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Too scared to test...again

Postby Tarheelmommy2000 » Sun Jan 01, 2017 8:20 pm

Hey ladies...I haven't been here in years (6 to be exact) but find myself here and somewhat scared. I am 38 and have a 6 and 16 year old. I have had multiple miscarriages and my DD was actually a huge surprise as I had over 6 miscarriages before here (due to blood clotting issue). So that's some of the background...here is my issue. My last period was November 21st and I am in a 23-25 day cycle like clockwork...well no AF as of yet and I have having pregnancy like symptoms...sore nipples, lower back and abdominal pains (nothing major), hungry, etc). I took a test over a week ago and it was BFN so I chalked it up to my AF being a little late (even though I'm like clockwork)...but since no AF, I feel like I'm need to take another test but am scared...I'm not sure if more scared of it being BFN or BFP. BFN is disappointing because DH wants a boy (my DS is from previous marriage and DD is from this marriage) and I want to give him that...but I'm scared of a BFP because of my history and not sure if I can handle yet another miscarriage. I need to get the courage to take one because I need to know either way because something is wrong if I'm not preggers...is it crazy that I'm scared to test? Most women can't wait to test but I have been putting it off thinking AF will show up and she still hasn't. Please tell me that my fears or valid...and then tell me to test...lol.
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby beckyrae88 » Sun Jan 01, 2017 9:00 pm

You have every right to be afraid to test, you've been through so many losses, I couldn't even imagine how scary this must be for you. I can't tell you to test, only
You can make yourself do that. If it were me I would be too afraid and I would probably just go to the doctor and get them to do it and go from there. I'm very sorry to hear about your losses. If you are pregnant, I wish you a sticky bean and a healthy pregnancy. Keep this post updated! We Are here to support you if you need it, no matter what <3
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby Tarheelmommy2000 » Mon Jan 02, 2017 4:10 pm

Update: I took a test today and it was another BFN...still waiting for AF. Will probably wait out this month and if still no AF, go to the doctor. Thanks for the input/support.
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby beckyrae88 » Mon Jan 02, 2017 5:38 pm

Good luck with everything, I hope things go the way you want them to :)
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby Cortnom22 » Tue Jan 03, 2017 8:03 pm

I know exactly how you feel! I am feeling the same way!
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby Tarheelmommy2000 » Thu Jan 05, 2017 12:10 pm

Well still no AF but got another BFN this morning...last AF was November 18th (not 21st as I said before). Not really having any pregnancy symptoms now....slightly nauseous in morning and still fatigue...but other than that and with previous active pregnancies I had sore nipples, sore gums, morning sickness...just a slew of symptoms. Starting to worry...why no period which is usually like clockwork. I plan on making a drs appt for next week so see if I can get some answers.

How is everyone else doing?
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby katbagley88 » Thu Jan 05, 2017 12:18 pm

Do you know if you ovulated? Sometimes if you dont ovulate you dont get a period. But on the other hand you could be pregnant, its rare but some women take weeks to get a positive test, it happened to my sister she didn't find out officially until she was 9 weeks, she had to have a blood test as hpt's weren't working.
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Re: Too scared to test...again

Postby Tarheelmommy2000 » Thu Jan 05, 2017 3:49 pm

That's a good point and I'm not 100% sure. I haven't been tracking so I can't say 100%. Yes, I heard about people not getting BFPs for weeks and wind up preggers. My mom was 6 months pregnant with me before she realized she was preggers. She was still having her AF and even went to a doctor who told her she was not preggers (and even prescribed Valium). So our bodies can do some weird things, that I know. I am going to call tomorrow and schedule an appt. it's more about me finding out if anything is wrong with me that is causing my AF not to come. Thanks.
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