How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Tue Feb 17, 2015 8:00 pm

Hey ladies! I have just had really sore boobs n I get to a point
In the night where I just can't keep my eyes open...I am just about there
Now lol. Haven't had any real nausea...yet lol, but I have been really good about taking my prenatal vitamins so hopefully it will help with the pukey feelings.

I have actually been so paranoid since my last pregnancy that I may lose it again that I stopped working out completely for the past month, but I have been doing a bunch of research n everything says that there really is not awhile lot u can do to change the outcome of anything. So tonight I started back up with a light workout and I am hoping to build from there. Nothing to crazy or straining. Feels good to move past that fear.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Tue Feb 17, 2015 10:22 pm

I agree with you cat. It is pretty hard but once I got past the day of my latest mc, it was like a relief. I am sure once I hear the heartbeat next month it will be much better :) Take it easy and do like arms or legs but not so much stomach work outs. :) I figure if this baby is fighting hard to stay in, then I am going to fight hard for it! haha!

And yep my ticket is correct. My last cycle was Jan 17th and I believe my O date was jan 31st. So that puts me at 4weeks and 3 days today!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Wed Feb 18, 2015 7:20 am

That's great Sumia! Yeah my DH keeps asking me if maybe I O'd earlier then I thought and I am farther along than I actually think I am because my hcg levels are on the high end for where I at. I do feel like I maybe farther along, but I temped, did the advanced OPKs, tracked cm soooo I am like 98% sure I O'd on Jan 28th, then I spotted from 3dpo - 7dpo, so that just makes me more sure, but I guess we will just have to wait and see when I get my first u/s.

I will be 5 weeks tomorrow, and though it is not very far along, it seems like it has taken forEVER just to get this far LOL. I agree with you Sumia, I am sure once I get past the point of where I mc'd the last time I will feel better, but I actually feel much more confident about this pregnancy than the last one.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 9:04 am

Cat maybe you have twins in there and that's why your levels are high!?

I just got back from my first beta, and they said they would call me today between 2 and 4. I can't wait!! I am searching all over the internet for what it should be at 17dpo. I'm also relatively certain about O date based on cm, and temp mostly. My OPKs were positive for over 2 WEEKS leading up to it, so I couldn't rely on those!

I should really be exercising as well! I wish it were warmer out so I could go for long walks, as I'm too nervous to do much more than that.

Oh and I scheduled appointments to get more bloodwork on Friday, and then again Monday, and then first ultrasound on March 2nd which I'm pretty sure would be 6 weeks exactly.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Wed Feb 18, 2015 12:02 pm

TUA - Twins would be the most awesome outcome EVER! But, because my 17dpo number was not higher, I don't think it is twins. I have been saying since we started trying that I really want twins...the more the merrier LOL. I am pretty small though, so I am not sure where they would even go hahaha.

Please update us when you hear back from the dr on where your levels are. I am a little jealous that you get to have your u/s before me :wink: by the time I get mine I will be 7w1d...seems like an eternity away.

I am at work right now and I have to admit, I sneak on here to put my feelings out there. No one at work knows and it is really hard to not tell anyone.

My parents are coming into town tonight and I have to figure out a way to make them not too suspicious. I can't tell them because they will tell EVERYONE and we are not wanting people to know just yet. The problem is, is that my dad and I always like to have bottle of wine together with dinner and he is going to know something is up if I say I don't feel like having any wine with him. I have 2 ideas to throw them off track:

1. take them to a thai restaurant tonight. We won't do a bottle of red if we go for thai food, but he may want to have a beer with me. (And no, I promise my dad is not an alcoholic, though I may be making it sound like he is lol :doh: )

2. tell them I have doing a contest with some friends and one of the restrictions of the contest is that you cannot drink (I am not so sure he will go for that one)

Anyone have any ideas?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 12:11 pm

Ohhh funny! Can you use lent as an excuse, if you're religious? I'm pretty sure that started today, but I could be wrong! I can't really think of anything else. That's funny though, because I'm going out with my in-laws tonight, for me and DH's birthdays, and I'm a bit worried about the same thing!!! I think if they show any suspicion, I will end up telling them, because I have zero self control.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Wed Feb 18, 2015 2:12 pm

LOL I really don't want to cave...I did the last time and the problem is, I have 6 siblings + their spouse and kids, and that kind of news will spread like a wildfire. It was terrible the last time because they told EVERYBODY and then when it didn't work out, I wanted to crawl under a rock for about a year! They were just excited so I could not be mad at them, but I would rather wait til we are a little further along.

Plus, I think it may be fun messing with them...it will drive them crazy. The other obstacle is not causing too much alarm to my 17 yr old stepson. We are waiting to tell him too, and I would rather his dad be here when we let that cat out of the bag, if you know what I mean.

Here is my other bright idea...I may pull the server to the side and tell him/her that if I order a vodka/soda to PLEASE just bring me a club soda with lime. That way I could always tell my dad I feel like having a cocktail and go that approach??? There just is nothing really that you can order that will look like a glass of wine. :doh:

I am trying to wake myself up right now because I have hit a wall today and am ready for a nap!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Wed Feb 18, 2015 2:59 pm

Aww you ladies are sooooo lucky! My dr wont see me any earlier than March 27th. I asked if I needed a blood test because everyone here seems to get one, but she said I am not "high risk" since I am 28. Makes no sense but I guess it's okay. I wont get my first appt till almost 10 weeks! It's killer haha! But I will get an u/s I think, and also to hear the heart. Thats going to be so amazing!

I like your reveal idea! I think DH and I are going to wait till easter, since its about a week away from my dr appt, and do like a little "hatching" surprise haha. We havent worked out the details yet but I think it would be so cute :)
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 3:29 pm

Cat, that is actually a brilliant idea about the drink!!

Sumia, I like where you're going with the Easter hatching idea. Very cute!! I'm sorry you're not able to see your doctor any earlier. The only reason I'm being monitored this closely is because I have pcos and I was seeing a fertility specialist who gave me Femara to get me to ovulate. It will be well worth the wait for you, I'm sure!!

I got my beta result back, and it was 767 today, at 17dpo(4w3d). I guess that's pretty good, right!? I can't wait to find out what it will be on Friday!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Wed Feb 18, 2015 4:15 pm

TUA, I am sorry, I did not mean to sound impatient, especially if you had to go through a lot to get yours. I am very happy for you and I am happy to know you and that we are so close so I will assume your betas are close to what mine are haha! I just was not to sure on the length of wait for the dr but apparently thats pretty normal so it kinda threw me. You see movies and stuff, the mom to be practically lives in the hospital lol. The time is going to come soon enough, and I got you two to update me! :) haha.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 6:28 pm

Haha, yea we can assume! You didn't sound impatient at all, don't worry about that! I am amazingly lucky at how quickly I got a bfp actually, so I'm not going to act like I've been through a whole lot. My story is, I TTC naturally for 2 cycles after getting off bcp, and realized I didn't think I was ovulating based on my 2nd cycle's chart. I've known that I have pcos since I was 15, so I was prepared for a long and difficult road ahead. But My doctor put me on Femara on my 3rd cycle TTC, which is actually extremely early for fertility intervention. but my dr. Figured, she knew the deal with pcos and how the longer I was off bc pills, the crazier my hormones would get, so she figured, why wait!? And amazingly, here I am after my first cycle of Femara, (3rd cycle TTC) and feeling like this is too good to be true! When I first called my dr. Office and told them I had a positive hpt, she said I would just schedule an appointment at around 8-10 weeks. It wasn't until I mentioned I was seeing the fertility specialist, that the plan changed. So yes, waiting longer is totally normal!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 6:30 pm

Oh and my mother in law offered me wine at dinner tonight, and I declined. No questions asked! Phew!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Wed Feb 18, 2015 7:16 pm

Phew! Although I heard if wine helps with stress relief and you are stressing a lot, its better to have the occasional wine than to stress out on the baby. Haha! I have no idea what Pcos is? My DH and I have been TTC for over a year. We were trying to do it without help, because they make it sound sooo easy! We kept failing. The only two times we did conceive and lose we didn't try really haha. This last month I charted and used an ovulation kit and to my surprise, I ovulate super early. My af lasts 7 days and if we dont get busy on the 7th or 8th day we lost the window lol! I couldn't believe it. We tried it this month and got our first sticky baby! :) My dh had low sperm count.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Thu Feb 19, 2015 5:51 am

I've heard that about wine too, but I'm just really paranoid. That's crazy how early you ovulate! So you mean right after AF finished, that's when it happens for you!? If so, I have a theory. Your lining may have been pretty thin due to super early O, and maybe that caused your previous M/C. But I could be totally wrong, who knows! I'm just so glad everything is going well for you this time!! Oh, and I've learned that low sc is so much more common than I thought.

Pcos is polycystic ovarian syndrome, and it's reallllly complicated. I don't even understand it 100% but to make a long story short, it usually causes higher than normal testosterone, really long cycles, and no ovulation. There are a million other things associated with pcos, but it would take me forever to name them all. It also increases chance of m/c so that's another reason why I'm super nervous.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Thu Feb 19, 2015 9:56 am

Hey ladies!

Sumia - my DH had low sperm count too...he got a reversal in Dec of 2013. This was our 2nd round on Femara after trying for over a year as well. Andrea - guess the Femara really works huh? lol. My doc wanted me to call as soon as I got the BFP and come in and see her because of being put on Femara. She is not seeing me again until March 6th and that is only because I pushed for it. There really is not a lot they can do. To be honest, I was kind of disappointed at my first appointment because they only told me what I already knew...I'm pregnant! and then set me up for my u/s in March. I had to ask to get my betas checked and she said she would do it for my own piece of mind, but normally she would not.

Andrea - so I was kind of stuck last night and my dad was like, "Cat, you pick the wine for both of us...I want whatever you are having". So I told him I was kind of tired and only wanted to have 1 glass, not a bottle, and he was fine with that. So I took a few sips throughout dinner and ended up throwing out half the glass. He didn't seem to notice I wasn't really drinking it. The problem now is that they are in town for the next 2 weeks. I am okay with having a few sips of wine last night, but I do NOT want to do that a whole lot. I think I am going to go with the contest idea and tell him I can't drink cause me and some friends are having a fitness contest, so no drinking lol.

I had DH on the phone in the car after I picked my mom and dad up from the airport, and I don't know if he was trying to be funny or what, but he was like, "I want to kiss your belly when I get home" :doh: . To which I replied, "WHY??? What's wrong with my mouth?" :rofl: That's why I couldn't just straight up decline the wine...they would have totally known.

Your beta levels look GREAT! Right where they should be...when you get your next results back, if they are over 1400 you should be alllll good:)
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