3 years today and still no BFP:(

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3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby kimk0621 » Mon Aug 26, 2013 7:03 am

Well here we are 3 years ago we started this journey I knew it wasn't gonna be easy but not once did I ever imagine it was gonna be this hard and we would still be childless :cry: After Iui's, IVF's and all sorts of tests I don't feel we are any closer to our dream. And of course the witch arrived today and I'm home sick any way with allergies. I just feel that it's never going to go right for me. I know ladies go through way more than we have gone through but somedays I don't know how to keep moving down this road. I feel like just saying hell with it all and we aren't going to be parents but that thought breaks my heart more so than this road. I wonder will it ever go right and we will finally get pg.

Part of me wants to move on to the road of adoption and just walk away from our last frozen embie but I know there's no way I can do that. I think looking down the adoption road will make it less of heartbreak if the embie doesn't work in a few months when we do our FET. I just want for one month to work and we could just get pg without heartaches, scheduled sex or any pain.

Sorry to vent just having a bad day today. Think it's time to take some more meds and go back to bed. Maybe sleeping the day away will make the pain less.
Me 36 DH 32 TCC Aug 2010-Oct 2011 4 IUI's all BFN. Ivf Journey Sept 21 cx due to very high e2 levels 10/27:( IVF #2 ER1/28/12 antagonist protocol transfer 2/3 9 eggs retrived and 4 fertilized! BFN 2/14--devasted IVF #3 April 20th 7 eggs retrive 6 fertilized Transfer April 25th 2 Grade 4aa embies 1 frozen
Beta #1 May 7 BFN, met with dr and have been told unexplained fertility, PCOS and endo. Not having much hope:(

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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby frankme1 » Mon Aug 26, 2013 10:51 am

So sorry to hear this kimk. I can't imagine. DH and I are on 11 months of TTC and every BFN is so heartbreaking. I can't imagine having that disappointment for 3 years and even after IUI, IVF, etc. I have always kept the idea of adoption in my mind, even before TTC. And you know I have heard so many stories about people going through the adoption process and getting their baby and then finding out they are pregnant! I really think there is something to be said about "not trying" and getting pregnant. Of course, it is nearly impossible to "not try" and not constantly think about it. Maybe the whole adoption process will keep your mind off of it all. All of the good luck in the world to you!
TTC for 17 months
8 rounds of 50mg Clomid = BFNs
2/14 - started first round of Follistim, trigger, and IUI.
Me=28, DH=41
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby Tagra » Mon Dec 23, 2013 2:40 am

My heart goes out for u....I'm also in the same boat - trying since 4 yrs without any luck :( Yet to go with IUi / IVF and have been diagonised with unexplained. And yes some days it is just so hard to find that one thing that will keep us moving on this road. Still I would like to pray and wish u good luck!
Cheers to life!

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TTC 7 yrs with Unexplained IF
2013 - lap & dye: all ok, DH low acrosome
2014 - First ever Feb BFP, gone @5 weeks, May-Aug IUI 1,2,3 - BFNs
2016 - IVF#1, Transferred 2 perfect 5day blasts, on hcg boosters shots (3, 5000IU) BFP!!!!

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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby harry56 » Tue May 23, 2017 3:15 am

Also, this is what my main forum looks like. I'm missing some stuff right? lol!
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby mimimama » Tue May 30, 2017 12:52 am

Hi, I am sorry to know your story. Do you know the reasons why yr ivf-s have failed? depending on the reasons, have you considered undergoing ivf with de or combining your ivf with PGS NGS 360?
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby kellyK1 » Sat Sep 02, 2017 8:29 pm

Sorry for the problem you are facing. My gynecologist told me that almost 11% of couples suffer conceiving and infertility issues. Among 1/3rd of cases are due to women infertility. Remember that infertility can be treated and almost 70% of couples who suffer infertility get success in the treatment of infertility and successfully conceive. Infertility problem in women can be due to ovulation problem. The possible symptoms of having infertility problem can be due to light or heavy menstrual bleeding or lack or premenstrual symptoms as breast tenderness or bloating. The second reason can be due to endometriosis whose symptoms are painful periods or heavy pain during intercourse, heavy bleeding, unusual spotting etc. The third is polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) whose symptoms are excessive hair growth, irregular periods, obesity, acne etc. Fourth can be poor egg quality, this has no symptoms but the quality of egg can depend on the lifestyle you are having and the last which my gynecologists told me was about tubal factors which can be treated with surgery. Thus i had a very clear idea about infertility issues. I had PCOS for which my gynecologists suggested a healthy diet chart plan as well proper medication which enabled me to conceive after 6 months of proper treatment. Currently, i am a mother of a healthy and beautiful baby girl. I hope my reply will help you.
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Re: 3 years today and still no BFP:(

Postby Kelly99 » Sun Nov 12, 2017 6:22 am

What a sad story of your life. I decided to support you, dear. I know how stressed out you are at the moment. I remember those days when we were ttc day and night. We were so tired. I was scared because I saw how exhausted my husband was. I was afraid that he could break up with me. We spent 10 years of our marriage ttc. Our doctor kept saying that we still had time to conceive. I knew that he was wrong. But I didn’t want to believe that there was something wrong with me.
I see that you are ready to give up. It is the biggest mistake you can make. Don’t even think of doing it. I assure you, there’s a solution to all of your problems. Adoption is a great idea. A lot of couples adopt and live happily together. My friends adopted an amazing baby girl. She is such a smart kid. I’m sure that they saved her life bringing her to their house. In my case we also were thinking of adoption. We even visited some adoption centers to figure out all the details. But luckily, my mother told me about surrogacy. After a month of researches we have chosen the BioTexCom reproduction center. They helped us with the surrogacy process. I was afraid because I didn’t know how could I let an outside woman give birth to my baby. But I relaxed and we did it. Our son was born by the surrogate. It was the happiest day of my life when we brought him home. I recommend you to start doing something instead of sleeping. Stay strong and you will definitely succeed.
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