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18 cycles after a miscarriage & finally my BFP!

Wow, I am actually getting to post my BFP story after reading every post on this site religiously for the last 18 months! I'm 34, my husband and I were trying to conceive our first for 18 months after suffering a miscarriage (we weren't even trying when we got pregnant then!). During the last few failed cycles, it was hard not to breakdown whenever I got AF. I stopped testing early because the sight of a BFN is possibly the worst thing to see in the world when TTC. We were already discussing the possibility of IVF and were both becoming really down about it. I have tried every single thing possible I think! These were the things that were different during this cycle. We BD'd every OTHER day instead of every single day during fertile week. Afterwards, pillow under bum and legs in the air for at least 30 mins - (to be fair I actually did this for the last 4 cycles but couldn't hurt right?). Started taking FertileCM as I usually get creamy cm and only one mornings worth of EWCM usually 3 days before O day. It did the trick after 1.5 cycles and I had EWCM for the whole of fertile week. I had tried Preseed before and it never worked for me. Started taking DHEA at the same time as FertileCM as I read it improves egg quality, and being near the 35 mark, thought it may help. Throughout the 18 cycles I took pregnacare and extra folic acid. Honestly the amount of pills I was on over the last two months made me cry at the sight of them. This month, we went out (and drank!), swam, walked and really relaxed and enjoyed ourselves. I stopped worrying about stretching, exercising etc in the TWW, but was careful not to lift anything heavy. I read that if the eggs gonna stick, there's not a lot you can do to stop it from doing so, so I stopped being so paranoid about every little thing. I was still totally symptom watching and aware. Symptoms: 1-11 DPO - nothing out of the ordinary - lack of CM. 12 DPO - AF Cramps most of the day - was sure I was out and text my bestie to tell her I expect AF right on time (13/14dpo). Boobs did start to hurt, which is slightly unusual as usually they hurt from 8/9-11/12 DPO then stop a day or two before AF. 13/14 DPO - No cramps anymore, no CM (I always get pink tinged CM a day or two before AF) and my boobs still hurt. Also got heartburn. 15 DPO - OMG I'm a day late. I have heartburn sometimes and my boobs STILL hurt. I'm tired in the day but feel super happy. 16DPO - OMG I'm 2 days late!! With dread I tested. Convinced it was going to be a BFN. Within 2 minutes it was a clear BFP (on clear blue). Cried a lot (happy tears). Now praying this one sticks! There is nothing worse than seeing others get pregnant so quickly, when yours seems to be taking forever. It is NORMAL to take time to conceive and certainly doesn't mean anything is wrong with you! Those apps like Glow etc are just full of women who seem to get BFP's in a few cycles. People who have taken a long time certainly don't post even a quarter as much (until we get our BFP!!!). I hope my story touches at least one person who is in a bit of a dark place right now in their TTC journey. I'm not sending 'Baby Dust' as that is possibly the most infuriating saying out there. Instead I wish you all the luck in the world and hope to read your BFP stories soon too.

Comments

I am so glad you finally got your BFP, I miscarried in January of this year and we are still TTC, it's been 9 months for us and it feels like forever to me. I feel broken and sad, I can't imagine waiting 18 months but your story has given me hope that even if I have to wait that long it will hopefully happen for us too.

Congrats! I’ve been trying for a year and your story makes me hopeful as well. Thanks for sparing us the “baby dust” lol. Sincerely, that closing statement does come off condescending-especially when you read it again and again and again. Take care!

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