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This was my wife's and my second month TTC and we got our BFP at 11dpo/CD31. I feel like we have been TTC for three years since we found our sperm donor that long ago but didn't actually start inseminations until 2 months ago. For other lesbian couples who read this page and want the low-down on known donor at-home insemination with fresh (not frozen) sperm, here's what worked for us!

We inseminated on Cycle Days 13, 15, 16, 18, and 19 with 24-48 hours between each one. I ovulated on CD19 (later than I thought I would) and had some spotting that day. I had EWCM on CD 18 and 19 positive OPK on CD19, and ferning salvia and CD 18 and 19. (We used a little microscope used for putting a drop of your spit and looking at it - if it looks like nothing you're not fertile, if it is making a ferning pattern you are fertile. It was great because I could test unlimited times with the one thing unlike OPKs.)

This month we added in using PreSeed. My wife put some in me and we'd let it warm up to body temp for 5 minutes, then do the insemination. Our donor made his deposit into a sterile plastic cup we had bought online and had put between my boobs to warm up first. His wife (our best friend, 5 month prego!) would immediately bring the cup in to my wife (keeping it body temp between her boobs on the walk between rooms) and I'd already have my pants off and butt propped up on a couple of pillows. My wife used a sterile plastic syringe (bought in the same insemination kit online) to suck up the semen and then would feel for my cervix with one hand's fingers and put in the syringe with the other hand. (Sorry to be graphic but this is what I wished I had known that is so hard to find!) She would get the syringe close to the cervix but not directly on it and SLOWLY push it out as the nurse midwife had shown us how to do in a preconception appointment, kind of aiming to coat the cervix. I'd lay there for 15+ minutes and try to have an orgasm. Then she'd put in a soft cup (same kit again) and I'd get up and dressed. This was all done in the spare bedroom of our donor's apartment. (They live 2 hours away so we drive to them instead of them coming to us at our home. Sometimes we slept over, sometimes made the drive up and back in a night. Exhausting!) I left the cup in overnight each time.

This month I also upped my acupuncture appointments from once a week to twice a week and my acupuncturist used extra moxa. I never did BBT. I drank both FertiliTea and red raspberry leaf tea this month and didn't last month. I have been having one cup of coffee per day and taking a prenatal vitamin for 3 months (and no smoking or drinking). I also had the worst obsessing freaking out TWW our first month and this time was so much more relaxed. (I was positive I was pregnant last month and didn't think I was this month.) I used the Kindara app the first month and then this month also used Ovia and Glow. All three gave me different predictions with the same data so it helped me not to rely on one app's guess too much but also get a good sense of the range of fertile days and the range of when the peak day might be coming. Also different from last month is that we always waited at least 24 hours between inseminations (last time we did one at night, sleep over, and one in the morning before we left for work, leaving less than 12 hours in between). At the insemination on CD18 this month I told my wife I had a feeling we had just conceived.

Symptoms: Nothing out of the ordinary. Sore boobs, less so than for my typical PMS. Really little bit of nausea with breakfast on CD 10 and 11. White creamy CM and feeling bloated the last several days. No spotting since ovulation.

9dpo: Negative FRER with FMU
11dpo: I thought I had line eyes! It was so so faint (FRER) that I threw it out and told my wife it was negative, which I thought it was. (I fished it back out the next day and we saw there actually is kinda a vvvvvvfl.)
12dpo: Positive FRER!!! Faint second line with FMU. My wife casually told me she saw a faint line but she was confused because she had been seeing my faint line OPKs where a faint second line is a negative and the darkness of the line actually matters. I was like UM NO A LINE IS A LINE but kind of didn't believe it either. Took a ClearBlue digital in the afternoon that said Not Pregnant. Took two cheapo pink dye sticks in the evening that also had faint second lines (one barely visible like 11dpo FRER, one clear). I'd usually start spotting before my period around this point in my cycle.
13dpo: Peed on three brands of stick with FMU and all BFP! We called the closest people who knew we were TTC to tell them that day. The donor's first words were "I did it!" LOL
14dpo: Ran out of FRER but took the two cheapo sticks with FMU and both BFP. Darker second line each of the 4 days in a row. No AF! Hoping it sticks.

Still don't think it is real! Baby dust to all TTC. Hang in there. This is how I felt just 4 weeks ago: http://ctworkingmoms.com/2016/01/28/zero-to-sixty-ttc/ I was so sure I would have trouble TTC because of how messed up my periods used to be (they are pretty regular now for the last year but before that really irregular) and I had a "kinda PCOS" diagnosis in high school.

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Congratulations!  Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Congradulations!! So excited for you. My OBGYN has colleges that swear home inseminations do not work LOL. My wife and I did a home insemination in 2013 and had our son. I carried. Now we are tryoing for baby #2 but my wife will carry. My wife and I are TTC for 2 months now. We are thinking about adding preseed.  I would love to hear more about how you used it. 

To earth2marz: Ha! They work :) Are you in the Facebook group Lesbian Moms? Lots of DIY inseminators there and many who have been successful. I believe preseed.com has an instructional video! Each tube comes with one-time applicators so you put it in in a similar way to how you would the sperm or a tampon.

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