"Secondary Infertility"

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"Secondary Infertility"

Postby VrOoM086 » Fri Apr 22, 2016 2:42 pm

I just got my period today. Again.

I am not allowed to be upset. We have a baby. She's 5 now. She's even asking for a brother or sister all on her own. I didn't think we would ever get to this point. I didn't think we would ever have a problem getting pregnant again besides our baby was a unplanned; so how hard would it be to plan a baby!?

You know what is worse? I am an OB/GYN nurse. Yeah. Exactly.

I see them. The couples that come in for fertility counseling and come back the next month pregnant (well that was easy!). I see the young teenage mothers pregnant for the 2nd and 3rd time. I see the 6 week post partum patients come in pregnant (oops). I see the drug addicts who refuse to stop smoking drinking or shooting whatever it is they shoot up while they are pregnant. I see the patients that use abortion as contraception. (I actually had one brag about how many she's had and laugh about how it doesn't physically hurt anymore)

But I also see the patients that have struggled so hard for years and years and finally a BFP. I see patients with 10+ MC and finally that 11th one stuck (due soon). I am usually the first medical person to advise a mother that she is pregnant. So precious when they well up with tears in happiness (my favorite).

...and I see the worse of the worse. A few fetal demise at 36+ weeks. (absolutely heart wrenching when that happens) a 15 week old baby foot sticking out of a cervix (awful) and a few sets of 20+ week premature twins not make it...we have actually had a patient pass away in labor (I don't know the specifics but I do know the baby survived).

You would think I would know how to conceive. All tests normal for both myself and my DH. The roller coaster of the 2ww and then BFNs kill me. I can't escape it. I can't get any relief from not thinking about it because of my occupation. I have had my share of "calm down. don't stress. It will happen. it's happened before. you shouldn't be upset because you already have a baby. (and the worse) just be thankful for what you already have"

Love to you all.
Josh's Wife 05/2011
Gracie's Mom 12/2010
Baby Boy's GS 11/2012

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Re: "Secondary Infertility"

Postby Danaa » Sat Apr 23, 2016 6:43 am

Im so sorry for what ur going trough:(especially Bcs of ur job u deal with pregnancy all the time,Ofc ur alowed ur get upset we all are.I wish I could find some comforting words to say to you but I'm going trough a rough time myself.Higs and good luck to you.
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Re: "Secondary Infertility"

Postby LeahsMom » Mon Apr 25, 2016 6:56 am

I feel your pain. I'm also TTC #2, and have been trying since Sept 2014, a little shorter than you.

My daughter was planned and we got pregnant on the first try (that ended in M/C and then we got pregnant with my daughter immediately after), so never had I ever seen this coming. It's painful. A lot of people tell me I should be grateful to have one child and not let this bother me, but my heart is ready for another. I have so much love to give another child so why should that be discounted because I "already have one"? My daughter has finally began asking about a little sister, which definitely makes things tougher.

I wish you a ton of luck on your journey and sending you lots and lots of babydust! I hope we all see BFPs very soon!
Me (Dev) - 31, DH - 33
DD born March 3, 2013 (conceived after just 2 cycles, first cycle was a chemical pregnancy)
TTC #2 September 2014
Oct - Dec 2015 - 3 cycles Letrozole - BFN
April-August 2016 - 5 50mg-75mg Clomid cycles + Ovidrel - all BFN
Sept 2016 - Jan 2017 - TTC naturally
April 2017 - 3rd round of 100 mg Clomid + 250mg Ovidrel + 400mg Prometrium daily after O - :bfp:
(after 2.5 years of trying & first cycle using softcups)
Beta #1 (12dpo) - 4
Beta #2 (15dpo) - 35
Beta #3 (17dpo) - 142.3
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SURPRISE BFP! August 2019 - EDD April 6, 2020
M/C 8 weeks
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Re: "Secondary Infertility"

Postby whoz » Thu Sep 01, 2016 6:17 pm

I, too, am struggling with some secondary infertility--but not nearly as long as you. I am sorry.
Me: 31
DH: 29
DS born July 2015
TTC #2 since January 2016
BFP Sept 2016 after weaning DS
MMC at 12 weeks - Nov 2016 (baby passed away at 6 weeks)
Fertility testing March 2017. Unexplained secondary infertility.
Trying naturally (with an arsenal of natural treatments) Dec 2016 - April 2017 - BFNs
3 rounds of clomid (50mg, 100mg, 150mg) all BFNs - May - June 2017
Laproscopy (Sept 2017) - Endo confirmed and removed
Fertility treatment October - December 2017
Surprise BFP! - January 2018
EDD - September 12, 2018

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Re: "Secondary Infertility"

Postby katbagley88 » Sun Sep 11, 2016 9:33 am

I know exactly how you feel! I have 3 beautiful healthy little boys, but since my miscarriage 5 years ago I've not been able to fall pregnant again, I can't talk to my family about it because 'ive got kids its not the end of the world' but what they don't understand is I am only 28 I'm not ready to hear I cant have anymore children, and just because I have kids doesn't mean I dont deserve to have one more...as that's all I want, just one more! I've been told everything is fine fertilty wise but I'm not convinced so I'm going back to the Dr next week...dont feel like you're alone, I really do sympathise x
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