First of all, I'm so so sorry for your loss.
I think that sometimes people just don't understand how devistating a m/c can be. Especially if they've never had one. A lot of times people just don't know how to react or what to say, so they say nothing. Or, they might say something completely thoughtless, which I got from people who never experienced it ("at least your body got rid of something that wasn't going to work, right?" "you wouldn't have wanted a defective baby anyway, right?" etc etc etc...). They mean well, but don't really understand.
I wanted my DH to have been more upset or something. I often blamed him for the m/c, as silly as that sounds, because he was not ready for another child and as soon as I had found out I was pg, the first words out of his mouth were, "I am not excited about this". Nice, right? He is only now realizing that he came across terribly during that time and he feels badly about it now.
In general though, when I had my m/c, I wanted nothing from anyone. I didn't want pity. I didn't want anyone else to feel sad, although my mother made me feel badly because she said that the family was all upset too since they were starting to make room in their hearts for another baby. That just made me feel worse and like I'd failed them or something. Again, thoughtless comments.
I mostly wanted to forget about it and move on, although I did have several crying breakdowns. But everyone is different. I am sorry that nobody is being very supportive. But know that you always have us!
Hang in there!
Me: 36 DH: 37
TTC #2 with irregular cycles/pcos and still bf my 2-year old
DD born 9/2009, conceived with Clomid
MC on 10/26/2011 at 8.5 weeks
BFP on 4/19/12 and I'm trying to be cautiously optimistic.