Early Pregnancy Symptoms and Big Fat Positives
BFP After Just Four Months At 41
Like everyone else who posts here, I've found this site wonderful while TTC. It's so uplifting reading all the BFP stories and I have to admit that some of the unbelievably detailed symptoms made me laugh out loud at times (itch in left nostril, switched to right nostril. Hot left earlobe. Nipple twinge.) I'm almost sorry not to have more entertaining symptoms to report, but I'm writing this mainly to give hope to anyone like me who is starting a family later in life.
My man and I are both 41 and we decided in November 2011 to try for our first (and probably only) child. We had read the statistics and knew it could take around 18 months at our age and might not work at all. I visited my gynecologist before we started to make sure everything was in working order and she told me that, despite all those scary statistics you read about sharp drops in female fertility after 35, I should be confident and hopeful. She said every woman is different and statistics are often as good as meaningless at an individual level. Her feeling was that, with my textbook cycle and healthy-looking follicles, I had as good a chance of conceiving as many women in their thirties or even twenties, especially as I had been using the temperature method for conception for the last 15 years, so, unlike women who have been on the pill for most of their adult lives, I had had a totally natural cycle for a long time and was used to monitoring my fertile times. I didn't really believe her, I have to say. I thought she was probably just trying to be positive and encouraging and got ready for a long wait with an uncertain outcome.
To help things along, we both started taking Maca and I also took evening primrose oil up to ovulation. After the first month, we also invested in some Preseed and some instead softcups, which I used a total of three times (third time lucky). I injected Preseed beforehand and also put some in the cup and inserted it right after sex. We made sure that I had my orgasm after his and I also put a pillow under my hips. We did this all three times we tried with Preseed. I left the cups in for five or six hours. The only thing I did differently this month was that I was less strict about not drinking any alcohol at all. I had a small amount of alcohol one evening before ovulation and once again in the five days before implantation can take place. We were also a bit more haphazard about timing things right and making an early start, so we actually ended up having less sex this time and having it closer together (before that, we were doing every alternate day for five days and then every day at ovulation. This time we bd two days before ovulation, one day before and on the day itself, always in the morning before getting up). Another difference was that I had such a lot going on this month that I didn't really have the time and attention to interpret every itchy nostril and earlobe twinge during my tww like I did the other times. It reminds me of the saying "a watched pot never boils". I just didn't have the time to watch the pot closely and before I knew it, it was boiling like mad! It was only when my period failed to turn up and I looked at my chart that I realized I'd had a brief temperature drop 9 DPO and that the spotting that began 10 DPO must have been implantation bleeding.
And so, just four months down the line, here I sit with a BFP Clear Blue test in my handbag. I have to keep getting it out to look at it, or I just wouldn't believe it! I never thought it would happen so fast at our age. One of the other reasons I can hardly believe it is that I have hardly any symptoms. My normal non-pregnant post-ovulation symptoms are much more spectacular than this!
DPO 1-9 - striking lack of symptoms. Breasts DON'T hurt (though they normally hurt all the time from the day of ovulation right through to the start of my period).
9 DPO - dreamed I was telling people I was pregnant and that my baby would have the star sign libra. Felt cold. Very dry throat.
10 DPO - BBT dropped below the base line and found tiny clump of brownish blood on toilet paper. Still cold. Throat v. dry.
11 DPO - BBT up again. V. small amount of faint pinkish blood on TP. Cold, Dry throat but no flu in sight. Breasts slightly tender but nothing like normal.
12 DPO - BBT steady. Constipated, cold, dry throat. Again, tiny amount of pinkish blood on TP - assume it is period starting. Breasts slightly tender and feel sort of watery inside.
13 DPO - Strange cramp lasting about 7 seconds in the morning. Sharper and more frontal than period pain. Constipated. Cold. Very hungry. Suddenly start noticing my CM is back to creamy white again. At this point I realize something is up. My period should have started today, If it was merely late, then I would expect to be dry until it got going. It is unusual to have lots of white CM starting off again after having already seen blood the days before.
14 DPO no symptoms to speak of. Feel totally normal. Strangely so, as I would normally have more symptoms than this if my period was starting. Took test at midday and expect to see nothing much for the next three minutes but the BFP appears within mere seconds! There it is and I can hardly believe my eyes.
Good luck to everyone out there. Especially all ladies in their forties!