I don't really know much about your situation but DH and I have also been TTC for over a year and gosh - it is difficult! I live in a small town and there just aren't any decent Dr.s here, let alone OBGYNs so we haven't been to see anyone yet however I did start taking note of my cycle around April last year and then started charting everything (including BBT) since mid last year so only really around 9 months of watching exactly what was happening. When I go away in Feb I will be going to an OBGYN and then DH will get a SA test done and I will check hormones and everything. In the meantime I've been 'self medicating'
but only as much as adding a multivit and more recently vitex to my daily routine.
The emotional ups and downs of TTC have been really hard, especially during the TWW, and I think it's the same for everyone, no matter what their situation. So even though I can't help you with what's been going on in your life I really just wanted to say hi and that I'll be around if you need someone to chat to.
I really hope that things work out for you. Sending you baby dust and