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BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby lotusfl0wer » Sun Oct 20, 2013 7:49 pm

I really hope our story will encourage someone out there in TTC-land.

I'm 36 my husband will be 40 in Dec and we've been TTC for 2 years. Tests indicated everything was fine except for low morphology. Every month we would attack making a baby by doing all the "right" things ... temping, having sex when I had egg white fertile mucous, legs up the wall, taking my supplements, pre-seed, Clomid, blah blah blah. Our marriage was starting to really suffer after 2 years of making baby stress, not to mention our sex life was awful. It had become this thing we HAD to do, no passion or spontaneity.

So this cycle we decided: let's rediscover each other again, let's have fun, let's go on dates, swimming, boats. No temping. No caring. No expectation of getting pregnant. Let's just surrender, give up and enjoy our lives again.

I didn't take my supplements, we had sex when we wanted to, I never put my legs up the wall and I didn't even have a hint of fertile cervical mucous on the day we conceived. The only thing we did "right" was not carry any stress around with us.

The only symptom I had was getting sore boobs on the day my period was due. Other than that, everything else felt just like my period was coming. Same type of cramps and backache as usual. I tested at 17 or 18 DPO because I was certain there was no way I could possibly be pregnant. Well, I was wrong!!!! And we are thrilled!

I know you hear it all time when TTC, especially when it's been taking awhile "Don't stress. Have fun. Don't try so hard." And it used to really bother me ... how can I possibly not try????? But I really think it's true. Stress really is a powerful thing.

Unfortunately it took us getting to a very dark place in order to surrender. I was emotionally crazy and our marriage wasn't fun. But luckily we were able to crawl out of it and just let go. And now our baby is on the way:)

Due date June 25! Hooray!
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby JennMarie » Tue Oct 22, 2013 3:00 pm

Congratulations Lotus!! What a great story! :)
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby Cat2678 » Wed Oct 23, 2013 12:00 pm

Congrats! What a wonderful story! I can relate it - my husband and I feel like it has become our "second" jobs..me more than him..stressing days before ovulation. I am heading down that "lets just have fun" road!
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby vanjust14 » Thu Oct 24, 2013 1:05 pm

What a great story! Congratulations! My DF says that we have to just let it happen but it is so hard not to get caught up with everything and stress over it. Maybe we need to follow in your footsteps!
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby mrobyn22 » Fri Oct 25, 2013 8:30 am

I've decided to do the same thing this month as well...just to relax about it and let it be in God's hands. I usually want to have sex around my fertile time anyway so I'll let nature decide what happens. I've let myself be so consumed about TTC since June of this year and after my mc last month I've come to the realization that I am stressing out waaaaay too much and need to take it to the "let it be tree". I still love getting on the boards though to see how everyone is doing and seeing all the BFP's:)
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby alexandra1234 » Sat Nov 02, 2013 9:27 am

So logistically speaking... How do you keep yourself from mentally calculating what cycle day you're on, all the time?? That seems to be my downfall on months when I'm trying not to try.

Congrats! :-)
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Feb '15: Clomid #2. BFN
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby lotusfl0wer » Mon Nov 04, 2013 6:07 pm

I guess I still was aware of my cycle, but we weren't trying to fall pregnant, so if we didn't have sex during the time I thought I was fertile, I wasn't stressed. We did it when we wanted to. And as it turned out, I unknowingly ovulated 4 days later than usual, and that's when we ended up having spontaneously sex and conceiving!

Life is pretty crazy.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby Bri wants a baby » Mon Dec 16, 2013 7:10 pm

Congrats!! :) thats awesome!! Its hard to not stress. This is the first month of not stressing and driving myself crazy with fertility apps on my phone.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby true_taurus » Fri Jun 20, 2014 7:08 am

Congratulations!! That is truly amazing! My story is almost identical! I wish I could say we figured out what was wrong after 2 years ttc. But it was the first month ntnp and I erased all of my cycle tracking apps. And we had sex when and how we wanted lol.
Our baby was born in February and i'm still amazed. We are truly blessed.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby sweetdemoness87 » Sat Jun 21, 2014 4:57 pm

That is a great story. My hubby and I have been "trying" for about 6 months. I say "trying" because we decided when we started that we would just let it flow. And have sex when we wanted to have sex. Not when we have to. So I kinda stayed away from the "serious" charting of everything. Just tracking my cycles on a little app I have. Tracking when we make love and all that. Because I have PCOS we didn't want to over stress things. We knew that there Is a possibility of infertility and thought well we will find out if we don't conceive in a year or so. After 6 months of nothing I just got tired of it. I know that 6 months isn't very long. But when doctors say you are infertile in 6 months to a year without conception that is a problem. So now I am more heavily tracking my temp, mucus and the like. But trying to stay away from the stress of it all.

Sex is a little awkward when you are doing it to make a baby lol. So I think next time I won't say anything and just jump his bones LOL.

But any how it seems to me that this just go with the flow thing really doesn't work as well for every couple. I know that not stressing is a big part of perfect love making. But as far as charting things...for someone like me...that seems to be very important.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby Terra14 » Mon Jul 21, 2014 9:42 pm

Congrats! !
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby sweetsmom » Thu Oct 02, 2014 12:38 pm

Congratulations! What a great reminder! So many have said this to be true.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby addseo1115 » Wed Apr 22, 2015 8:24 pm

Thanks.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby iplaypoeonline » Thu Sep 03, 2015 11:33 pm

thank You.
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Re: BFP after 2 years TTC and we only did 1 thing different

Postby casoteaser » Mon Nov 30, 2015 8:45 pm

Congratulations

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