How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Fri Feb 20, 2015 3:57 pm

I got my 2nd beta result! 1668!! So it more than double from 767. I'm so relieved. Can't wait for my 3rd on Monday!

Cat, my weekends are never exciting. Lol. Tonight, I'm still working until probably 9pm. Every once in a while, I do date night babysitting for the family I nanny for, so I just stay until late. Then on the weekends, I work my 2nd job (I work 7 days a week). But I actually took off Sunday, and I'll be going to watch my best friends daughter at a cheerleading competition, so I'm looking forward to that. How about you??

Sumia, I've still had those cramps today, but not as much as yesterday evening. Only a couple of times today. I hope you got to relax and be lazy today. That sounds so nice. I don't know anything about the tailbone pressure. I don't think I've ever had that other than from sitting is a strange position for too long.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Fri Feb 20, 2015 7:10 pm

Andrea - That is sooooooo AWESOME!!! Yay for you! Looks like everything is coming along really well:) That will be exciting to hear how much it has gone up on Monday. That will be quite a few days in between, so it should be pretty high at that point. I am thinking I might request to get mine tested again, just for reassurance.

Sumia - I am not sure what the tailbone thing is all about, but hopefully it is not too uncomfortable. I feel like the little twinges here are there are a good thing, let's you know God is working:)

I build and refinish furniture in my spare time, so that is about all I will be doing all weekend. I am working on 2 big pieces, so it keeps my mind occupied, especially while DH is still gone. That and hopefully get a few workouts in. I laugh at myself because I used to go out all the time and be so exciting, but now I would totally rather stay home and be in my bubble lol.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Fri Feb 20, 2015 7:27 pm

Cat, thanks, I'm really excited about it! I hope the number is really high on Monday! Hopefully your doctor will do another beta if you request it. I feel like I'll never want to stop having them, since it's the most reassurance I can get at this point! Too bad my insurance would never cover it.

That's so cool that you build and refinish furniture. That sounds like a great distracting activity. I should really be doing something distracting myself, since I have a degree in art, and I never put it to any use! Now would be the time to get back into being artsy and crafty.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Sun Feb 22, 2015 7:40 am

Thanks Andrea! Yeah it really helps me to focus on something and get my creative juices flowing. I love seeing something that was old and kind of crappy turn in to something new, restored and beautiful. I am working on turning an old armoire into a bar, and an old railroad cart into some bookshelves. The other great thing about it is the return on investment is really high, so getting a nice chunk of change for something you created is a really good feeling.

Anyway, I have been feeling pretty good all weekend...I just get SO tired at night and could sleep for an eternity! I really need to get back to drinking more water...I was really slacking on that yesterday and I could kick myself because I had been drinking a gallon of water a day for over a month, and yesterday was basically NOTHING!

How was your weekend ladies? Andrea - I know you worked most of the weekend so how did that go?
Sumia - Did you just end up relaxing Friday and Saturday?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Sun Feb 22, 2015 8:15 am

I does feel great to make some money through a creative outlet. I've done some commissioned paintings in the past, and I love it! Your current projects sound really interesting!

Yesterday I worked only a couple of hours. My weekend job is ideal because it's usually 3 hours a day. I wouldn't want to work a full day on Saturday or Sunday, although sometimes they get stuck, and need me there. But yesterday was a pretty easy day, so I can't complain. We got some snow yesterday and I almost crashed my car a few times!! That was scary! but I made it home safely, and we had to cancel dinner with DH's dad and step mom. So we are going tonight instead.

I've been feeling less pregnant the past 2 days, just in that my boobs aren't as sore, and I've been less crampy. It hasn't gone away completely, but a little bit! I'm trying not to worry about it, as I've read about so many women who say they feel pregnant one day, and then not the next. So I'm hoping it's totally normal. I have been really tired at night though. Ready for bed by 8 o'clock! Oh and I need to be drinking more water too!! I have started drinking milk though, so I'm proud of that. Lol.

Oh and I have found this a bit interesting... So I'm sure you ladies have heard that an ovulation test will become positive during pregnancy, but not until after a positive hpt. So I had a ton of OPKs left over, so I've been testing every day out of curiosity to see when it would finally go positive. And after a darkening line each day, it was finally positive today. So that made me feel a little better, It took 10 days after my positive hpt for my opk to be positive. Just a little experiment.

Sumia, I guess you're back to work today. I hope you enjoyed your weekend!

I can't wait until my beta result tomorrow!!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Sun Feb 22, 2015 8:59 pm

Tua don't worry. I felt that way the past two days, worrying that maybe something is wrong because I was having like, 0 symptoms. But today, the cramping and the nausea really hit. After everything I ate, except oranges, I got sick feeling. Not super bad but enough to feel uncomfortable. So don't worry.

Yep I am at work right now actually. I might work from home tomorrow too. It's raining and I don't like driving an hour into the office when it's raining haha. I do love my job enough to let me work from home on especially hard days.

How are you ladies feeling?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 23, 2015 6:00 am

That is great that you're able to work from home! I'm sorry about the nausea, but I'm sure you're finding it reassuring! I still haven't had any nausea, infact, I've been starving all the time. I've been stuffing my face, some I'm counting on the nausea to slow me down a bit. If I keep eating at this pace, I won't be looking good!!

I've got no new symptoms to report. I find that my boobs feel much more sore by the end of end of the day. I'm still having the occasional cramping mostly on the sides. Today is my third and final beta! If it continued to double every 48 hours, it should be at least 4170. Fingers crossed!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 23, 2015 9:32 am

I unfortunately had to move back my first ultrasound. My fertility specialist's nurse saw me today, and told me that my fertility specialist (who I really don't like very much) wants to be the one to do my first two ultrasounds. She's only there on Thursdays which are so inconvenient for me!! I had my nice convenient march 2nd appointment scheduled with another doctor, but I had to change it to the 5th. More than anything I'm just annoyed that I have to wait an extra few days. But she also wants to do a follow up u/s at 8 weeks, so that's good! I'm waiting for my third beta result from today!!
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Mon Feb 23, 2015 12:06 pm

That's good. Girl my mom gave me some good advise. Don't worry to much about how much you eat. The baby wants food then give it food! You can always work off the extra weight after birth, but what's important is a healthy baby and it knows what it wants lol. Sorry the dr change on you. I hate that! I hope it won't happen to me. Why do you have to sew her? Is it cause she worked with you before and knows your file?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Mon Feb 23, 2015 2:17 pm

Hey ladies!

Sumia - that is awesome that you have the option to work from home sometimes. I WISH I had that option and I am trying to come up with good options for alternative schedules for me for after the baby is born (yes, I know it is early to be thinking of that lol), but I don't think my boss is going to give me much of an option other than full time in the office.
That is good that you are not feeling crazy sick or anything like that. A little bit here and there can actually be a little reassuring, but weird that the only thing that didn't make you feel like pukey was oranges?

Andrea - can't wait to hear what your third set of betas come back as! I keep going back and forth in my head of whether or not to do another round of betas.
My friend who is the nurse practitioner told me that if there is a doctor who you are not 100% comfortable with, you should NEVER feel bad about stating that you would rather not work with that particular doctor...no hard feelings. She said that the MOST important thing is that you like and feel comfortable with the person you are working with throughout this journey. Maybe have this first u/s with them to give them ONE more chance, but if you are still having the same feeling, ask that you work with whomever it is that you really like...just a suggestion. I know how frustrating it can be to get that first u/s appointment pushed back, which is why I didn't change mine even though DH won't be in town. I just keep telling myself that the further along I am when they do the first u/s, the more they will be able to tell me.

AFM - my boobs feel HUGE and sore! OMG! I wore a baggier shirt and an under shirt to work today because it feels like they are about to bust out of my chest!!! lol. I have been a little crampy as well, but just here and there. I can't believe I have been able to keep this from my parents since they have been here, but I still have a week and a half before they leave again.
My DH is FINALLY on his way home! Hopefully he will be there by the time I get there...I am sooooooo excited to see him. I honestly do not know how the military wives do it. 2 weeks is long enough for me:)
I had a really nice talk with my sister in law who is about 5 months along with her 2nd. She was telling me everything about what to eat, what not to eat, stay away from chemicals, etc. She must get sick of me asking so many questions.
My u/s is the day after your's Andrea, so we can compare notes lol.
Sumia - when is your first u/s?
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Mon Feb 23, 2015 2:49 pm

Hey cat! How fun to have a sister in law to open up with! I am the god parent of my best friend with her two daughters, 2 and 3 years. I was with her through both pregnancy's and even at the dr office with her during that long 6 hour diabetes test. Uhg glad that is not common in my family! I don't get my first appt with my dr till march 27th. It seems like such an eternity away! I asked if I needed to come in for blood draws or anything but they said no because I am not a high risk patient and they don't want me to worry about it. But what they don't realize is I worry anyway lol. So maybe if I get to impatient I might go to urgent care, but maybe not. As long as there is no af, then I think I am good! :) They also said that appt is going to be about an hour and half long, maybe longer. I get my first u/s, family history, heartbeat and instructions on the next steps. I'll be a day shy of 10 weeks when I go in for that appt so I should have a little bean to show you two! If you ladies get u/s pics though you gotta post them :)
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Mon Feb 23, 2015 2:51 pm

Also, some new symptoms I have been having:

1. constipated - I am pretty good about drinking water and usually I am a pretty good pooper (TMI LOL), but lately I have not been so regular and I don't like it!
2. mood swings - one minute I am in a GREAT mood, then next I am just really snappy and little things annoy me. Trying to check myself so I don't do that too much
3. bloated - this is most likely from being a little constipated, but I swear my lower stomach will not stay in! (another reason I am wearing a baggier shirt today) I was joking with my sister in law because I was saying I HAVE to be pregnant with twins cause I swear I am already showing lol.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby catdenels » Mon Feb 23, 2015 3:03 pm

Sumia - at least they are planning on paying a LOT of attention to you when you do finally go in. I am sure if you requested to do blood work or an earlier u/s they might do it, but if you are ok with waiting, that pretty much is all this is...a waiting game. That is why I keep going back and forth in my head about whether or not to request another beta test...I figure if they are happy with them, I should be good. It's one of those things, even if the beta was low, there really is not much they can do about it, I don't think.

DH and I are trying to figure out the best time to tell his son about our pregnancy. Last time we told him at 7weeks and I ended up having the mc a week later, so we definitely don't want to go through that again. I told DH I would rather wait at least until after the u/s, so we can hear a heartbeat and have the Dr tell us everything is going great before taking the next step.
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby TUA88481 » Mon Feb 23, 2015 3:15 pm

Cat, I feel bloated too!! And I've also been constipated on and off the past week. But today hasn't been a problem. Lol.

The nurse said that the fertility specialist wants to track her patients for 2 ultrasounds, so I guess I'm ok with that, but I will not need to see her after that. I'll get to start with a brand new doctor. I'm choosing my dr. Based only on the convenience of their schedule for me, so I hope I end up liking her/him?? I was hoping to see my normal gynecologist who I've been with forever, but she doesn't do OB anymore.

I hope whenever you decide to tell DH's son, it turns out to be the perfect time!! You must be so excited to see DH soon!!

Sumi, I want to agree with your mom, but the reason I really can't have that attitude is bc with pcos, my chance of gestational diabetes is wayyyy higher. So I need to be super careful. Although my mom has been the same way, trying to get me to eat ice cream all the time. Lol! I think it's great that your first appointment is going to be so thorough. I don't know when I'll have an appointment like that. I wonder if my ultrasound will just be a quick in and out, or something longer like your having!

Ok, so here are by beta results all together...
17dpo-767
19dpo-1668 (doubling time 42.83 hours)
22dpo-5701 (doubling time 40.61 hours!) :D
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Re: How to cope with the anxiety of the first trimester.

Postby Sumia » Mon Feb 23, 2015 3:42 pm

Oh tua I do not envy you through that test for diabetes. Thats like a 6 hour test with them pulling blood every hour so make sure you bring something to do or watch! Your betas look so good! I am super excited for you!!! And Yes Cat I am sure if I called I could get some beta's but like you said there isnt anything they can really do till the 9 week appt so no point in worrying over numbers till then! Were waiting till we hear the heart before we tell everyone. They say that your mc rate drops significantly once you hear the heart at the 9-10 week mark. I believe its less than 5% so maybe that would be a good time to tell the son. Sorry about the mc that late in pregnancy. Thats really rough!
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