin with (((HuGs)))
~Erin (me) 29, DH 32
Alexis Jewel born 7/28/99
M/C @ 7wks 4/07, IUI 9/07 BFN, Laparscopy 10/07~endo,
IVF#1- 12/07 BFN, IVF#2- 2/08 BFN, IVF#3- 4/08 BFN
After 26 months IVF#4 7/08 ~ BFP!!
Liam Arthur born 3/29/09
IVF#5- 6/10 BFN, IVF#6- 8/10 BFN, IVF#7- 10/10 BFN, IVF #8- 5/11 M/C
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