My DH and I have a different issue entirely.
He comes from a family that has babies before they get married and, usually, end up separated. I grew up with the belief that there is an order, you get married and then you had a baby.
We met in 2005 when he was 25 nearly 26 and I was 20 nearly 21. He would always mention wanting a baby, and I would always tell him that it wouldn't happen until we were married.
Fast forward to being married for a year in 2010, ttc June 2010-July2011, and wondering why nothing worked.
DH diagnosed with azoospermia. He even had an operation to try and retrieve just one, and he has nothing.
I know there are times in my mind where I feel that it's somewhat his fault for not bringing home the "bacon," just like I'm sure there are times in the back of his mind where he thinks it's my fault because I "made him wait."
DH has always had myotonic dystrophy (it affects the muscles), genetic disorder that gets exponentially worse with each generation, he even had an aunt die from it. We could have separated it out, with an IVF/ICSI proceedure, if he even had any swimmers.
We've had conversations about all of this, but, even though I know we both doubt sometimes, we both are aiming for the same goal. I wouldn't be able to go through any of this without him, and sometimes I think that someone up there didn't want us giving a child the distinct possibility of a shorter life span or life in a wheel chair. Sorry to go on for so long, but I just want to remind everyone, myself included, that, while blame may be there, you have to remember that you have the same goal, and all you can do is support each other.
Me= 27, no known issues
DH= 33, azoospermia (no swimmers) diagnosed June/July 2011
TTC= Since August/ September 2010
BFN IUIs (11/11, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6/12):
3 IUIs + Clomid + Donor Sperm (5.7,5.8, 22.7 mil)
3 IUIs + Follistim + Donor Sperm (11.5, 13.7, 18.7 mil)
IVF #1: July/August 2012
ER: 8/14 ET: 8/19 2-5D blasts
BFP HPT 6dp5dt (8/25)
Beta #1 16dpo, August 30: 298
Beta #2 18dpo, Spetember 1: 662
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