Trying for 9 months

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Trying for 9 months

Postby Hozza » Fri Aug 12, 2016 11:55 pm

Hi, I just wanted to see if anyone had any tips for ttc second child. I fell pregnant with my now 3 year old son in the first month of trying. I am now 33 and me and my husband have been trying for our second for 9 months now. I have tried preseed, using ovulation sticks, trying throughout the whole month but nothing is getting us pregnant. We are desperate for another child and we really want to give my son a sibling. Has anyone got any advice? Thank you
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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby whoz » Sun Sep 11, 2016 8:03 am

Hello Hozza,

I can't be of any help, but I can say that I'm with you. It's been nine months for us as well, and we have a little boy. We use OPKS and preseed and the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (along with Fertilaid for both of us, baby aspirin on the DPOs and this month even temping). It took us three months to concieve our son. I'm almost 31. It makes me sad.
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (Preseed, SMEP, BBT, baby aspirin, progesterone, OPKs, Fertilaid, FertileCM and Ovaboost, etc) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
3 rounds of clomid (50mg, 100mg, 150mg) with my first anov cycle, breakthrough bleeding and all BFNs - May - June 2017
Laproscopy (coming soon)

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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby HopePrayBelieve » Mon Sep 26, 2016 12:56 pm

My advice would be to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist sooner rather than later. I was 33 when we started trying and after a year had not gotten pregnant with #2. After just 6 months we were pregnant with our rainbow baby!
Me - 36
DH - 32
Married since 7/26/2008
1st MC 12/2/10
DD Born 9/27/11
TTC #2 Since 6/2013
Unexplained Secondary infertility
1st IUI 6/14/2014 - BFN
2nd IUI 7/11/2014 - BFP, but MC 8/5/2014
3rd IUI 9/19/2014- BFN
4th IUI 10/17/2014 - BFN
5th IUI 1.25mg Femara 11/12/14 - BFN
6th IUI 2.5mg Femara 12/10/14 - BFP!!
Beta #1 28
Beta #2 116
Beta #3 2476!! Ultrasound on 1/9/15!!
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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby mimimama » Sat Oct 08, 2016 6:12 am

I would say you should stay positive, relax and enjoy yr ttc-ing. It is usually recommended seeing a doc when a woman can't get pregnant during 12 months of regular intercourse.
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby LeahsMom » Mon Oct 31, 2016 5:38 am

IMO, 12 months is too long to wait. If you and DH are both healthy and have been trying for more than 6 months (using OPKs and tracking your cycle accurately), I would definitely see an RE especially because you conceived right away in the past. When I tried for my DD, we also got pregnant the first month, that ended in chemical and we tried again straight after and were pregnant with DD right away. I am now going on 2 years TTC #2... I desperately want my daughter to have a sibling and like whoz, it makes me sad as well. Trust me, you will never regret getting an expert opinion!

Good luck!
Me (Dev) - 31, DH - 32
DD born March 3, 2013 (conceived after just 2 cycles, first cycle was a chemical pregnancy)
TTC #2 September 2014
April 2017 - 3rd round of 100 mg Clomid + 250mg Ovidrel + 400mg Prometrium daily after O - :bfp:
(after 2.5 years of trying & first cycle using softcups)
Beta #1 (12dpo) - 4
Beta #2 (15dpo) - 35
Beta #3 (17dpo) - 142.3

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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby Lisaclark123 » Thu Aug 17, 2017 9:17 pm

I am so sorry for your problem not to conceive naturally. I want to appreciate your courage to discuss your problem at this reliable open online platform. This is golden opportunity for me to help you to overcome this difficult situation in life with my own life experience. You need not panic about this difficult situation in your life. You should handle this difficult situation with positive attitude toward life. I can understand your problem very well because I also facing problem in my life. You can get maximum benefit from my own life experience to handle this difficult situation. I am here for you to provide step by step information to conceive effectively to achieve your dream into reality.
I accept full support from my husband at this difficult stage in my life. I want to express God’s gratitude to provide full help at every stage to defeat difficult situation in my life to conceive effectively. Once we have to attend a marriage party in Ukraine capital Kiev where we met my old college friend who is popular gynecologist of Kiev. We discuss our problem and provide me effective method to defeat my problem in professional way.
You can start your planning from the day first in smart way. The most important thing that you should keep in mind is that your period cycle must be regular. It is directly connected to your reproduction system. You can manage your product cycle hormone level with healthy balanced diet. You should maintain high hemoglobin level to create win-win situation for you to conceive effectively. You can use yoga and meditation posture to get full relaxation to your body and mind. I hope you get good news soon.
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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby kellyK1 » Tue Aug 22, 2017 7:50 am

Hello, First of all, relax. The more you will think about it the more you will feel the pain. I know it hurts to think about the rigorous failure of conceiving but remember whatever comes your way you have to face it strongly. I would suggest you stay positive and try to conceive. I have seen my friend getting pregnant after 1 and half year. So conceiving varies from women to women. Try to consult a good gynecologist if you still find it hard. Failure in conceiving can happen for many reasons including your unhealthy lifestyle. Try to start with a healthy and nutritious diet and with some exercise, which will surely help. I hope my reply helps you in some way.
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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby nanovare » Sun Sep 03, 2017 7:54 am


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Re: Trying for 9 months

Postby Trina09 » Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:44 am

Hi. Unfortunately, I can’t help you. I’m here to share my thoughts. Sometimes it takes more time to conceive than you expect. Especially if you are after 30. As for me, you should visit the fertility specialist. You have to figure out the reason of your infertility. Some women need medical help to conceive faster. Unfortunately, in some cases even medicine doesn’t help. I had to adopt because I was unable to get pregnant. When we decided that we want to have one more kid, surrogacy helped us. It was hard to see an outside woman being pregnant with my baby. But the result is worth trying. I’m not saying that you have to adopt or find the surrogate. I just think that you should look for some additional help.
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