How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

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How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 3:36 pm

Hello everyone! My name is Andrea, and I am 4w1d pregnant. I have pcos and I got my bfp on my first cycle with Femara. I have never felt so lucky in my life, but I am so nervous about these next 8 weeks. My anxiety is through the roof. Can anyone please give me some advice on how to take my mind off of the what-ifs? I know that stressing like this isn't healthy. Or maybe some of you ladies can relate and help me to feel like I'm not the only one who is feeling this way. Thank you!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby amlobo » Mon Feb 16, 2015 4:42 pm

I struggle with the same thing. I had a miscarriage last pregnancy, so I feel like the anxiety is through the roof! I remember someone telling me that worrying doesn't do anything but make you stressed - whatever will be, will be. And, I think just reminding myself of that when I get really anxious is helpful - my worrying is only causing me stress. It's so hard when you feel like you have no control over what's happening to you, and you just have to wait. But, I am trying very hard to stay positive about this pregnancy so I can "enjoy" it as much as possible. I have no magic answers, but know that you definitely aren't the only one!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 4:56 pm

Thank you for the response. I keep trying to tell myself the same thing. It's completely out of my control, and anxiety could only do harm, certainly no good. That's awesome that you had a great first ultrasound! I'll be having my first one around 6 weeks as well, thank goodness, because I don't think I could wait any longer. My first beta is this Wednesday. My Fingers are crossed that you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby tryingnumber3 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 6:36 pm

I had a mc oct 19th and 3.5 weeks later got a new bfp. It was very stressful in the beginning. Then someone told me whatever is going to happen with this baby in these first few months is already determined. There is nothing I could have done to prevent the mc and there is nothing I can do to prevent the same from happening again. Being reminded of that helped me start enjoying my pregnancy and appreciate the life growing within. I found anything you can do to take your mind off of pregnancy will help the time pass. Pick up a hobby, go out for a walk, anything really. Good luck and I hope your first tri flies by.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 6:57 pm

Thanks Jessica! Congrats on being on week 17!!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby tryingnumber3 » Mon Feb 16, 2015 7:07 pm

You're welcome! It'll be here before you know it!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Tue Feb 17, 2015 10:49 am

DUDE! I am in the saaaaaammmmme boat! I am currently 4w5d and going stir crazy. I am waiting to get my results back from my 2nd beta test, but the town I live in has pretty much shut down due to weather conditions, so that means I have to wait another day to get that...ugh. I know how frustrating it can be. I also had a mc on my last pregnancy like amlobo and TN3, but it's true...you just need to sit back and enjoy. I keep trying to tell myself, "your stomach is still flat, so enjoy that while it lasts" and "you can still fit into all of your clothes, so enjoy that too because you won't be able to much longer".

Then I keep giving myself things to look forward to in the meantime. For instance, right now I am just excited about getting my 2nd beta results back. After that, I am going to look forward to my first u/s. Basically just like a lot of short term goals/things to look forward to seem to help me out a lot.

This is my first so it is a HUGE adventure. I have started to look for workout instructors that are experience with working with pregnant women, so I can stay in shape and know I am doing exercises that are safe for the baby(ies, fx).

It really is the only thing I can think about at the moment, but I am just really trying to focus on the next point in front of me so I don't drive myself and everyone around me crazy lol, which is why I am on here ahahahahha.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Tue Feb 17, 2015 11:54 am

Cat, I'm sorry about your previous loss. I hope this pregnancy is long, happy, and healthy!! How was your first beta? You are only 3 days ahead of me. We are so close! My first beta is tomorrow and I can't wait! When is your first ultrasound?? I'm supposed to have one at about 6 weeks. This pregnancy is alllll I can think about as well!! I can go maybe 15 minutes at the most without worrying and thinking about it.

We got some snow today too, but I was hoping to get the day off, and didn't. I got to sleep in though, so that was nice!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby OCT.4me » Tue Feb 17, 2015 1:10 pm

I want to go baby to baby number one and two; I had no fear and knew nothing of blighten ovum or mc or still born. Yes I heard stories but it didn't touch my world and penetrate my confidence.

The only difference between this baby and those is my mind chooses to think negatively.

But I think we can greatly minimize our fears like others have said by challenging the negative every time we are confronted by fear. It will start to fade and confidence will grow.

Now I ignore it when it attempts to consume my thoughts, and it goes away quickly. But I still feel it has dampened the beautiful experience
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Tue Feb 17, 2015 1:32 pm

TUA - YAY we can be preggo buddies!!! So I JUST got my results of my 2nd betas back and it doubled almost exactly. Here is what mine looked like:

15dpo 4w0d - 556(which seems to be high compared to most I have seen)
17dpo 4w2d - 1111(almost exactly doubled which is what the dr told me she was looking for)

I am hoping they want to do that again this week or next week, just to break up the waiting before my 1st u/s on Friday, March 6th (I will be 7w1d). It will give me something to look forward to:) I may actually just request that they do it for my own piece of mind. Let me know how your's come out!!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Tue Feb 17, 2015 3:30 pm

That's great news! I can't wait to find out my result after tomorrow! I'll be 4w3d. Are you having lots of symptoms?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Tue Feb 17, 2015 5:10 pm

Not sure if this will help but I told my mom how anxious I was, because of my mc last month and almost a year ago, and she suggested peppermint tea. Not only does it calm nerves but it soothes the stomach. So those stomach cramps from anxiety go away and that helps me relax. It's also safe for baby according to my dr. :) Let me know if anyone else has any good ideas!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Tue Feb 17, 2015 5:26 pm

Thank you Oct.4me and Sumia. I'm so sorry that both of you have experienced losses in the past. I appreciate all of your responses more than you know!

Sumia, I happen to love peppermint, so I should really get some of that tea! Thank you for the idea. Your only 1 day ahead of me!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Tue Feb 17, 2015 5:47 pm

haha really?! Thats awesome! Pregger buddies! Have any weird symptoms? I get balance issues, and I fall often if I am not holding onto something. I think thats a weird one lol
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Tue Feb 17, 2015 6:25 pm

Yep, buddies! I'm assuming your ticker is correct, 4 weeks 3 days?

Wow, that is weird, especially this early on! I just have sore boobs and weird cramps on and off throughout the day, especially when I'm active. Nothing too painful. Very mild nausea after eating. Oh and heartburn! I say bring on all the crazy and unpleasant symptoms!!
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