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Postby ajksand » Tue Jul 02, 2013 11:19 am

Hey! I am 29. My hubby and i have been ttc for 8.5 years now. We have a 9.5 yr old daughter conceived naturally. we did the metformin and clomid thing about 6 years ago but i got discouraged and stopped, So in January of this year i decided it was time to get super serious and went back to the dr and he started me on provera, had me on it for 3 months then added metformin to it and then in may he added the clomid because i had lost 35 lbs. Anyone else been ttc this long and had any success? Dr says everything looked good when he did the sono in January. He seems positive that i should be able to conceive.
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Re: newbie here

Postby Kaitlein » Fri Jul 05, 2013 9:54 pm

I'm new too; just found this site and everyone seems very friendly and helpful :-)

I've been ttc #2 for nearly 18 months; dd was born in march 2011 (after 6 months ttc). I've got endo and am 34, so I'm more than a little worried. I've just come off three months of provera to clear up some endo issues, and I'm finding it emotionally even harder than before- I didn't realize how much of my mental energy was going into ttc #2, and I'm just wondering how much more of my (and my family's) time it's worth.
I never planned on having just one either, and never even thought that secondary infertility was that big of an issue. I'm not at all sure how far the intervention path I want to go (dh is not at all keen for IVF) if at all, and just waiting and hoping isn't much of an option either, as I can't leave my endo untreated for too long as it gets quite debilitating (I was on meds and didn't get af for nearly 10 years before ttc my dd).
I totally understand the frustration though; I'm also on school holidays atm (I'm a teacher) so I'm probably thinking about it WAY more than usual too!
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Re: newbie here

Postby ajksand » Fri Jul 05, 2013 10:27 pm

hey!! I know how u feel, it is a lot of mental energy but will so be worth it in the end. Has ur dr tried the clomid yet? What all steps have yall tried in the last 18 months?
We just found out on wedneday that our 2nd round of clomid worked and we r having a baby in March. So keep faith that it will happen, I was so discouraged and had tried to just accept that our daughter would never get to be a big sister.

when i was at my dr appt he was talking about all my options and told me he would only do 2 more rounds of clomid before i had to go to a reproduction specialist. when he said 2 more rounds i wondered if i could put myself and my family through that bc i had the major emotional side effects (i turned into a crazy hormonal woman) IVF was not an option for us first off i would feel like i would be forcing it, its just not for me, 2nd i just cant see spending that kind of money.

I felt like i thought about periods, babies, ovulating, having to plan sex, and looking for pregnancy symptoms for 8.5 yrs. I think i spent a small fortune on test. Take a breath and remember exactly why you are going through all of this and think about what is to come at the end of this journey
Hoping things work out great for you hope to see a bfp from you very soon:)
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Re: newbie here

Postby Kaitlein » Sat Jul 06, 2013 6:59 am

Congratulations, that's fantastic news!! I've been to an RE already, and am probably looking at clomid within the next few months if I don't get a bfp. There's a lot of testing that might need to be done, as well as a lap/d&c just to rule out any endo issues.
IVF is something I've thought about; luckily we would manage it financially, but neither of us are sure about it, as there's a lot involved and from what I understand ttc on IVF is a lot more emotionally taxing, so I'm just not sure. I'm also not sure how much longer I want to keep trying for either; I also have rheumatoid arthritis, and treating that with any real seriousness has to be put off until I'm finished wanting to have more kids (I just want the one more though!).
I think I've got another year or two left in me (to keep ttc) but I'm also starting to get myself prepared for the fact that my dd may be an only child, which is something I couldn't even think about last year without crying, so that's some progress I suppose! I guess I'm cautiously optimistic; trying to stay positive but also be mindful of the realities involved so that I can better cope with whatever happens.
So glad to hear your good news - it does make me hopeful :-)
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Re: newbie here

Postby ambernicole8484 » Wed Jul 17, 2013 7:22 pm

Congrats Aj!

We have been ttc for 9 years now. Only 2 years of actively ttc though. Two years ago is when I found tww and got caught up in the madness lol. The first 7 years we were pretty relaxed about it and just figured it would happen when it happened, but it wasn't happening. I've tried 4 rounds of clomid after self medicating with soy. Turned out to be pretty bad for me because I have an estrogen dominance problem. Took a few months off clomid but I'm starting it back up this cycle. I wish we could go to IVF but it's not an option for us. Not sure if an IUI would be helpful since I have endo? But I think we are going to try to give it a shot soon. I've been trying to find peace in the thought that dd might be an only child forever. It's so hard though. That little sliver of hope just wot leave me alone.
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