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Ttc #2 for 16 cycles now any one as miserable as me?

Postby pinknow » Thu Aug 16, 2012 5:39 am

Been ttc#2 for 16 cycles now and becoming more miserable. Am now dxn with a LPD any one want to still hope for a second miracle like me?
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Postby rachaels_mom » Thu Aug 16, 2012 7:07 am

I am miserable too :( Been ttc #2 for 6 years and 4 months you can look at my sigi to see what we've done over the years. It never ever gets easier. Dh and I decided on moving forward with IVF and now i'm on cd 47, never been this late ever :shock: Took a test on tuesday (still hopeful) and of course it was a bfn. I'm supposed to call on cd1 to get started with the genetic testing and birth control and she is a no show. Hope we get our BFP's soon!
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NATURAL BFP OCTOBER 10TH 2012!!!!!

Beta Oct 10th~ 9,600 (don't remember exact)

Beta Oct 12th~ 19,800 (don't remember exact)

Hoping to start IVF cycle Oct. 2012

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ttc Natural June 11 then onto double IUI
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Postby pinknow » Thu Aug 16, 2012 11:15 am

Yea it never gets easier Karen but hopefully we'll get there. Perhaps we can give each other support. Fx and hope you get your bfp soon . Your DD is cute. I have a DS 2 yrs 7 months
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Postby pinknow » Thu Aug 16, 2012 11:16 am

Yea it never gets easier Karen but hopefully we'll get there. Perhaps we can give each other support. Fx and hope you get your bfp soon . Your DD is cute. I have a DS 2 yrs 7 months
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Postby gapeach427 » Sat Aug 18, 2012 6:41 pm

TTC#2 for almost 3 years now. We are now in the middle of our first (and last) IVF cycle. So hoping for a miracle!
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Postby lisann » Tue Aug 21, 2012 2:47 pm

I have been ttc #2 for just over 3 years, but without any tx because my insurance will not cover ANYTHING. :cry: It is so hard... and for me, the hardest thing is that people dismiss our suffering because we already have one child. I kind of understand why, because when I was ttc #1 for 3 years, I remember hating people like me now complaining about not being able to have a 2nd. All I can say to that now is that the grass is always greener on the other side until you get there! Then you see it is NOT! Infertility is just as painful this 2nd time around as it was the 1st time. I hope we all get the BFP's we so desire soon!
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Postby rachaels_mom » Wed Aug 22, 2012 4:24 am

Lisann~ I know what you mean about people complaining that you at least have one, I get that from very own sister :roll: I was blessed in the fact that dd was concieved extremely easy just stopped preventing and 2 months later I was pregnant. We started trying again when she was 2 &1/2 just in case it took a couple of months (I wanted a 4 year span in age, boy was stupid lol) Like you our insurance sucks when it comes to fertility. They cover diagnosis but my deductible is 1500 bucks before they start the 80/20 and treatment isn't covered at, no meds nothing. We are gearing up for IVF trying to get our finances in order, but dd is going to be 9 next month and sometimes I wonder if we're being selfish. We take her on a big vacation every year and we have so much freedom. With 13 grand in debt we won't be able to for about 3 years. It's so sad thinking about the almost 10 year age difference there would be and making the right choice.

Gapeach427~ I hope your IVF cycle is sucessful. Where are in the process?

pinknow~ Thanks for the complement on DD She's getting so big, started 3rd grade on monday.
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NATURAL BFP OCTOBER 10TH 2012!!!!!

Beta Oct 10th~ 9,600 (don't remember exact)

Beta Oct 12th~ 19,800 (don't remember exact)

Hoping to start IVF cycle Oct. 2012

ttc #2 since May 2006. Had Lap done 6/1/11 Found Stage 1 Endo and it's been all removed and slightly blocked right tube all cleared.
ttc Natural June 11 then onto double IUI
July-bfn
September- injectables~ BFN =(
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I am frustrated, but not giving up all hope.

Postby lady-carissa » Thu Aug 23, 2012 10:17 pm

Hi,

New here. Some history - I have been actively TTC since Aug 2011, charting since 2010. Been to RE, early 2012 tried Clomid challenge test & ovulation injection that failed. I was diagnosed with POF (Premature Ovarian Failure). Told my best option would be donor egg (cost $23,000) or adopt. Previously, my LMP was Dec 23, 2011. Had one that was induced this spring before Clomid challenge test, very light. At that point I was ready to maybe give up. Then AF arrived Aug 7th, extremely heavy. Gave me hope that maybe my body wasn't done yet. So went full force back into charting. I use OvaCue, daily OPKs, saliva ferning microscope, checking CM. I haven't been taking BBT. Reason being that RE said that not much point. It tells you after the fact that it happened. Can't use it to predict. Also my temps had always been very erratic. My sleep patterns are varied and probally affects this. Since this was the hardest part for me to get done correctly opted to not worry about it this go around. I want to worry & stress about the fewest # of things. Fully expecting to not see anything for months was in for the long haul. Told DH that I would be doing tests, but not be to concerned. If at some point I said it was looking like may O soon would let him know. Then to my surprise, OvaCue had Cue Peak and predicted an O on CD 13 (8/19/2012). Taking OPKs got a + on CD 15 (8/21/2012) & had lots of EWCM that day. The ferning scope was full ferning the next day. We BDed nearly every other day from CD 11. So now I am in TWW. But still not hopeful, just not giving up yet. I will admit, I think with next cycle I will start taking BBTs. Just to know if I Oed or not. Maybe they wont be so erratic this time around.

I am writing here to say, I understand being frustrated. I have gone the gammet with emotions. Being told that the only thing you want more than anything is not possible at all & that you can no longer conceive your own child is something that I wish no woman ever has to hear if they even think they may want a child. I had thought that if I was told I could not stimulate with Meds that I would be OK with it and be ready to give up. I was so wrong. The feeling I have of wanting a child only got stronger when I was told the chance of me conceiving my own child was extremely slim to none. I am now hoping that God (or whatever higher power you believe in) will see fit to give me & my DH a miracle and give us a child that we both want so badly.

I am sending prayers & baby dust out to you (and anyone reading this in the future). We are all in the same struggle. I hope that you will each say a little prayer for us as well.
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Postby pinknow » Fri Aug 24, 2012 5:57 am

Lisann that is so true , the pains of not getting a second baby are not diff from the first. Ds came so easy for us i got my bfp two weeks after the wedding and it was such a blessing. We'll keep trying, i believe we'll get our miracles soon.
Gapeach, i hope your ivf cycle is a success , fx hon.
Karen, these kid grow before our eyes and we hardly notice, i wish her the best in her 3rd grade and hope she gets a sibling soon. Fx
Lady-carissa, cheer up it will happen you have a good spirit don't give up. Fx for you hon.
Afm: starting b6 today to add to the long list of supplements i take, and the prometrium after ovulation.
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Postby lovebabytime » Sat Aug 25, 2012 4:38 pm

Right there with you ladies. We have been TTCing for number 2, for over 2 years now. It just plain sucks. Will be 33 soon. BLAH!!!!!! I am seriously considering acupuncture. I also am reading a book the Infertility Cure. Its tough, and your right ppl think because you have one already that you are not allowed to be upset about being infertile the second time. Honestly, I am on the fence right now, about going in EXTREME with all natural supplements and acupuncture or throwing in the towel completely. Either way time is not on my side. Sure wish we would had started a family in my eary twenties :(
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Postby pinknow » Mon Aug 27, 2012 2:21 am

lovebabytime wrote:Right there with you ladies. We have been TTCing for number 2, for over 2 years now. It just plain sucks. Will be 33 soon. BLAH!!!!!! I am seriously considering acupuncture. I also am reading a book the Infertility Cure. Its tough, and your right ppl think because you have one already that you are not allowed to be upset about being infertile the second time. Honestly, I am on the fence right now, about going in EXTREME with all natural supplements and acupuncture or throwing in the towel completely. Either way time is not on my side. Sure wish we would had started a family in my eary twenties :(


don't you go sulking hon! By the way you still have time, how i wish I'll go back to 33 lol! Am 38 and still hopeful. Going all natural on supplements is just what am doing now . A neighbour just had a baby yesterday and i was like ....... Her little son has got a sister now and my Ds doesn't have a sibling yet, if course i was happy for her but couldn't stop the tears in my heart, its a rough journey but we'll get there. Much baby dust to you dearie
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Re: Ttc #2 for 16 cycles now any one as miserable as me?

Postby hunnybunny23 » Sun Sep 16, 2012 12:57 am

hi there we have been ttc for 13 months now. we have 2 children 3 and 17 months and this by far has been the most difficult. we had no problems conceiving our other 2 and my cycles have never been regular. all my bloods are normal and i finally managed to get bfps in september 11 and now i am having a blighted ovum this cycle too. so that puts me up to 2 miscarriages, weak ovulation and low motility. i just feel our chances are so small this will take forever or never at all. we have been put on an increased dose of clomid to see if it helps the weak ovulation and i have recently lost 40lbs over 9 months nothing seems to be helping my egg quality. i cant believe at the age of 25 i would be having these kinds of issues. if the clomid does not work this time then we have no choice but to continue naturally with me not ovulating or pay for ivf which we cannot afford.
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Re: Ttc #2 for 16 cycles now any one as miserable as me?

Postby pinknow » Mon Sep 17, 2012 1:11 pm

So sorry Hunnybunny, a got a faint bfp 12dpo and today 15dpo no line at all, we just keep trying.
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Re: Ttc #2 for 16 cycles now any one as miserable as me?

Postby Wanna2nd » Fri Sep 28, 2012 5:31 am

Hi! I agree with you all. It is soooo frustrating...We had no problems conceiving DD (2 years, 7 months). It happened within 2 months of ttc. But now I've had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and a chemical last cycle! How stupid of me to have thought it would all happen so easily again...I'm also 33 now and DH is 40 :omg:

Hope we will get our BFP's soon and that it will be healthy sticky beans for 9 months!
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BFP 4 June 2012
M/C 4 July 2012 (@ 8 weeks :()
BFP 19 Sept 2012
BFN 22Sept 2012 (Chemical :()

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Re: Ttc #2 for 16 cycles now any one as miserable as me?

Postby lauren4363 » Fri Jan 11, 2013 2:11 pm

hi all ttc #2 cycle 11 and i am crawling the walls waiting for this to happen...ds took 5 months so no problem there! gyn told me to go see a RE so i made an apt for next week
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