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Feel like giving up??

Postby Mswaitingpatiently » Mon Jul 10, 2017 4:06 pm

Hi ladies
I've lurked for some time however this is my first time posting.
I guess I just wanted to hear from all you lovely ladies opinions on where you are at right now in your quest for the BFP.
I've been casually trying for 5 years.i was told I had pcos diagnosed by ultrasound around 8 years ago. However blood test 3 month ago showed I did ovulate.i have regular periods however I just Feel like giving up..im currently sat on my 2nd glass of wine and feel guilty for that :( .
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Danaa » Tue Jul 11, 2017 1:23 am

Enjoy ur wine!Dont feel guilty,some use drugs and alcohol and they have perfect babies.
Have u and ur partner had any tests done?
5 years is a long time even if is casually.
Maybe some clomid or femara can help with ovulation if you are comfortable using medical help to conceive of course.
good luck!!
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Me 29
DH 31
After 3 years in which we tried everything we are doing IVF in Greece with Iakentro Athens.
Short Protocol with Bemfola and Cetrotide
19mature eggs and we have 9 day5 blasto.
FET#1 ended in a very early loss,chemical pregnancy.
FET#2 ended in a loss at 22w due to IC,my boys will be forever in my heart .
FET#3 MMC at the 10 weeks ultrasound.
FET#4 2018
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby mimimama » Mon Jul 17, 2017 4:15 am

Stay positive and don't give up. Myself I know a few ladies who have undergone 6-8 IVF-s, and finally got pregnant. And I have read than many ladies even travel abroad to Poland, Czech Rep, Greece or Spain to undergo fertility treatments. I recommend seeing a fertility specialist to discuss yr issues. Good luck
Me 31, DH 40. TTC 5 years. Unexplained infertility.
December 2015- IVF #1 BFN
May/June 2016- new doctor, IVF consultation in Gdansk Poland
October 2016- IVF #2 Invicta BFP!!!
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Kate888 » Tue Aug 15, 2017 12:40 am

My good friend told me recently about successful treatment of her sister, who was searching for a fertility specialist. She found Indigo clinic in India, doctor there was careful, understanding and qualified, and provided really successful treatment) I don't know more examples, but when I wanted to conceive and really needed help, I used web-site, called ovu fertility network, where lots of fertility clinics, centres, specialists, may be you also can find there the best clinic for yourself in any country... For me it was usefull, because I have written one enquiry, and several clinics called me back, answered my questions, and I could choose and compare... And it was cool) because I wasn't spending time for searching, If you are ready to travel, I'm sure you could find there a really knowledgeable doctor
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Kels. » Mon Aug 28, 2017 9:39 am

You may ovulating but it may be too weak of an ovulation? I had a friend who required Clomid, a steroid, metformin and a hormone shot around ovulation who had PCOS.
What a rollercoaster this process is! I'm looking into doing a cleanse, wondering if anyone has done one.
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby leila123 » Tue Oct 17, 2017 1:00 am

enjoy dear and please dont feel guilty, ivf can be exhausting i myself waited waited for 5 years until i went to Cyprus and now i have a beautiful one year old and next year am going back to cyprus for another baby
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby LindaJons » Sat Nov 11, 2017 4:04 pm

Stop drinking wine and start doing something. I know how hard it is. I’m also infertile. But I found the way to become a mother. I had an awful situation. My husband broke up with me when he found out about my infertility. I was completely destroyed. But I met a guy, which saved my life. He found the solution to my infertility. Our twin boys were born 6 months ago. We found the surrogate to help us. Actually, my husband found the reproduction center. Doctors helped us with surrogacy. I have no words to explain how scared I was. I wanted to become a mom and I was ready to give up at the same time. At BioTexCom medical center I met a lot of infertile couples. We are still communicating with some of them. They all became parents with the help of surrogacy. They all supported me so much. I saw their happy faces and I also wanted to enjoy my life. And I did it. I tried to calm down and we started the process. After all the examinations our doctor found the surrogate for us. In 3 weeks the embryo was transferred. And it was the hardest part of the process. We had to wait for the result. Luckily, in 3 weeks we found out that our surrogate got pregnant. Our life has changed at that moment. We were about to become parents. Now I know that surrogacy really works. We have our boys and we are extremely happy. I wish you the same, dear.
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Kelly99 » Sun Nov 12, 2017 5:33 am

Hi,there. Everything is not that bad until you ovulate and have periods. It means that you still have a chance to become a mother. Have you consulted the fertility specialist? What is the verdict? It is important to figure out if you are able to conceive. Unfortunately, sometimes doctors make mistakes. My doctor kept saying that I was fine. As a result I spent 10 years ttc. I didn’t get pregnant but I lost so much time. I’m so angry but I’m glad that we found the solution.
We were ready to adopt when my mother showed me the post about surrogacy. She was reading a lot of fertility forums at that moment. She helped us to understand that medicine can help us. I was surprised to hear that we can have our biological baby. But it was true. We have chosen the reproduction center and signed an agreement. It took a couple of months to find the surrogate. Actually, we didn’t have to do anything. Our doctor from medical center did everything for us. The embryo was transferred and in 3 weeks we received a call. They told us that our surrogate is pregnant. I was scared and happy at the same time. This is how we became parents. Our son was born in time and he was absolutely healthy. I think you should consider surrogacy as an option. After 5 years of ttc you should start doing something. I’m sure you will succeed.
Talk to your husband. He should definitely support this idea. Good luck.
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Lina Williams » Sun Mar 25, 2018 5:54 am

Hey there! I hope you are doing good in life. Sorry to know about your infertility. I know this can be heartbreaking and depressing, but the good thing is that science has made such an advancement that anyone who is infertile can have a baby. They just need to find a clinic that can help them do so. My aunt went to a clinic in Ukraine. They had a pretty experienced and skillful team that could perform such operations. She was very much tensed about the process but they cleared away all the vague thoughts she had. She came back very happy and is now having a baby girl and living perfectly without any tension or anxiety. I hope this helps you. I wish you all the best in your life.
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Hopefulrosey » Mon Mar 26, 2018 2:59 pm

Amy4678, sorry if you find me rude. But having PCOS doesn't mean that one is 'infertile'. I don't think any doctor will call a woman who is challenged reproductively 'infertile' so not sure where you get this idea. Most women with pcos go on carrying and delivering their own healthy babies. There's no reason for you or anyone to push them towards surrogacy. There's a lot that can be done before that.

Mswiatingoatiently, don't feel guilty or discouraged. We all have been there. Hope you get your baby soon.
TTC#1 since Feb 2016
Me: Rosey, 33, mild endo
DH: 32, 4 SAs. varies between normal to MFI :doh:
IUI #1 Sep'17 - BFN and ended up with 2x 20mm+ cysts
IUI #2 Nov'17 - cancelled. O'd spontaneously on CD10 before trigger. O confirmed with CD21 test
IUI #3 Dec'17 BFN... moving on to IVF in 2018
IVF #1 - ER (16 follies, 14 eggs, 7 mature, 3 fertilised), 3d transfer of 3 embies (only 1x 8 cell, 2x 4 cell), no frosties, BFN
Lap Mar'18 - Dx mild endo
IVF #2 - Hopefully in May- June 2018
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Danaa » Mon Mar 26, 2018 3:02 pm

Rosey don’t waste ur time replying to stupid posts.Report them...the amount of spam I have to delete is crazy....
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My Ovulation Chart
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Me 29
DH 31
After 3 years in which we tried everything we are doing IVF in Greece with Iakentro Athens.
Short Protocol with Bemfola and Cetrotide
19mature eggs and we have 9 day5 blasto.
FET#1 ended in a very early loss,chemical pregnancy.
FET#2 ended in a loss at 22w due to IC,my boys will be forever in my heart .
FET#3 MMC at the 10 weeks ultrasound.
FET#4 2018
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Hopefulrosey » Tue Mar 27, 2018 3:34 am

Ok dokie :) I will!
TTC#1 since Feb 2016
Me: Rosey, 33, mild endo
DH: 32, 4 SAs. varies between normal to MFI :doh:
IUI #1 Sep'17 - BFN and ended up with 2x 20mm+ cysts
IUI #2 Nov'17 - cancelled. O'd spontaneously on CD10 before trigger. O confirmed with CD21 test
IUI #3 Dec'17 BFN... moving on to IVF in 2018
IVF #1 - ER (16 follies, 14 eggs, 7 mature, 3 fertilised), 3d transfer of 3 embies (only 1x 8 cell, 2x 4 cell), no frosties, BFN
Lap Mar'18 - Dx mild endo
IVF #2 - Hopefully in May- June 2018
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby @whenmytruerainbow » Thu Mar 29, 2018 1:42 am

Mswaitingpatiently wrote:Hi ladies
I've lurked for some time however this is my first time posting.
I guess I just wanted to hear from all you lovely ladies opinions on where you are at right now in your quest for the BFP.
I've been casually trying for 5 years.i was told I had pcos diagnosed by ultrasound around 8 years ago. However blood test 3 month ago showed I did ovulate.i have regular periods however I just Feel like giving up..im currently sat on my 2nd glass of wine and feel guilty for that :( .

I cardially welcome you, on behalf of all the ladies who've been a hell of support for me and will be the same to you in your need. Just make sure you discuss your problems with others and you'll always find someone who've been through a similar situation or sailing on the same boat with you. In both the cases, you can find hope and support - Which has been sth that kept me on even after the devastating failures in medicated ttc and ivf.
Please, apply for help, hun. 5 years of trying is pretty long. I believe you have to seek for suitable treatments.
Enjoy your wine, there's nothing thremendously bad about it in the case. Try to make a good decision where to move further.
My heart goes for you and every struggling lady here.. Soon babydust, lovelies!!
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Alana90 » Mon Apr 09, 2018 11:22 am

Hey lady! Hugs to you!
I know this is such a tough time you really can't help yourself being exhausted.
But frankly speaking all these habits won't help you out in any way, But correct decisions might.
This IVF is seriously a much frustrated and time taken procedure.
It just requires your time, emotions and wants you to be physically or emotionally strong. But its really tough.
How come women already suffer infertility. Thier are so many expectations of family around.It just not that Good.
Though! you made this post in July.
I would suggest you that if you are not getting any of the results to date, you must switch your procedure.
Thier seems to be a never-ending loop of cycles.
Even I had no patience to suffer more cycles after I got two of the failed IVF cycles.
I am saying this only because there might be some good remain in switching.
after I switched I started looking for surrogacy procedure as one of my fertility doctor suggested.
Let's see what life gives us next.
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Re: Feel like giving up??

Postby Lilly966 » Thu Apr 12, 2018 5:47 am

LindaJons wrote:Stop drinking wine and start doing something. I know how hard it is. I’m also infertile. But I found the way to become a mother. I had an awful situation. My husband broke up with me when he found out about my infertility. I was completely destroyed. But I met a guy, which saved my life. He found the solution to my infertility. Our twin boys were born 6 months ago. We found the surrogate to help us. Actually, my husband found the reproduction center. Doctors helped us with surrogacy. I have no words to explain how scared I was. I wanted to become a mom and I was ready to give up at the same time. At BioTexCom medical center I met a lot of infertile couples. We are still communicating with some of them. They all became parents with the help of surrogacy. They all supported me so much. I saw their happy faces and I also wanted to enjoy my life. And I did it. I tried to calm down and we started the process. After all the examinations our doctor found the surrogate for us. In 3 weeks the embryo was transferred. And it was the hardest part of the process. We had to wait for the result. Luckily, in 3 weeks we found out that our surrogate got pregnant. Our life has changed at that moment. We were about to become parents. Now I know that surrogacy really works. We have our boys and we are extremely happy. I wish you the same, dear.

Congratulations on your success.Surrogacy has been a good thing for me after all.I read about surrogacy alot.I heard people talking about it mostly on the forums or on different social platforms.
I had hystrestomy cancer.I am cancer free but i can't be a mom anymore.I was ver upset and stressed.But my husband was there to support me.He assured me that he will do everything to have us a baby.
So we came to know about surrogacy.Firstly we both searched about surrogacy we understood every aspect of surrogacy.Than we moved to Europe from Japan.Japan has banned surrogacy totally so we moved.We stayed in Europe for 4 months and consulted some clinics too.
but due to several reasons my husband was not very satisfied.Then we moved to Ukraine.We heard from many people about many clincis in Ukraine.Ukraine is very popular as per surrogacy.In Ukraine we contacted a clinic and than the clinic started our journey of surrogacy.
Now the surrogate mother is pregnant with our twin daughters.We are very excited to have our own babies now.
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