miscarried at 10 weeks

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miscarried at 10 weeks

Postby sgtfish129 » Mon Feb 13, 2012 7:20 am

Let me explain a little from the beginning...Saturday Feb 11th I had a 10 week ultrasound, everything looked great, the heartbeat was good and we even saw our baby wiggling around and lift it's arm! Never any cramping/bleeding etc. We thought everything was fine....

Then, the next morning I woke up around 7am, and I was bleeding...red blood. Not too much cramping. My husband and I went straight to the ER, and after about 2 hours I finally had an ultrasound. There was no longer a heartbeat.

If I could explain the amount of devastation we both felt at that moment and all day I would never find words strong enough. How could this happen so fast without any warning when we just saw our baby healthy yesterday??!! Talk about shock. I thought for sure by 10 weeks along with NO pregnancy issues at all that I was safe. Boy, was I in for a surprise.

Anyway, thank you ladies for being so supportive...we won't give up...EVER, we will keep on trying. Until then, I pray that God comforts me and my family. I know the Lord is faithful to the end.
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DS-5 months (born December 2012..4 weeks early)
February 2012: loss at 10 weeks :(

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Postby babyawishes » Mon Feb 13, 2012 2:08 pm

II am so sorry for you. I cried as I read your post. I never heard my babies heartbeat but I bet the pain of not hearing it would be devastating. Did they do an internal ultrasound? After mine I started to bleed heavy and miscarried that night. I pray God gives you some peace. You have a right to be angry and sad and hateful to everyone if you want. The pain will come and go then come again when you least expect it.
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Postby kierann » Mon Feb 13, 2012 6:36 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. Its such a difficult thing to go through especially when you go from such happiness to such sadness. I have had two miscarriages within a year of having my daughter. I had such a beautiful pregnancy with her that I never thought it would happen to me. Age is no doubt playing a part in my case. Both miscarriages were past 8 weeks. Saw the heartbeat with the first one then purposely went to OB later with last one and saw no heartbeat. I have googled miscarriages like crazy and it seems there are so many between 8-10 weeks. I looked up changes with the baby during this time. There are some very important growing going on within the heart during that time. I am certainly no expert on this but I came to my own conclusion in my cases that there was something likely chromosomally wrong not allowing the heart to grow properly. I am having genetic testing on my last so I will have some definitive answers hopefully soon. I am glad to see you are continue to try and wish you the best of luck.
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Postby unaffected » Tue Feb 14, 2012 7:31 am

Hi Diana. First, even though I know words are pretty meaningless during this time, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I experienced a somewhat similar situation. We heard our baby's heartbeat at 7 weeks and 8 weeks, but at our 9 week appointment (6 days after the previous u/s), there was no longer a heartbeat.

I know it's hard to believe, but it gets easier ("it" being living, breathing, going about your day). Please remember to take care of yourself. Do what you need to do, whether that be cry, vent, complain, curl up in a ball, eat chocolates, have some wine, whatever.

Some people may not understand why you are so devastated, and don't take that personally. If someone has never endured loss, they cannot begin to fathom it.

You will be in my thoughts.
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Postby HBosserman » Tue Feb 14, 2012 8:03 am

sgtfish129 I am soooo sorry for your loss. I know those words dont make it any better, but I am so sorry! :hugs:
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Postby sgtfish129 » Thu Feb 16, 2012 5:58 pm

Thank you for your support ladies! It has been a rough few days since I lost my baby, and I have cried everyday so far. I have an appointment with my RE on the 27th to discuss a future plan. I still just can't believe this happened....and without any signs!

unaffected- Thank you for your thoughts and kind words...and I am also sorry for your loss. I do believe that we will get through this, and keep pressing on towards the prize! I think I will be getting that bottle of wine tomorrow night :)
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DH- 38
DS-13
DSS-7
DS-5 months (born December 2012..4 weeks early)
February 2012: loss at 10 weeks :(

Me- dx poor ovarian reserve, elevated male hormones, stage 2 endo, blood clotting disorders:PAI-1, MTHFR.
Hubby- low morphology


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