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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby tryingnumber3 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:10 pm

In my hospital, there is no such thing as a regular baby nursery any more. The baby stays with you and you have the bassinet with wheels to lay it down in. I was 18 when I had my first and bf from the start. All babies are just fine with the small amount of colostrum that is produced the first couple days. It is very common for babies to lose a few ounces the first week, so don't worry. It is very important to make sure you have a good latch. It takes practice. You have to aim your nipple at the top of the back of the roof of baby's mouth. Make sure baby is latched to the areola as well. Ask the lactation nurse for help. If baby is not latched correctly you will get blisters and raw nipples as I did with my first. I just pushed through it and tried and after the first week we figured it out. I was able to bf her for 18 months.
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby 1daysoon » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:13 pm

Do they nurse more often at first? I remember the latching part with dd I think this time will be easier...thanks for the advice eessh I never got blisters sounds painful I did bleed a bit at first though lanolin was my best friend lol
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby 1daysoon » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:15 pm

Were u working while breastfeeding? I'm also wondering how that part will work out not getting too worried about it yet I don't want to overwhelm myself
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby tryingnumber3 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:24 pm

With dd1 I wasnt working. With dd2 I was working and would pump at my desk with a blanket over me. I have an electric double pump, so it was easy. I'd just poor the milk into the bags and put in the freezer in the break room. Lanolin was my bff too. When mine were newborns they wanted to nurese ALL THE TIME. lol. Sometimes 30 min on one side, then 20 on the other. Maybe wait 30-40 min and want to nurse again! But that's how you get your supply established and it's a comfort thing too for baby. Mine never liked pacifiers but seemed to use me as one.
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby Mamahen » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:30 pm

Excellent BFing advice Jessica. :) Sometimes nurses who aren't really BFing savvy will give you a hard time if the baby isn't really nursing a lot immediately in the hospital. The lactation will tell you, they don't need much for a couple days. Just a bit of colostrom and some practice latching on. If you don't want to formula feed, then don't let the nurses push you into getting a bottle out by guilt tripping you. Ask for lactation to come help while you're still at the hospital so you have some tools to practice with at home!

I needed a nipple shield right away - because my aereolas and nipples were so engorged and solid that there was no way the baby could latch on. I had flat or inverted nipples. My mom did too - she was told she was unable to breastfeed because of it. They tried to me that too. But the lactation people explained that my nipples would pop out and normalize. And THEY DID. The shield gave her something to hold onto to at first. Then I used the pumps to stop the engorgement and normalize. Within a week or two (a painful, frustrating week or two), we were professional breastfeeders!

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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby 1daysoon » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:34 pm

Thanks ladies great advice...trying how do u get enough milk for before u go to work though? U know to leave for the babysitter?
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby tryingnumber3 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:43 pm

I had to try once baby and I were situated bfing, to every day maybe when baby was napping, to get in an extra pump session. Then put it in the freezer. Every single day that I could until it was time to go back from maternity leave. So by then, I had a tiny stockpile of milk. Maybe enough for a couple days. Then I would make sure I pumped at work at least once or twice and was able to have enough supply. I always did give them a can of powdered formula, just in case of emergency. But it was never needed. I really suggest a double pump. It makes it possible to multitask and get enough milk with just one pumping session. I have an avent double pump and loved it. It looks kind of like an egg, but is so quiet. i have to look in the garage for mine soon!
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby 1daysoon » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:46 pm

Wow great I'm gonna give it a try...my insurance covers some medella pumps I'm sure I saw a double pump on the list.... I'm so excited can't wait for the lo to be born already lol
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby tryingnumber3 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 7:51 pm

That's great they cover one! Yeah definitely go with a double if you can. I can't wait to bf again either! With dd2 I thought we wouldn't have any problems bfing since I had just finished bfing for 18m with her sister. But dd2 wasn't sticking out her tongue to latch right and we were having problems. I went to a bf clinic and the nurse told me about her tongue, and literally that moment she latched perfect once we fixed her tongue, and we had zero problems until she started biting me when she got older.
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby 1daysoon » Wed Dec 03, 2014 7:30 am

Haha ouch that doesn't sound like fun
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby nymeria » Sun Dec 07, 2014 2:21 am

Thank you, ladies, for sharing your stories! None of the mothers I know ever told me about these hardships/ adventures and I will definitely stalk this thread :D
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby B Michaelson » Wed Jan 14, 2015 8:55 am

Any pad suggestions? I'm not a pad type girl so I am a bit lost at what to use postpartum. There are a lot of options in the grocery store lol.
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby Luckyduck23 » Wed Jan 14, 2015 10:01 am

The cheapest thickest fluffiest pads you can find, B. Trust me , youll be so sore down there that you want the cheap thick kind, not all that "super thin, barely there!" crap. I think I used the cheap Kotex pads with dd1 and they were nice and fluffy. Stay away from "always", they HURT! I debated buying a doughnut to sit on the first 2 weeks pp with dd1, that sore coochie deal is no joke. Stick with thick! And in this case (and awkwardly so..takes a few days to get used to!) the bigger/thicker/longer aka the more you feel like you're in a diaper the comfier u will be(;
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby B Michaelson » Wed Jan 14, 2015 10:19 am

Ok thats super helpful. The hospital has thick ones but I was worried that would be too much. I bought some always but they have wings that don't stick well and I have a feeling they may drive me nuts.

My mom always used Always so I just assumed the thin ones would be ok. I will go invest in some thick cheapies lol.
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Re: What nobody told me when I was a 1st time mom

Postby Luckyduck23 » Wed Jan 14, 2015 10:26 am

Haha yea, I started with always with dd1 and they left me in tears, calling my mommy to please take me to the store again (didn't help that we were unexpectedly car-less at the time and I couldn't help myself for anything, oh those PP emotions lol) :/ I'm a pretty small person in general so that may have played a factor in how sore I was but I literally found myself debating going full on diaper status so that's def my best advice. Stick with thick, get used to the diaper feeling, learn to love it lol
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