Early Pregnancy Symptoms and Big Fat Positives
BFP two days after turning 43
These boards have been such an inspiration to me in the past, I promised myself that I would post if I got a BFP.
My husband and I have been married 22 years and have seven children, ages 17, 14, 12, 10, 7, 5, and 2.5. We wanted children right away after we got married, but had four years of unexplained fertility before getting pregnant with our first. We were already very open to a large family, but that experience (watching everyone else around us get pregnant and thinking it would never happen for us) made us truly appreciate how precious each child is. I have had high-risk pregnancies (a minor blood antigen incompatibility), four 36 weekers, three of whom had stays in the NICU, three early miscarriages spaced between babies, and ridden the usual roller coaster of parenthood. While I wanted another child, I had made peace with the fact that it was unlikely. We joked that my eggs were probably expired and my husband's sperm were just floating on their backs. Between my husband's travel for work and the kids' weekend activities (I swear that troop leader schedules campouts according to my ovulation charts), it was really hard to time things correctly.
I had pretty much given up. I was turning 43 soon. I stopped taking my temperature, stopped looking for symptoms, and moved on. (Which is generally when I get pregnant.)
One morning, about a week before my period was due, I took my usual thyroid medication and felt like I might throw up. I took an ept, and it was a BFN. Two days later I took another. BFN. I figured that pretty much settled it. Finally, the morning before my period was due, I realized that I had been really short-tempered and tired. (My first pregnancy symptom is usually when the fact that my husband breathes, talks, and walks annoys me to no end.) I had an extra ept, so I went ahead and took it, thinking since it wasn't FMU, it would be pointless anyway. It was a faint blue plus sign. You get so used to seeing negatives, that a positive takes a while to sink in and feel real. I called my GP the next morning, because I remembered reading that if you get pregnant while taking thyroid medication, you need to immediately up the dosage to maintain the pregnancy. A pregnancy test at the doctor's office showed positive right away, and the results of my blood work that came in two days later were consistent with being 4-5 weeks pregnant. (Remember, the count starts from your LMP.) All hormone levels were good.
Pregnancy over 35 can seem daunting. (I had number seven at age 40.) Get used to hearing "advanced maternal age." Doctors tend to give you all these scary statistics, and it is hard to remain positive. All you can do is the same thing a pregnant 20 year old does. Eat the good, avoid the bad, and enjoy every minute of it. Take all the joy. Even if it ends sadly, you will still have had those days or weeks of joy.